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Mar 11, 07
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For those living with their significant other...
I'm 8 months into living with my boyfriend of nearly three years...
I'm finding the sex has slowed down from once every two days, to once every three days... I'm worried about it eventually becomming a weekly "segment" I'm think we've hit the slump that all couple go through... seeing eachother every day... leaving home at 6am and not coming back til 6pm... always being too tired. I'm hoping I'm not the only one to have gone through this. I really have no one to relate to. My friends are still living with parents, or living with a room-mate (non-sexual). I'm hoping to get some advice. 
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well because your are living together, sex is readily available and its looses its magic. why? well because you can do it anytime.
think back to when you first met/started dating/got serious. it was exciting, and have a lifestyle where you both work and your tired when you get home, and you just sit down and watch t.v. try something new, go to a sex shop rent "some movies". go to dinner/ect. like when you first started seeing each other. randomly try to get him horny in an unusual situation like when hes in the kitchen or something or attack him when he gets in the door, that would drive me crazy (in a good sexual way). come home after him and rush through the door saying you've been wanting him all day, try foreplay, come into the room naked and surprise him! keep it fresh!
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Anyways, I say try new stuff. Make it more exciting, because you can definately get into the same old boring routine. Get some toys. Get that whipped cream and strawberries. Chocolate. whatever floats your boat. Just add some more excitement into it because it can get routine. You're not alone! a lot of people go through this:)
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Mar 11, 07
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More blowjobs.
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Mar 11, 07
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Try spicing things up.
Outfits, different sexual things, etc. It happens. I could told you that! Lived/Enganged for about 3 years. But your not the only one who has it happen. Its normal.
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After the last two people that I've been having sex with while living together I've decided one thing...
I will never live with someone I'm sleeping with again... One of them it took me about 8 months to hang out with her again but now we're good friends...The other one I hope to be able to hang out with again someday. Only time will tell, but fingers crossed on that one...They are pretty cool people and I consider not having them in my life a pretty sad state of affairs considering how well we used to get along. Last edited by Prissypants; Mar 11, 07 at 10:30 PM.
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Mar 12, 07
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I find that after a long time in a serious relationship especially when you see that much of eachother excuses are one of the only things that stop you from having sex.
my advice? stop making excuses, stop thinking about how tired you are, or how tired you're going to be tomorrow morning and just do it because if the sex is good enough, within seconds you'll be forgetting about all of that shit. I don't believe anyone is ever truly too tired to have sex, they just think they are. It's your 20's and it's supposed to be the time in your life when you're sacrificing a good night's sleep for some good sex until the wee hours of the morning.
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Just do it!
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this is really good advice.. having a girl/guy night out a week that dont let you go out as a couple really help.
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WELCOME TO THE WORLD OF COMMON-LAW MARRIAGE <3
This is when you learn to be intimate, without needing to act like bunny rabbits every night. It's actually sometimes more fulfilling than having sex alltogether (my hubby would disagree though... i'm sure.) But it's a new level of the relationship that you've reached, and it's only normal for things to taper down a bit. however, the whole thing about being "too tired"..... that doesn't sound very good. no man is ever too tired for sex. hmmm..... you might wanna sit him down and talk to him about that.
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Mar 12, 07
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^^^ Sometimes the advice from strangers can be insiteful, as it's usually a neutral opinion having not knowing either of the parties involved.
Thanks for the advice everyone :) We have a bunch of toys/movies (I used to manage an adult movie store). I think we're both just on a bit of a slump right now... I'm sure it will pick up again. I've asked him about being too tired... well, he works in a flooring warehouse from 6:45am til 4:30pm. He's also stressing because we're about $5000 short from sending him to Uni this september, which was pretty much the whole reason we came out here in the first place. The love we have is stronger than ever. When we have sex, it's hotter than the time we did it prior. I was pretty sure this was normal, but getting a new view on something is always welcome
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I use the "I'm too tired" excuse sometimes..and I really am too tired. *shrug*
I actually say "get off of me - i'm too tired" !!! I dont have much to complain about - but who wouldnt want to have sex 3 times a day/everyday again? Your sex life is what you make it. If you want more sex, have more sex. It's really that simple.
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Things are bound to slow down in every relation ship, you pass that "honeymoon stage"
I agree with Myra, you have to stop making excuses. Make the best out of the times you do have sex, and just dont worry about the fact that you arent as much anymore> If infact you are to tired or what not, just dont have sex because you think you should or have to, because sex could become/feel like a chore.
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Mar 12, 07
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Pwincess & Lauryn - Thanks :)
Anava - Who was backpeddaling? Mekim - you were trying to be funny?
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