I think im in love with someone else

[BabyBlaze]

so here's the deal...ive been going out with my bf for just over a year now and well i think the 'spark' is gone...i still really love him and dont wanna lose him...but ive been talking to a good friend of mine that i havent seen in at least a year and a half...and well we both have feelings for eachother...i havent gone to see him yet and i dont know if i should...i want to go see him just to clarify my feelings (or confuse me more?) what should i do??? i think the only way i will be able to tell if we really have something is if i go and find out...but what if i dont and i ruin everything with my bf...this sounds really bad...im a good person and i would never want to hurt anyone especially my bf......but ??????????

[Doctor Nick]

If you're allready thinking about it, it's too late.

Sooner or later.

Trust me.

[mojo]

ya, no shit^

go meet this dude.

and when its all said and done, who's feelings are you most oncerned about.hopefully ur own.

[-stinkay-]

make yourself happy....youre too young to mess up on one relationship....experience others, experience yourself~

[Pegasus]

if i was you, i'd go meet the guy, but don't go too far if ya know what i mean...
if this is the guy you really want, then break up with the bf.

good luck :)

[decypher]

alright well u have to think this situation over well, before u make any drastic decisions.. on one side u have the guy that u say u have lost a spark with, but u love him, and this new and exciting other guy on the other side.. ur young and in a relationship, how long has it been? maybe u haven't experienced a long term relationship before, and even though u love this guy u feel there is no spark anymore.. this could be because u are spending alot of time together, and dont do anything fun anymore... i suggest to take some time to yourself, and do something for youself over the next week.. then hang out with ur boyfriend again, but this time plan something fun, like go out for dinner and do something... try things to make ur relationship better, because u may just be entering a new stage of ur relationship where the initial crazyness of love has warn thin, so u need to space out ur time together, do other things in ur life and then if u have tried alot and realize that when u ARE away from him that u dont really miss him etc etc.. it may be time to talk to the other guy more... cuz if u just make a quick decision get to know this other guy better, but then realize u actually still love ur old boyfriend because u haven't seen him in awhile.. this could totally screw things up for you... just some thoughts,,, good luck!!

[(val)Liam]

do realize too that if you get involved with this other guy, how long will that last? make sure you aren't going to blow a long term relationship on a short term infatuation...

[decypher]

^^ man thats what i was trying to say, except u said it in way less typing haha,

[(val)Liam]

^^^ we must have posted at the same time too, because I didn't see your post there when I posted

[hardstylin]

another evil girl.

bah!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! !!!!!!!!!

[ebbomega]

Well, here's a hint: Grass is always greener on the other side.

Just double check whether or not you're falling for the person or a fantasy image of the person. Because there is an exceptional difference.

[Flip]

Alright Babyblaze, all I need is a duck, some jelly beans, a football and some cabbage and 5 minutes of your time, and I'll make you forget all about both of them. I may be little, but I bite!

[No trace]

dont do it, you'll regret it
your just at the comfortable stage in your realtionship, just mix things up and you'll see.

[Hot Karl]

BANG'M BOTH. and since it's xmas....DOUBLE DA GIFTS.

[junglequeen]

" our love was comfortable and so broken in....i loved you, grey sweatpants, no make up - so perfect"
John Mayer

sparkless doesnt mean any less love - but people are never happy with what they have
listen to your heart
you may not do the right thing but it will be right for the moment

[.muffy.]

^ i love that song

[Jingles]

You can't have your cake and eat it too...isn't that what they say? You plan on going to see another guy - and if there is a spark you'll dump the one you're with

You think staying with this guy til someone better comes along is what real love is all about? Real love is about treating your partner with respect, and if you love him and don't want to be with him - then let him go. Keeping him around just to see if you can make it with someone else isn't cool.

The 'spark' fades in every relationship - that doesn't mean a thing...do you sometimes still want to rip his clothes off ? Do you still want to be with him? 6 months from now if nothing changed and you were still with your current boyfriend would you be happy? Honestly - it sounds like you don't want to be with him anymore if you would even consider looking into something with someone else.

[sweet~kandy]

I think that you should stay with your current bf, The *spark* may be dull but you should try and find things to brighten it back up. Dont throw away what you have now, if you honestly have strong feelings about this new guy then I guess you should go with you feelings. Buts its a hard decision.

When in a relationship and things go wrong , try to fix them before they get worse.

[tufflove]

yea have ur cake an eat it to comes to mind,
i know someone liek that
haha

[dj4mula]

Originally posted by No trace
dont do it, you'll regret it
your just at the comfortable stage in your realtionship, just mix things up and you'll see.

Agreed.

[stephen_c]

consult a psychic.
they know everything. :kam:

[mugsy]

hmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm if thoughts of leaving your man come around.... usually it means its time to sit down and think about your feelings towards him. spark is gone? what kind of spark? is the honeymoon over?
but alas i am stubborn, and if thoughts of being with other men\leaving my man came into my head i would think that i was giving him the respect he deserved. im sure i wouldnt be this rash, but i would definately sit down and analyze my thought. and dont think of it as throwing away a long term relationship for what may or may not be another one.... kinda sounds like you need a general boyfriend, not a boy specifically.
best of luck, merry wishes.

[Bogdan21]

people always want what they don't/can't have...just my opinion

[NeVeRLooKBacK]

Originally posted by Bogdan21
people always want what they don't/can't have...just my opinion

no kidding

[NeVeRLooKBacK]

^^but hey thats the way people are
cant really help that