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Jan 04, 07
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Need advice ASAP!!!
ok say u absolutly hate your bf cuz he is the biggest jerk in the world....why the fuck do u still stay with him. Like he treats u like shit throws you downtstairs u say ur pregnant and he totally denies it but youve been with the guy for 3 years and u known him for 5 years......and for some deranged reason u stay with him.........any advice on how to get rid of this???
I introduced my frnd to this guy at a party never thought they would hit it off.... she ignored when he cheated on her and to top it off the guy is being a huge prick now but she seems to think that its just his way of showing that he cares and he is always "sorry" right after...... 
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Jan 04, 07
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yea i wish!!! i tried to get her away from him but i dont kno how anymore....i dont know how to get her to listen to me....especially when i dont even care that much about my own bf i dont kno how its like to care for someone soooo much that u take so much abuse from them....i think its bcuz he's lowered her self esteem down soo much *sigh*
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Jan 04, 07
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If you get rid of him - will you be able to get support for your baby if you choose to have it?
The only way I really see to get rid of him is to cut off all means of communication. Don't answer his calls (and if you accidentally answer one, immediately hang up so that he gets a clue), block+delete him of msn, remove every item you have in your house that reminds you of him, etc. Do a total shut down and if you can last for at least three weeks doing that - then you would have completely gotten over him. I wouldn't know this cause I'm not a girl but I heard that it's pretty hard to get over a jerk. If worse comes to worse, ask your friends and/or parents to help you get rid of him. Hopefully I gave you some ideas. Edit: I didn't notice that you were talking about your friend, so everything I said should be addressed to your friend, not you.
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Jan 04, 07
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thx :) ive been trying really hard to get himi outta her life i cut himm out of my life too...w used to be friends until i found out how horrible he treated her but now i just think she is sooo confused she has no idea wat to do anymore its like he's got her under some sort of trance basically gotten to the point where he pretty much says jump and she says how high
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Jan 04, 07
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Tough situation... the reality is though, your friend is going to do what she wants to do no matter what you say and suggest.
Now if you observe physical abuse - bruises (I mean hell, you said the dude pushed her down some stairs? WTF), etc. then you should perhaps speak with her parents and get them involved from an "intervention" point of view. Good luck.
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Jan 04, 07
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she needs to go for some self esteem counselling and get a really good therapist.
does she have any big brothers or older male cousins that wouldnt mind doing a favor?Sounds like this guy needs to be thrown down some stairs a couple times and then he`ll understand how NOT to treat women.
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Jan 05, 07
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Like the guy is abusive he is pretty big too.....actually he's huge. im so mad at him right now. i tried holding onto her fone and answerin the phone everytime buddy called which was once and a threat and when he heard my voice apologized..... i dont know what to do anymore....
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Jan 05, 07
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Jumping out of an abusive relationship (wether verbal ,physical or both) is the hardest thing to do. I've been there...Its not easy...but regardless its abuse...Alot of girls stay in it because of the security of having someone...and it becomes routine. Its especially hard when the "Im so sorry , I love you and I'll never do it again" line comes into play..how many chances can you give ya know?....But whatever the case...Its not right..and no girl deserves to be treated like a piece of shit.
Get help . Go to the police. Go to a councellor..anything..but get out of it asap..because its only going to get worse.... My cousin just got out of a marriage where the abuse sidetracked into him gambling the last of their pennies..lost the house and everything..then drugs got involved , and they both got arrested...its never a happy ending. my best wishes.
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Jan 22, 07
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Accidentally came across this link and thought it's appropriate for this thread:
http://www.facetheissue.com/abusemovie.html
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Jan 22, 07
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Make him cheat on her, seduce him yourself if you have to!!
How old is this girl?? It's not love hunny. And you shouldn't encourage pointless relationships either, dump the loser that you don't even care for, and set a good example for her. Only idiots think that the more they suffer in a relationship equates to a deeper love - grow up. Would she rather deal with an abusive boyfriend that doesn't love her, or religious parents that, may be mad at her for a while, but will eventually forgive her because they love her. If you can't tell her parents, tell your parents what's going on.
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Jan 22, 07
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seriously, theres nothing you can do, shes gonna have to leave him on her own terms when she see's fit. something will have to set her over the edge to leave him.. its just finding out wut.
it's tough for her to leave, cuz i bet anything he gives her hope that he will change and wut not. to make her happy. he probaly comes back and appologizes to her after all the bad shit went down and says hes so sorry and he loves her, blah blah blah, and she takes him back. thinkin its probably the last time he will do that shit. all you can do is be there for her, support her in her decision, and let her know in the drop of a hat you willhelp out not matter wut. she proably will leave him... when she realises she deserve more respect and so on. gotta implement it in her head that shes a great person dont need this. no one does... no man is worth being beaten over! if anything, I'd fucking take a baseball bat to his head. but thats me and i have no tolerence for that shit when it comes to my friends... dont care how huge they are... but then again im crazy... anyone thats knows me would agree... haha just reminded of wut i did to my last friend b/f :soak: but now he treats her like a fucking queen!
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Jan 23, 07
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Jan 23, 07
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Its going good now :) her parents changed their number and she's no allowed to use the phone unless someone calls her and her cell phone got cut off, there is no way for this guy to contact her. That and all her frnds dont want her to talk to this guy sooo they dont let her call him. Also we keep taking her out to keep her mind busy :)
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Feb 15, 07
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My old best friend was in a pretttty hurting relationship too. He left her several times, cheated on her, gave her mysterious bruises, etc. Now we're not friends anymore because she chose a boyfriend who will most likely break her heart again. Except now nobody will want to listen to her cry because she pushed them all away.
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Feb 15, 07
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