|
|||||||
| Mind and Body Ask for advice or offer some. Keep it work safe clean. |
 |
|
|
LinkBack | Topic Tools | Rate Topic |
Jun 17, 03
|
|||
|
|||
|
anyone else have bad social habits?
holy crap im a tool... past few months ive devloped into a really anti-social kind of person.. im disliking meeting new ppl, disliking listening to immature ppl, disliking bubbly atmospheres.... which is totally not me. suddenly ive grown a love for alone time...and i like to keep it that way. when im not alone i have a very short list of ppl i can stand being around...and the list changes everyday... i have very little trust in ppl... and i feel like a hassle and an annoyance all the time. just hitting the time where i rather be alone than be around ppl.... strange.. some ppl make me feel comfortable while some just want to know me too much and gets me all self concious. i hope i get outta this by the summer. oh ive also devloped into a ms.sell out... because ppl dont understand i rather be alone, have priorities and im also lazy. ppl called me bubbly before... now i rather be hiding in the back.... the only way for me to be all socially and carefree is alchy..saddd.
i think i have the whole package of bad social habits.. HEY but on the net i can type away and get completely carried away, like right now. internet junkie wut wut. soooo to open this up so its not just be blabbing...you got any bad social habits? even like interupting, chatty, rumourycenter , of attention, too bubbly....etc? 
|
|
Jun 17, 03
|
|||
|
|||
|
being too blunt, especially to strangers that aren't used to people with my personality...it comes off as bitchy and mean
i'm not so bad anymore, it used to be a lot worse i'm a control freak..i like things done my way and sometimes i get bitchy if i don't like the way other people want things done i can get really snobby but it's hard not to when you're surrounded by richmond trash
|
|
Jun 17, 03
|
|||
|
|||
|
I've been in that stage for a long time. There's only 2 people I hang out with on a regular basis, and it's usually doing something like working out or watching a movie. I never just "hang out" anymore.
Of course, there are other people who I will tag along with occasionally, but that's the thing, I just tag along. I'm usually not included in the conversation because I don't hang around them alot and they end up talking about stuff that they did together. I'm good friends with them of course, known them for years... Also, I'm wary of new people. I just flat out won't trust them until they can prove it to me. I can usually find something to nit-pick about a person, and then once I do, that certain feature just gets more and more irritating and I end up remembering that feature everytime I meet that person again. Forums are a good way to reach out. I find myself chatting it up with various people whom I have met through forums. Also poweridling on IRC, you can find lots of crazy shits on there... Time alone is time well spent.
|
|
Jun 17, 03
|
|||
|
|||
|
Quote:
greatos...kelster called me trash. GO EGO BOOST GO! Last edited by bebu*funfun; Jun 17, 03 at 11:14 PM.
|
|
Jun 18, 03
|
|||
|
|||
|
Im sorta shy i guess at first it just takes me a bit to come outta my shell, ppl sometimes mistake it as being rude, or snobby. Im not a snob!
|
|
Jun 18, 03
|
|||
|
|||
|
i go into phases or seeing people a lot then not seeing them for a while..cuz after i go out a lot..i need at least a week or 2 to myself..but sometimes when i go into isolation..people just get so mad cuz when i don't want people to reach me, they won't be able to..and yes..in the isolation phase...i'm such a sell out..
i'm usually too trusting with people..that's a bad thing..so many things go wrong from there.. oh and another bad thing is that i laugh at a lot..and usually people have no clue why i'm laughing because it's not funny to them but it is to me..and when i explain it..it just sounds stupid..so they either find me rude or really weird..really weird is ok with me..but i don't wanna come off as rude~
|
|
Jun 18, 03
|
|||
|
|||
|
Bev... I think your doing the same thing I did about a year ago.. you went from being a social butterfly with 20 different groups of friends to an introvert with maybe 1 or 2 groups of close friends. Nothing wrong with that, I just chill with my two buddies who I happen to share the same interests with.. It seems the more friends you've got, the more headaches you get.. Just remember one thing though, the people you do value in your life, keep in your life..
|
|
Jun 18, 03
|
|||
|
|||
|
I hate people too, bev im finding the same thing, jsut getting sick of the usual people and their obsessions with the stupid events that happen in their lives, making everyhting a big deal.... I think its just that time of year, plus u know everyone is leaving soon and u are evaluating who you would like to keep in touch with...
