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Jul 19, 04
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would you have a baby by yourself?
i've decided that if im not with anyone, or married, or dont have any great potential of marriage or what not by the time im 28-29 then im definitely gonna have a baby either way
i dont want a huge difference between me and my child so that we cant even relate whatsoever would anyone else ever do this? 
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Jul 19, 04
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Yeah, but not at that age.
I'd wait until my mid-30s...I have this feeling that since I'm such a goof I won't really have a hard time relating to my kid, so I'd wait until then just in case a good man came along. The only way I'd do it, too, is if I was making enough money that I could easily support the kid on my own. I'd also want her/him to know their dad, so I'd have to find a guy that was cool with that. My dad was so awesome and taught me things that my mom never could have, that I would definiely want my child to have that type of interaction.
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Jul 19, 04
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^^^ ya i say 28-29 but i'll have to see if im ready and if im finacially secure by then...i want to be able to completely support the baby by myself.
and i think i would want my kid knowing who his dad is as well...even if i get married to someone else down the road..that is pretty important i think it would be best to have it with one of my gay boys..(and no i wouldnt sleep with them hahaha) but at least let them be able to still have a child
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Jul 19, 04
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yes, because then i could eat it all by myself
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Jul 19, 04
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I hear people talk about this type of thing all the time IE: "by this age I want to be married and by this age I want to have kids" etc... One has to remember though that in life, you have many un-controllable external circumstances that determine a timeline for stuff like this. That's why when people ask, "so do you know when you want to get married" or whatever, I reply, when the time is right, I will get married. The same would go with having kids.
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Jul 19, 04
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I deffinately would if I felt that I was at a point in my life that I've accomplished all I've wanted to career and personal wise. If I was financially able to, and didn't look like I was getting married anytime soon, I would have/raise a child on my own but it would be with a good friend of mine.
I dont think I'd ever just choose some random, nameless, faceless sperm to create my child with.
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Jul 19, 04
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Maternal insticts are strong. Nuff said.
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Jul 19, 04
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I love kids to death! However if I continue to have a carreer with children I dont know if ill need or want kids of my own lol?
My concern about having kids on my own would be what I saw my mom go though looking after us as a single mom. I couldnt repeat what I saw her go thoguh and much rather more have kids with a companoun based on fairness to them. However one dream of mine even if I dont get married would be to adoped or be a foster parent. However I would have to be finacialy stable and able to provide my kids with every thing they need and maybe some more. So far in my life I have alot of important things I must do b4 I get married or have kids... I predict that wont be till im over 25-30... but who knows what could happen and it could be earlyer or later?
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Jul 19, 04
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i would never ever pull the lassoo move on anyone.never. like i said in one of my other posts i would probably get the sperm of one of my friends...most likely gay...so that i could also give him a chance to have a child.
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no...
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Jul 19, 04
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Thats just sneaky as hell and will fuck up more lives than just the "father". If I was ever to seek sperm from a man it would be a good friend of mine who will hopefully be in the childs life somehow (even as more of an uncle kind of thing)and sure as hell won't be tricked into being the father of a child he wasn't part of deciding on. I've had extremeley strong maternal desires for the last couple years now but I've easily managed to keep myself from getting pregnant or tricking anyone into helping me accomplish that. MOtherhood can wait untill me AND the potential father of the child are ready. I just might adopt a child as well considering how many children out there need a good home. Would anyone else consider adoption, and why or why not? Last edited by MistressSpankME; Jul 19, 04 at 06:30 AM.
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Jul 19, 04
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i will definitely adopt one of my children
why? because my mother, 3 uncles, and 2 3rd cousins were all adopted i have very strong feelings on adoption and definitely want to take in a child...and give him or her as much love as i possibly can....
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Jul 19, 04
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^awsome! I think there enough children who are in need of parents... why create more when you coudl help an other? of corse I may want to have one of my own... but the problem with adopting especialy from an other country is all the paper work and lots of $$$
I hope in the future there will be some/more finacial help for good parents who have such big hearts to help save children in less fortunit countrys.
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Jul 19, 04
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if a oopise were to happen at this point in time in my life, i can say I would have an abortion...but i wouldnt truely know my answer until i was faced with the dilemna in question.
One day, many,many,many,many,many,many,many years down the road, i plan to breed. Granting that I am able to have children which I dont think I am. And if thats the case, and I feel strongly about being a parent, i would adopt,married or single.
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Jul 19, 04
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If i am in my late thirties and i dont have a baby or husband and i still want both, i would consider having a baby, but what good is a baby without a family. Mind you, i know a lot of wonder single parents so really i would just have to weight every thing out. I may not plan on the baby being alone and all (unless i was one of those baby freak girls, which sometimes i am) but if accidently got pregenet, even over a one night stand i would keep the baby.
I would look at that as something that was ment to happen in my life and should not earase a life, esp if i am old enough and secure enough, and full of enough love to rasie it.
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Jul 19, 04
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When I'm financially sound and able to offer the child everything that it could ever want I would definately do it. I love children, I love the innocence that they have. Being able to pass on a part of myself to another living being is something I see as special. Now whether I ever have kids of my own with someone I choose to make my wife or if I'm on my own, it is definately something I'm interested in down the road.
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Jul 19, 04
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GET IN MAH BELLY
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