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Jun 21, 03
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Something Wrong....
Is there something wrong with quiet guys? I mean really...
K, so i'm shy and quiet, but is that really a big turnoff? the last few people I have gone out with absolutly hated my quietness.... I dunno...maybe I just dont meet the right gals? SHY GUYS NEED LOVING TO YA KNOW!!!! *sigh* 
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Jun 21, 03
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well... i could go on for hours telling you what your problems are... but i don't know how much insight i have to offer to you. i'm naturally a quiet guy, used to be shy but i got over it somehow (drugs help)... all i know is that i can yap my ass of with specific women... but some girls i just find myself with nothing to say to them... you just gotta shop around i guess.......
maybe you should ask yoko* about communication barriers... she sure gave me a mouthful about them.........
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Jun 22, 03
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I used to be really quiet and shy so I can understand where you're coming from. If you look at it from their point of view it's kinda frustrating... I mean if you never talk... never wanna go out and do stuff... never wanna meet new people. Sorta get the point? Course meeting new people and striking up conversations can be really hard. My guess is you just really need to work on your self confidence. Being outgoing and able to talk to people has some definet advantages and can open up a lot more doors that being nice shy and quiet as I've learned over the last couple years especially. My advice is pick up a self-help book on how to be more outgoing. There's nothing wrong with being shy but it can hinder things in life.
Just my $0.02
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Jun 23, 03
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You woulnd't normally copliment me like that, but nice try trying to save yourself from looking like a jerk.
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Jun 23, 03
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Jun 23, 03
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yea so since you know all about communication barriers (ms. i have so much relationship experience :toasted:), maybe you would be kind enough to offer this poor boy some advice! maybe you could just tell him all about me, and he'll straighten right up!
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Jun 23, 03
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From what I see in this thread, you started it. Get over it because after like 10, 000 threads of bickering about her/your relationship it just looks psychotic, and not in a cute or laughable way. or find somewhere else to air out your dirty laundry
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Jun 23, 03
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I love guys when they are quiet or shy. It just makes you work harder to get to know em! hehe I like quiet guys because you can rape em,and they dont say much lol! I dunno something about a cute quiet guy is soo sexy! roowl Quin! bring on the sexy!
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Jun 23, 03
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you know what? fuck you! next time if you got a problem with what i have to say, try reading it over more than once and forget about who i am or who you think i am. and just read it. cuz normally my words won't go any deeper than what's infront of you. like right now, you're probably thinkin' i'm getting all agro and shit on you. but if i read this shit out loud (which i'm doing), it's totally monotone, i'm not putting any emotion or emphasis into anything i'm saying. so just chill out, aiite. no hard feelings, but keep your judgements of me to yourself. this isn't the place for it. PLUR
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Jun 23, 03
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Cerah used to be shy?!?
I have the same problem, after years of being laughed at by my friends if I had anything even slightly intelligent to say.. I've learned to keep my mouth shut. However, I'm slowlybecoming more open and outgoing. And when it comes down to a relationship I can talk to the person quite well once I get comfortable with them. In your case, the girl may just be frustrated that you are shy with her, both mentally and physically, that you huddle in the corner by yourself when you go out together, aren't receptive or welcoming toany friends she introduces to you etc. Not being able to communicate with a person, or get physical when the time is right, or not get to know the other people they care for in their lives, can sure as hel put up some barriers in a relationship. If that stuff is happening, that may be the reason. There is a difference between being quite or slightly shy, and being overly shy or anxious and anti-social.
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Jun 23, 03
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...nor is this the place for dirty laundry :)
I've met her twice, I've met you once. I'm not taking sides, I'm just going from what I've observed. I'm sure you're an okay guy and all..but if I had an ex pulling this kind of shit on messageboards and trying to constantly start arguments or mentioning things about me I'd be pretty creeped out. If you two have issues with eachother, that's great! Work them out somewhere else cos here sure ain't the place.
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Jun 23, 03
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one thing i can say about being shy though...
GET OVER IT AS EARLY IN YOUR LIFE AS POSSIBLE. because even if you finally get over it when you're like 18-20, you might have forgotten how to talk alltogether. you'll be confident enough to say something, but you won't have anything to say because you were always too afraid to converse with others. just because you talk to yourself, doesn't mean you'll have something to say to someone else.
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Jun 23, 03
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talking is like riding a bike.
you CAN forget how to do it! especially with all the substance abuse in today's society... i'm not afraid to admit that i've forgotten how to ride a bike, and, even though i've gotten over my shyness, i have trouble thinking of things to say to people...
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Jun 25, 03
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you don't you guys just stop fighting and make out already
but yeah, i have the same problem.. i'm quiet.. if i have somethjing to say then i say it but i never have anything to say. I geuss i'm shy too though...it sucks cause it's hard meeting new people.. but i geuss i'm lucky because i've found and am with somebody who i'm completely comfortable with, so as of now i don't have to worry about it too much. =o) btw... one of my girlfriends absolutely adores shy guys
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Jun 25, 03
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im with a guy whose really quiet and shy like that......
it can be very hard at times, cause i dont like to be the only one talking all the time, and i find it hard to tell him things that i feel, cause i hardly ever hear anything about what he feels. but then, i used to have a major problem with being shy, it got to the point where i couldnt even say hi. my advice is do activities together where you dont really need to talk ex: a movie. also, try and find someone who has the same interests as you so that you wont find it hard to find something to talk about.
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