But the long and short of it is that people suck and thats why i wanna be a vet... lol i wouldnt trsut myself operating on a bitchy person
|
|
Jun 18, 03
|
|||
|
|||
|
so many of you are replying with 'i hate people' 'people suck'
you don't hate people they don't suck either your bad social habit is that you think you're cooler then everybody else you've got shit self confidence and you're trying to cover it with a played out attitude
|
|
Jun 18, 03
|
|||
|
|||
|
an alligator cries a single tear in the forest.
no-one knows why.
|
|
Jun 18, 03
|
|||
|
|||
|
first of all, i think edit_out is on drugs
second, i sorta agree with kelster....a lot of people arnt themselves yet..so your starting to realize that people you had stuff in common with at one time you dont anymore because you are starting to realize your real identity. its a good thing i guarantee if you are yourself you will be so much happier in life.....you will attract the right people for you...sorry, i went of on a tangent there, but im just very content with life right now:)
|
|
Jun 18, 03
|
|||
|
|||
|
Quote:
but with new people i just laugh.. randomly.. i dunno. sometimes i'm just nervous, and sometimes i just have a dif sense of humour from some people. after a while people get used to the laughing, it' sjust me. and when i stop laughing sometimes people start to think somethings wrong, or i'm upset.. and it's nanoying!! sometimes i just don't want to laugh. i've been going through the same sorta hermitting thing bev. the only person i ever really see on a regular basis is john. with leaving highschool, you kinda wonder who you'll keep in touch with and all. i know for me, thatll be basically no one. we've all grown apart through this last half of the year, and that's how things went. i guess in a way it was better because now it's not such a shock of not seeing/talking to people like i used to. it's more of a slow process. i wouldn't m ind keeping in touch wit a few people, but it's become apparent they don't care toomuch if i do or not, so what's the point. anyways, i'm rambling.. enough of that :P
|
|
Jun 18, 03
|
|||
|
|||
|
Quote:
except i am cooler then everyone else, and i'm pretty sure that it isn't a lack in self confidence which makes me feel that way. cuz every mufucka be knowin' sean gots it going on!! at the same time i don't hate people...i like em, i just think some people are fuckin stupid. but when your as cool as me you're allowed to be a bit of an elitest. Last edited by SEAN!; Jun 18, 03 at 01:18 PM.
|
|
Jun 18, 03
|
|||
|
|||
|
the spotted leopard slinks past.
he is guilty.
|
|
Jun 18, 03
|
|||
|
|||
|
Bev you know I am the same way. I only talk with really one person now and that one person is the only person i actually trust in a sense as well. She is likewise the same way as that of myself.
I don't really hate people, but I just can't socialize and be around people the way I used to be. Plus I sit there and just not talk and I feel really paranoid about people these days, though that could be due to the anti-drug phase again. I just see it as why should I go out of my way to socialize with people when I am happy just the way things are. I have found some peace within and overall I am happier. Though when I do go out which is quite rare I still act strangely different now. People change rite
|
|
Jun 18, 03
|
|||
|
|||
|
i have problems socializing with people and meeting people because i'm pretty withdrawn..
most of the time it's because i just don't know what to say because i worry too much about what other people think. I don't think i have anything worthwhile to say that people want to hear about. i sometimes take my friendships for granted, well not for granted but i don't always realize how loved i am by my friends so i may act as if i don't care as much about them as they do about me. i have no self confidence what so ever, i don't like attention drawn to me at all. i feel threatened when i go out in public. It makes me feel like shit when i see pretty girls. i know this is all really stupid and pathetic of me to think but hopefully soon i'll be able to fix it. I've been reading about A.D.D because 2 years ago i was told by a specialist that i have it and all of these things are results from it. So now i've found the source ... all i need is help
|
|
Jun 19, 03
|
|||
|
|||
|
oh i do
there are 3 that i can call truely loyal.. they compliment me and encourage me to the ends of the earth..but it's a matter that hasn't anything to do with friends. It has to do with me and my own brain...and maybe some therapy.. heheh.. =oP
|
|
Jun 19, 03
|
|||
|
|||
|
i find this more so happens with my family and close friends - if you spend too much time with people and you see\know all there sides it can get scarey... but witht eh general public, hell i love to be out there in it. people are insanely entertaining i could sit with my sketchbook and work for hours in the middle of a busy sidewalk.
alone time is a neccesity. i never block people out - thats a lie. i did once but i was figuring something out for myself and it was a ruff process. all the friends ive grown apart from i dont hate - i respect that they are different then me now\always were. there are about three people that i cant imagine myself right now excluding from anything in my life, and i dont mind that. as for my socail skills, i like em. other people seem to like them. sometimes though we need an awakening of what we have... i got really angry and blew up at a situation, then i almost lost the dearest person to me... for me it took a blow like someone in icu to wake me up. i do know that i tend to cherish the closest people too much, i give and give and dont always receive and then i get grumpy which is kinda bad. and my definition of trust seems to be different then others.. hey look guys i wrote a novel!
|
|
Jun 19, 03
|
|||
|
|||
|
I get nervous making the first move to talk to people. I can never get up the nerve to introduce myself to someone. I just never know what to say to people and I'm afraid of making an total ass of myself.
My friends often warn me when i'm giving off the bitch vibe and half the time I'm not even aware that I'm doing anything wrong. Needless to say, it's something I'm working on.
|
