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Jan 20, 03
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Drop those 90% of friends. How many of them would actually go out on a limb to help you out. I doubt very many.
Keep life simplified. Those who are not trustworthy, should not be trusted, it's just that simple. Surround yourself with those who can be trusted and if you can't. You should look inside yourself to see if you're the problem.(No offense meant jovi.) 
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Jan 20, 03
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jovz i know what you're talking about. seriously in my life right now ive met just a handful of "true friends" and they are all have an expiry date on them. when they expiry as a true friend they're just bitches and traitors. ?!.. thats a lil harsh. ive learned to be dependent on myself more and not NEED every single one of my friends to survive. i actually purposly lost contact with a few ppl, cuz i know they're not helping me in any way.... influences me to be someone i know im not. BUH BYE...thats all i did. okay im blabing along right now..aaaaahhhhh friends are fun.. aquintances are even more fun. ackz..im such a bubbly person.
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Jan 20, 03
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I did the same thing, decided that I didn't need so many casual acquaintances I cared not for. Usually when the shit hits the fan, a lot of these 'friends' leave, it's then that you see who your real friends are.
Haven't gone back since, now I know the friends that I have wouldn't leave me for a mediocre cause.
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Jan 20, 03
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so they've been CUT! Glad to know some one knows wut I'm saying.. yickes!
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Jan 21, 03
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I don't see you much but I consider you one of my good friends and you know I'd do anything (within reason heehee) for you if you needed it .
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Jan 22, 03
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"I'm just pissed cause.. the people I consider friends.. like true friends.. I dont think think the same way which hurts.. let alone.. if I do consider some one a good friend..I would do a lot for them and have.. but I get/got nothing.. not even a thanx you which I would appreciate soo much...."
you think its yer friends and not yerself? you think maybe you've changed...and these certain friends just havent changed with you, or that you've changed so fast, that they're still the same old people thinking yer still the same old j'nette when in fact you've now become someone different who they havent had a chance to get used to!?! have you put yerself in their shoes? have you taken a good look at yerself lately? are you the same person you were three months ago? if you honestly...deep down think that you are the same person...then maybe your friends have changed...and maybe YOU need to get used to their new changes...if you cant...then why even bother trying?!? if you dont think you are the same person....then why let everyone go thats pissing you off...why not give some of them a chance to get to know you again rather then dropping or replacing them?
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Jan 22, 03
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^what are you talking about?!?!?!
you tooooootaly are not on the same page as me here.. who said I was replacing anyone.. who said anything about change.. who said i was basically blaming this all on my friends? what the hell are you talking about?
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Jan 22, 03
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fuck it then.
whatever. it made no sense really anyways, so i guess i was just reading it a completely different way even though my response STILL makes sense even if yer dropping THEM like flies but i dont think yer reading it right... so fuck it all.
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Jan 22, 03
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Jan 22, 03
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Stabby thinks these 'friend issues' just got a lot bigger due to what appears to be a case of miscommunication... I suggest you girls take sometime off the board and discuss this in person because it's obvious one or two of the parties here are upset with this thread.
Although it may appear kinda cold for Jovi to post this on a forum where most her 'friends' post, it probably would of been better sent out as a message to those on her list... It makes those that think they are friends of Jovi, hurt when they don't make the cut. Although I would argue on how deeply you should care about casual acquaintances you barely see at all...
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Jan 22, 03
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I know what your saying Leslie..
Though I clearly stated in the thread that this was GENERAL.. in other words not about one person.. but as for those thatwere cut.. its not like I cut them outta my life.. like if I see them I will say hi and shit.. but just no need to have strings attached to them laying around when I dont need them.. I think I'm making sense..
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Jan 22, 03
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You must realize that no matter what you say, when it comes to 'cutting' people from your contact list or something, even if you carefully choose what you say... someone is going to become offended.
Here are some excuses in case people ask: "I need more space on my computer" "I'm gay" (it always works!) "I had to reinstall ICQ and lost everyone on my list" "LOOK A DIVERSION!!" "Is that a penis in your pocket?" Well maybe some of those aren't useful but still... Most people are pretty sneaking with cutting off communication and do not feel the need to make it a public notice... that's just asking for trouble.
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