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May 26, 04
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getting dumped.. by my FRIEND!!!!
I have this friend named Yoav. I've known him for a few years. I hadn't seen him in about 9 months and he calls me up out of the blue on mothers day. We went out for coffee and afterwards, he confessed to me that he wanted to date me and hold me and kiss me. I didn;t know what to say....
We didn;t talk for a few weeks because my life has been hectic (been sick, left my dad's house to live with my mom, coming back home etc etc) Yoav and I share a mutual friend named Brad. Brad had a party on Friday and Yoav came. It was uncomfortable because Yoav wanted an answer about where "we" were going. I have NO INTEREST in him in that way. how do you let someone down easily? It was a weird night..... we went for coffee today and he laid it on the line: he thinks we should date and have a relationship. he feels we have so much in common that its a waste to just be friends. i told him it wasn;t fair to him to do that, since i just don;t really feel that way about the two of us. and he says this: "Well... its been nice knowing you. Have a good life." "WHAT?!" "I can;t be just friends with you. I have to date you. I can;t just be your friend because I like you too much. It's not fair to me. It's just not fair to stay friends." "Um... ok?" "Good luck in life." "um... you too?" "good bye Taisa" and then he walks away WHAT THE FUCK?!?!?!?!?! i wasn't even finished my damn coffee. my friend ended our friendship. He DUMPED ME. what the hell man? not even a "see ya around" or "maybe we'll hang out sometime". "Good luck in life" WTF?!?!??! anyway, i've never been dumped by a friend before. Its rather confusing. It kind of sucks that the friendship is over. but it was his choice. honestly... who dumps a friend? 
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May 26, 04
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He will be back. This guy seems like he just wants you to feel sorry for him and suddenly realize how much your life will change without him in it. To make a long story short as Grapes said, he'll be back asking if you've suddenly changed your mind.
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May 26, 04
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haha.... i hadn;t thought of it like that..
and seeing as how he is a stoner, he probably won;t remember he never wants to see me again. my guess is he'l call me in 6 months when he's super high on acid. (its happened before)
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May 26, 04
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Oh ya, what a way to impress the girl you are "in love with". Call her up on an acid trip. He sounds like a loser if he would forget in a few months time that he has proclaimed his love for you in a coffee shop some where. I mean, if you really mean it, you don't ever forget it; stoner or not. And not wanting to see you again? Pfff *cough cough* BULLSHIT *cough cough*
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May 26, 04
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I can completely relate to the 'all or nothing' friend
it's like they want that next level, or it's nothing. That's happened to me before.. and after the guilt trip, what the fuck are you supposed to do? Be like "Okay! I'm completely uninterested in you, but let's just date to salvage the friendship!"
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May 26, 04
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May 26, 04
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Ya Id agree, its even kinda creepy and over obsessive that is has to be a 110% involvement or nothing, Id say count your blessings on it being done and over with, I acnt hadle the super needy, greedy, obsessive types...they will rarely ever make it worth your while and usually hurt you in one way or another.
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May 26, 04
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Thats so wierd I have never herad of anything like that, I wouldn't really want him as a friend after something like that what a dick, I know he was hurt because he likes you and everything but that just seems so childish - he doesn't get what he wants so he runs away ahhhh crazy ppl
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May 26, 04
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thats not cool dude....but like seriously, if you were going out with a girl who happened to have a lot of guy friends and liked going out a lot on her own, would you freak out like a possum parked in the middle of Alabama in hunting season or what?
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May 26, 04
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but that has nothing to do with what this thread is about!
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May 26, 04
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props on the similie use!
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May 26, 04
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Well, at least he was honest. Takes a lot of guts to lay it on the line like that.
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May 26, 04
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what a tool. his best bet would have been to play along with the whole "friends" thing and just wait for the perfect oppprtunity to seduce you. perhaps one night after you've had way much to drink and are passed out on the floor. if he really loved you he woulda waited.
on a less sarcastic note; i, like this guy, have been shot down by friends before. and i also contemplated taking the "all or nothing route", tho never did. see, i figured that if she was someone that i thought was good enough for me to date / have a relationship with, then why the hell wouldn't i want her as a friend too?
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May 26, 04
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hey, not every guy can be the best at dealing with their feelings for other people...
i'm sure there's something other than ourselves to blame for that! social upbringing, etc... i have no problem admitting that i am a really bad person when it comes to relationships. but i'm a nice guy otherwise. it's not as though i WANT to be bad at relationships, that's just the way it is... is it really all my fault? or any other guy's fault? maybe we had a fucked up childhood or something...
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May 26, 04
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thats harsh! sorry to hear that...thats lame of him!
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May 26, 04
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i can understand that he was hurt. and i agree that it took guts to lay it all out for me...
but holy over-reaction batman.... meh.. i guess the only reason it bugs me so much is that i've had friends that i liked but i had to accept there was no possibility of a romantic relationship. i didn;t freak out and cut off contact. I just accepted it. it sucks, but o well. and the whole "guys are fucked about relationships" is a cop out, in my opinion. but i won;t get into my opinions about relationships.... new rule for myself : don;t have guy friends that are crazier than i am.
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May 26, 04
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Of course I understand the sarcasm. But one can only wonder why guys, on the whole, have such a good reputation with the ladies. I think that what he did is a bit sudden and melodramatic... But it wouldn't've been fair for any of the [two] parties involved to keep his feelings supressed for longer. Anyway, if he comes back then it was just a crush, a misinterpretation of feelings. If that's the case then the friendship can continue, more or less, but it's better than being strangers. As long as he has the balls to admit to his 'mistake'.
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May 26, 04
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Hah! Only in Seinfeld. :D
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