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Jun 25, 07
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She's tearing me apart!
I've been with this chick for a long time. I think she is cheating on me.
Lately, she's been going out to a friends place that I don't know(apparantly his ex fucked him over). She's been very weird, and hasn't been giving it to me as much. All the sudden she's alot more secretive from me and has isolated herself from her own friends as well. This has been for going on for about a month and a half. Maybe I'm just paranoid, but maybe I'm not. WHAT DO I DO? Last edited by Speechless; Jun 25, 07 at 03:54 AM. 
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Jun 25, 07
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This post reminds me of the song that goes a little something like this;
*Ahem* It's tearin' up my heart when I'm with you But when we are apart, I feel it too And no matter what I do, I feel the pain (insert dancing and hand movements here showing your heart aches) with or without you (hey..yeah) Baby I don't understand Just why we can't be lovers Things are getting out of hand Trying too much, but baby we can't win Let it go (push both hands outwards with full force ) If you want me girl, let me know (bring hands back in with full force and close it to your chest) I am down, on my knees (go down on your knees) I can't take it anymore (place hands on top of head and just feel it ) Last edited by Guineveire; Jun 25, 07 at 04:04 AM.
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Jun 25, 07
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hope for the best, but expect the worst.
if you've been with her for a while, trust your gut, 99.99 percent of the time it wont be wrong. but most of all, get out of there as quickly as possible. iv found that in ugly situations like this, its almost always easier, better for your inner self, and simply more realistic to find someone else rather then trying over and over to 'make things right'. just my 2 cents...
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Jun 25, 07
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If she is isolating herself from you and lying about visiting people then there is obviously a loss of communication. She's either going through something personally or she has lost that higher level connection with you and is seeking attention elsewhere. This dosn't mean she is cheating but could mean she is emotionally cheating which basically just leaves your relationship on autopilot with no body home on both fronts.
Talk to her about it.
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Jun 25, 07
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you should probably say to her exactly what you said in your first post.
if she immediately gets on the defense and it causes a fight.. then she's either guilty and you should move on... or she doesn't care about how you feel since that would be expressing that you are concerned about the relationship and she should be willing to work through something like that. and in that case you should just move on too. unfortunately the only reaction that would warrant staying in the relationship at this point is if she actually sits down with you, & talks it out. truth be told, if she still wants the relationship to work she would put the effort in to ease your mind. IMO.
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Jun 25, 07
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kick her to the curb.
even if she isn't cheating on you.
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Jun 25, 07
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im sorry but im the type of person...once someone has been with someone else i cant ever touch them again. i have no sympathy for anyone who is a cheater. it means they are dishonest and they are thinking of other ppl. once a cheater always a cheater in my eyes.
dude if shes cheating on u im sorry. maybe just ask her flat out?
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Jun 25, 07
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fuck her friends first, ask questions later
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Jun 25, 07
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I probably should just kick her to the curb, but it seems like such a waste of the past 3 years of my life. I've been completely monogamus both physically and mentally. And up to this point, our bond has been nothing but growing.
I'm sorry, but I don't think I understand "woman"
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Jun 25, 07
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whats to understand?
"snatch off the rubber, wash your dick, and keep it moving"
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Jun 25, 07
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im sorry but you sound like a total tool consulting a raver msg board before your girlfriend of 3 years; with whom you share this great "growing" bond.
grab your balls and confront her. not aggressively. but just ask.
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Jun 25, 07
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i grab my balls before i do anything important...usually during as well..
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Jun 25, 07
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Quote:
well done.
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Jun 25, 07
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Quote:
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Jun 25, 07
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"You got the number, it's on you to make the call
You know I cum quick; help you re-decorate your walls Cut your backyard, don't have to act hard to get the cock And if I'm goin too far, I take it out and wipe it off and put it back up, and keep going You tryin to hide it from your husband but I know he be knowin that your pussy's been tampered with Then you show him the new trick of how you can lick it, smoke a cancer stick"
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Jun 25, 07
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I also agree with jomama and lildonkey. if shes cheating, beat her up cause she deserves it.
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Jun 25, 07
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you mean the physical beating is actually worth the effort of sombody that isn't going to get the point anyways?
i wouldn't waste my time or effort on a cheater.. besides.. if you want revenge.. instead of a good old fashion beating.. the mental slap in the face of dating sombody else always does the trick.. (sombody that's only looking for a one nighter).. and even if they don't say anything.. you know they are feeling the heartache that you are!
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Jun 25, 07
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If you can't talk to the person that you care about then you probably shouldn't be with that person.
Once lack of communication rears its ugly head, it is usually the first step on the road to ruin...
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Jun 25, 07
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let her catch you fucking some other slut :)
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Jun 25, 07
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Seriously though.
You know what the deal is, not us. You aren't asking anyone here for their opinion. You wouldn't take it if it was diffrent then your gut feeling (if you do, you're an idiot). You want confirmation of what your planning on doing, simple as that. I don't have any gratification for you. Figure this shit out on your own otherwise you won't learn jack shit.
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