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Apr 12, 04
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to call or not to call....
this is gonna sound really stupid and 12 year old like..but its been on my mind for the past month.
yes.. there was an ex-significant other in my life earlier on, and yes things kinda crumbled disgustingly... and since then we haven' talked. every single "ex" in my life ive kept in contact with or become even better friends with.. but not this time. it just bothers me how one second he meant the world to me..and now it seems like he took a part of me..and gone.. long gone. ok..as the internet geek i rather just loosen the tension up by talkin to him on msn or something.. hmmm i think im on his ignore list or something.. or he never goes online anymore. boo. calling him after a good 3 months might weird him out a bit. totally frustrated.. i guess some ppl.. just lose contact.......grr. this thread is brought u by...my studying procrastination on a sunday nite. 
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Apr 12, 04
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i dunno...i beg to differ. i honestly don't think it's worth calling him. if he hasn't made the effort at all to contact you since you two broke it off, what's the point of you going out of your way to get in touch with him? especially since you think he blocked you on msn. i just think it will end up being more of a frustration for you than anything. some people DO just lose contact, and sometimes it's better to leave it that way. it's much more important to focus your energy on yourself and the friends that you presently have in your life that matter to you and treat you well. i've definitely chased after people in my life before in hopes of salvaging some sort of friendship, but i just realise that people who don't make an equal effort back really are not worth your time and effort. it'll just end up being emotionally and spiritually draining.
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Apr 13, 04
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^^^
Myra says it best Sometimes friendship is not the easiest thing to get into after dating Sometimes one or both of the parties needs space to breathe and 'find' themselves I foyu are sure that it's friendship that you want, and this isn't some last ditch effort to rekindle romance, then give him a call -- test the waters, make it brief Just a Hey - how are ya kind of call
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Apr 13, 04
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im digging ericas post..
why make the effort when there is no effort coming my way? and yes just a friendship or a casual hey, cuz obviously i only date guys i have things in common with... i like to have hope, so to continue with that.. i think he'd make a good friend. ill guess ill wait for his "busy life" to calm down and give him the casual hey when i have the chance..thats if i even have the guts to pick up the phone. ok..so jumpin from dating to friends..is def hard..how much "time" do u give it? with my previous ex's its been very smooth.. always kept in touch and an example with one, he's one of my super good friends...WHO IM TAKING TO THE BEP CONCERT TO! hahaha. so psyched.
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Apr 14, 04
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i think you should call..
nothing wrong with a friendly hallo and once you talk to him on the phone youll have a good idea whether or not hes been missin the friendship too :)
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Apr 14, 04
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Hmmmmmm... some good points brought up by Erica and Jinglestiltskins in this thread.
FunFun... I would also ask yourself why you are wanting to call him? What reason do YOU have or what do YOU want to know that would have you call him? If the reason you are wanting to call him is just because you are talking to your other ex's, I don't know that is enough? Just a thought...
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Apr 14, 04
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shit that ends badly i just don't bother rekindling unless it was my fault.... i got a stubborn personality but someone has to fuck up real bad for me to pretty much disown them from my mentality.
although i have to admit i feel bad for blowing a few people off pretty harshly. but aside that i don't see the point in getting in contact with him. either you want to get back with him or you're just doing it cuz you need that part of your social life where all your exes have to be your friend.... its rather silly and unrealistic if you ask me.
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Apr 14, 04
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Thats what I was going to say. If you don't want to get back together with him, don't call.
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Apr 14, 04
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quite true..
i pick and choose my friends carefully..and obviously i was with him because he's a great guy... and a "great guy" would make a "great friend".. i dont know. definately not interested in a relationship thing though. shallow? i think so. ok.... negative on the calling it is.
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Apr 14, 04
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I had the exact same thing happen to me with an ex of mine and I decided to just call himn and get it over with. It made me happy that I had the nerve to call and everything but nothing really changed between me and him, it actually was a very awkward call. Now when I see him things are almost worse than before. I don't regret it but I dunno if I would suggest it, unless he really means that much to you.
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Apr 14, 04
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i know the second id call he'd think "oh...booty call".. when its totally not meant to be like that. psshh.. yea.. takes 2 to be friends.
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Apr 15, 04
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yeah, ESPECIALLY don't call if you think that the first thing that's going to come into his mind is a booty call. you are worth WAY more than that to your friends, so why bother trying to create a friendship with someone who has that sort of mentality towards you? ultimately, when it comes down to it, i realise now that it isn't worth killing yourself over trying to make something work out with someone...whether it be a romantic relationship or friendship...if it just ain't gunna work, or if they don't fully do their part and make their effort to be friends with you, you shouldn't go on this one-sided mission to create something that they aren't even showing true interest in having. unfortunately, friends come and go, but the ones that stick are the ones that WANT to stick and therefore make the effort to on their own.
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Apr 18, 04
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Apr 18, 04
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Dont call! Text message jk
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Apr 18, 04
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^^ALL OVER THAT ONE. i *heart* text msging
but too bad he doesn't have a cell.
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Apr 18, 04
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:/ aww darn heh
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Apr 19, 04
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To whoever gave me bad karma with the comment "3 days":
Mikey: So how long should I wait to call? Trent: A day. Mikey: So tomorrow. Sue: No, tomorrow, and then a day. Mikey: So two days. Trent: Yeah. I guess you could call it two days. Sue: Two days is like industry standard. Trent: I used to wait two days, but now it's like everybody in town waits two days, so I'm thinking three days is kinda money. Sue: Two's enough not to look anxious though Trent: Two's enough not to look anxious but three days is kinda money. Mikey: Yeah, tell you what. How about I call her in three weeks. Say I was digging through my wallet, came across her number.... Charles: That's how you remember her? Mikey: Yeah. That's how I remember her, don't remember what she looks like, then I'll ask her if we fucked. Would that be cool T? Would that be the money? Trent: You know what Mikey? Ha ha... but if you call too soon you might scare off a pretty baby who's ready to party. Mikey: So how long you guys going to wait until you call your honeys? Trent & Sue: Six days. (From memory, apologies for any missed/wrong words... It's as close as I could get it without looking it up) So fuck you. 2 days is industry standard, ya wad. You owe me karma.
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