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Sep 07, 02
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Awwwww sweetie,.... i have no idea who you are but your thread sounds all too familiar.... Let's just put it this way, the little things are always the most important even though they dont always seem as though they are. In the end,... after a relationship is over it is always the little things you miss the most, and when things are going bad, its the little things that get to you the most becuase they the only things preventing you from being completely happy. Also when a persin does something little that hurts you often they dont notice they are doing it, and that makes it hurt even more. And the reason why it seems that the ones you love always hurt you the most is a misunderstanding. Everything they do affects you more becuase you care about them on a higer level,.... if someone you didnt care about did the same thing to you it probably wouldnt phase you because you dont give a shit what they say or do... Just chin up you'll be fine.... and if u ever need to talk pm me
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Sep 07, 02
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thanx for replyin. and your right about everything. but the thing is i TOLD him it bugs when he does what he did and not once and not twice but at least ten times and he doesnt seem to get it. he jsut says "sorry" and thats the end of that. i seriously dunto what to do. i talked to him he knows what pisses me off and what not but he keeps on doin the same things. i know this might sound stupid but whatever but the only thing i DONT wanna do is break up with him. we've been 2gether for soooo long, but still even after he puts me through so much pain and shit i still dont have to courage to break up with him. yes i'll admit it im whipped BIG TIMES, and i hate it. bleah i just duno what to say anymore this prolly not even makin sense. but thanx again :)
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Sep 07, 02
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no i totally understand.... and its so hard... I have been through the same thing soo many times,... worst of all with a guy i was easily in lvoe with who i had been with for a long time, and for some reason guys always seem to think sory changes everyhting, but it only goes so far. Remember to do what is best for you, and know that there are always other fish in the sea,.... just tell him you arent going to put up with it anymore, and that you will end things if he cant show you the respect you deserve,.... lol put your foot down,.... boy do i ever sound like a guidance councellor... lol hahahahahaha.... anyways take care,..... hopefully your beau knows how precious what he has really is
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Sep 08, 02
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GGGRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRr
can this fuken get any worse? u know what from now on im not gonna care about other people anymore no no no. from now on its all about ME and what makes ME happy. i fuken sick and tierd of caring for someone so much and have them not give a shit about me.i've had ENOUGH.
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Sep 08, 02
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it works for a little while, but imma sensitive bitch so eventually everything catches up to me.
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Sep 08, 02
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yeah u rite. i keep sayin that only to make myself feel "stronger" but inside tearin me up apart. i wanna call him and say im sorry for whatever i said and did but im NOT sorry. im not sorry that i care about him and dont want anything bad to happen to him. so if he expects me to apologizes hes gonna be growin white hairs before i do that. he needs to grow up.
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Sep 08, 02
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I don't know how much advice any of us can give without knowing the details of what's going on and none of us should know anyways. Whatever happened was between you and him.
However, there is a bit of universal advice that can be given. Couples tend to be hurt so much by little things because they've opened their trust to someone. Any betrayal of that trust, however minute, still has the same feeling as a stab in the back. If you want those feelings to go away, then you will have to close your trust off a little bit. Granted, it defeats the purpose of even having a relationship but no one said there was an easy answer for it. There has been 6,000 years of civilization and humans still haven't found an easy answer.
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Sep 08, 02
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The ones you love the most may not neccessarily hurt you the most but you take it most seriously when they do the little things that "hurt" you, even if they are unware that they are doing them, or that they hurt. Then pretty soon, your only love becomes your only hate and that's when things get messed up...
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Sep 08, 02
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It also hurts more because you usually let the people you care about get away with things because you care about them. You tend to be nicer to your friends than you are to strangers, right? But if your friend gets away with stuff that you never do, then it's not fair to you. You're putting more effort into the friendship than they are.
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Sep 09, 02
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awww sean thats a good way to look at things
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Sep 09, 02
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i understand what ur sayin and the thing is i DONT wanna be single. i know some people prefer to be free and independent but i would much rather prefer to know i have someone i can love and who can love me back. this is the longest i've ever been with anyone (almost 2 years) and i think i would be 'scared' to be single again. call me wierd but thats how i feel. but i guess things are goin a lil better. at least now hes talkin to me, cuz he wasnts doin that a few days ago. all i can do is let time work its magic whether it will be for the better or for the worse. its not a really "bad" thing that happen that got me so mad, hes jsut not listenin to what i have to say and hardly takes into consideration my point of view, and all im tryin to do is look out for him so he wont get himself in trouble. thats all. is that so wrong? and i'll stop blabbin.... NOW!
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Sep 25, 02
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I know how you feeellll!!!!...it sucks
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