SO, there's this girl.

[ppcock]

That works on a different floor, i met her a few days ago and I cannot stop thinking about her.
How do I go about doing this? We have the same circle of friends and i'm pretty deathly afraid of rejection.
but, i'm not one of those awkward guys. I'm pretty sick and tired of the whole 1 night stand and up until this week I was pretty afraid of commitement. But, with her, i would totally be into having a long term relationship.

[rawb]

PEE IN HER BUTT l

[impure]

i'd listen to rawb, that's some pretty sound advice if you ask me.

[NinjaBoy]

I wouldn't expect a serious reply from FNK...

[ebbomega]

I say hurl. If you blow chunks and she comes back she's yours. If you spew and she bolts, it was never meant to be.

[ppcock]

unfortunetely, no other people can help me out.

I'm sure someone will come along and give some advice.

[Gusto]

ok realistically what do you think would happen if you asked her out? we can't be much help without knowing what she thinks about you.

[ppcock]

I have a problem with self-confidence, so i havent really found out.

I have one of her friends doing some investigatory journalism to help me out.

[Pussy*Kat]

Can you guys take your break at the same time. Maybe invite her out for food?

That way you can feel out the situation in a casual setting. Simple lunch isnt to intimidating. Its casual enough to feel out if shes into you (now read that carefully Marty, I said feel OUT not UP **disclaimer incase you read what you want and not what is actually written down**)

I suggest get the ball rolling in a chilled out setting that way no pressure sitting on either one of you and noone feels uncomfortable.

[ebbomega]

Dude, you want pointers on how to flirt or something?

Are the words "Wanna go out for dinner sometime?" lacking from your vocab? I realize that's a bit of a stretch from your typical approach ("Ever have your asshole licked by a fat man in an overcoat?") but you just might avoid scaring her away with that one.

[Pussy*Kat]

^ As he said above that he lacks the self confidence to ask her out. <3


Which is reasonable. Girls are scary sometimes.

[SEAN!]

yo, honestly the best way to do it is when you wake up on wednesday instead of pouring milk in yo cornflakes pour vodka, atleast a mickeys worth. then walk into your office drunk as fuck and smelling like a homeless person. walk up to the girls desk and be say this... 'yo shortay, you bangin hot, i wanna love you up like bobby and whitney before they started puffin rock.'

the downside is youll definitely loose your job and you might even catch a criminal charge.

[inside]

Stop being a pussy and ask her out. How old are you man? This sounds like stupid grade 8 shit.

[Revolver]

marty, dont be so hardon yourself man.

dont be all like 'hey you wanna go out' and then like overwhelm her with emotion and crap..

just be like "hey, im going to this place wanna come" or 'hey, im going to grab some food/coffe/pornography.....wanna come"

thing is, use the 'im going' part. thats key....keeps it nice and breezy and will give you a good opprotunity to suss out wethere or not there is potenitial without completely putting your heart out on the chopping block.

i like the peeing in her but thing though......except when you ask to do that...DONT SAY BUTT....say pooper, ladies like that alot moar

[Pussy*Kat]

Inside, sometimes I think youre a fucking moron. Its not that easy for some people. He even stated that about 4 posts up for yours.

Marty just wants some constructive advice, telling him hes a pussy after clearly stating he lacked the self confidence to ask this girl out is disgustingly insensative. Give your head a shake.

[inside]

i'm going to pee in your butt. Will that work?

[ebbomega]

Originally Posted by Pussy*Kat

^ As he said above that he lacks the self confidence to ask her out. <3


Which is reasonable. Girls are scary sometimes.

Only way to get past that confidence issue is to fake it. Eventually the bravado becomes actual confidence.

[Pussy*Kat]

^ Fair Enough :)

[inside]

Originally Posted by Pussy*Kat

Inside, sometimes I think youre a fucking moron. Its not that easy for some people. He even stated that about 4 posts up for yours.

Marty just wants some constructive advice, telling him hes a pussy after clearly stating he lacked the self confidence to ask this girl out is disgustingly insensative. Give your head a shake.

Now you know the truth.
As far as I know Marty, the guy is pretty quick with his words. He should have no problems talking to any women, staight up. Somtimes I fell people need a kick in the ass to get going.

This is my new haircut!

nice edit;)

[Revolver]

you should email her this...but like, make sure she knows that YOU wanna do it in her but and not some gay southpark character..

but really....

"hay, im going to go watch this movie...you wanna come with me?"

"oh hay, im going to see this show on saturday, do you wanna come with?"


"oh hay, im getting my tattoo inked and wanted to grab some lunch after...wanna come?"

"oh hay, you wanna do it in my but in my but?"

[rawb]

1) TAKE OF YOUR SHIRT
2) LAY DOWN A COLD RIDDIM
3) PRACTICE YOUR MAN BOOTY POP AND YOUR JAMAICAN ACCENT

[ppcock]

thanks for the advice folks.. I will deff. go with kat and Johns suggestions.

I just dont want to put her into an awkward situation.
How should I go about trying to get in contact her? I dont want to add her to facebook or just search her name in our e-mail list.
I dont want to come off as a creepy weirdo. (she'll find that out later)
should I ask her friend for her number? I can't say that we spend a lot of alone time together and quite frankly, when we go downstairs for smokes, there's usually a ton of people there too making any sort of an attempt at having a private conversation useless.

[ebbomega]

Oh yeah. And here's a big one that so many uncomfortable guys succumb to:

FLIRT FOR THE LOVE OF GOD.

It can be pretty detrimental to your purposes if you go to ask out a chick and you're not even blipping on her sexual-interest radar. Seen too many guys crash and burn because they ask out a chick at point blank range and she had absolutely no clue or indication that he was into her, probably hadn't even considered the prospect. When faced with a prompting like that she doesn't really have any choice except to say no.

[rawb]

HONESTLY THOUGH STOP GOING THROUGH HER FRIEND, THAT MAKES YOU LOOK LIKE A PUSSY l

[ebbomega]

Originally Posted by ppcock

thanks for the advice folks.. I will deff. go with kat and Johns suggestions.

I just dont want to put her into an awkward situation.
How should I go about trying to get in contact her? I dont want to add her to facebook or just search her name in our e-mail list.
I dont want to come off as a creepy weirdo. (she'll find that out later)

Figure out when her breaks are, schedule yours appropriately, casually "bump in" to her in the smoke pit, strike up conversation, move it to sushi, offer that you know a great sushi place and ask her if she'd like to go sometime.

should I ask her friend for her number? I can't say that we spend a lot of alone time together and quite frankly, when we go downstairs for smokes, there's usually a ton of people there too making any sort of an attempt at having a private conversation useless.

dating by proxy = bad idea

you shouldn't have her number unless she herself gave it to you. Randomly calling her because someone gave you her number can be misconstrued as creepy.

You could start it light... ask for an e-mail/msn addy... that's work-appropriate and then you can have private conversation with her online in order to get yourself to asking for her number....