2nd chances

[lildonkey]

Every time you feel like getting back together with her... picture another guy fucking her and her moaning.

FUck that bitch.

Get another girl.

[yoko*]

I truly believe it is possible for people to cheat on the exact person that they love and respect. As human beings we don't behave in predictable or ideal ways, and even if it is normatively "wrong" to cheat, shit happens. For whatever reason, people fuck up even the thing they love and cherish most.

Once a cheater, one is not always a cheater. Sure, you can't take back what you did, but it doesn't mean that the cheater is inhumane and does or cannot feel genuine regret or remorse for their actions.

I agree with what ebbomega said. No one can tell you what the right thing to do is. You'll just have to weigh out the pro's and con's. But, if you do go back to this relationship, I don't doubt that things won't be the same as it was prior to her cheating on you.

Can you truly let go and forgive her for what she did, or will it just be constantly revisited during arguments and used against her? That could make for a really unhealthy relationship... So I think you should make sure that you're ready to let it go, before you move forward in a relationship with her again.

[yoko*]

Originally Posted by lildonkey

Every time you feel like getting back together with her... picture another guy fucking her and her moaning.

FUck that bitch.

Get another girl.

haha. that was so blunt it made me laugh.

[t-skywalker]

Originally Posted by yoko*

I truly believe it is possible for people to cheat on the exact person that they love and respect. As human beings we don't behave in predictable or ideal ways, and even if it is normatively "wrong" to cheat, shit happens. For whatever reason, people fuck up even the thing they love and cherish most.

Once a cheater, one is not always a cheater. Sure, you can't take back what you did, but it doesn't mean that the cheater is inhumane and does or cannot feel genuine regret or remorse for their actions.

I agree with what ebbomega said. No one can tell you what the right thing to do is. You'll just have to weigh out the pro's and con's. But, if you do go back to this relationship, I don't doubt that things won't be the same as it was prior to her cheating on you.

Can you truly let go and forgive her for what she did, or will it just be constantly revisited during arguments and used against her? That could make for a really unhealthy relationship... So I think you should make sure that you're ready to let it go, before you move forward in a relationship with her again.

its true, i know many ppl who truely love the person they are with but they like sex and its just purely sex no emotion what so ever that they desire.

it happens with male more than female..i was told because, a female can only have one baby at a time and a male (in the wild b4 time lol) has the need to plant his seed everywhere. :idea:

as for the Once a cheater, one is not always a cheater. very true yest again. i use to cheat when i was younger but as i grew older i grew out of it.... might be also be because i grew more picky and only was with ppl i could actually feel a connection with.

yoko.<<< she knows her stuff GREAT ADVICE***:D

[Only_Glory]

Originally Posted by B-rizzo

Whats everyones take on second chances? my ex cheated on me but lately we've been talking alot and shes hinted she wants to get back together and shes sorry for doing it etc, and i donno im sorta thinking maybe? Is it worth it?

I'm sorry I haven't read any other posts regarding this fact, but this situation DID happen to me after a long time relationship.
And yes she was sorry too, but fact is, I treated her like a princess and I didn't deserve that shit. She was out of my life in an instant forever.

2nd chances... I don't know, I love the concept of forgiving but cannot do it myself. She stabbed you in the back, you can find loyalty elsewhere.

I think I would leave no matter what. She would kill me at once, so I'm forever gone.

[Only_Glory]

Originally Posted by B-rizzo

I realize letting her come back would be like saying its acceptable but i donno theres a part of me that is like 'maybe she is sorry for what she did, maybe she did realize that she fucked up'

OH I BET SHE' SORRY. she just lost her world, she is sorry as fuck.
kick her in the face anyway.

[B-rizzo]

Let me be the first to say;

2nd Chances are a must, Shes not where she wants to be in my life, but the two of us have become great friends :D