Nice guys finish last Thread

TheDigitalPimp · #1 (**permalink**) Jul 07, 04

So I seriously think the saying is true. WTF. Everytime I try goin for a girl that I find myself attracted to, it always comes down to this. WTF. I mean, I used to have no problem getting the girls I wanted. Not to sound cocky or anything, but I used to be able to lay the lines down, make her laugh a little, and give a little smile to bring em home. But now, I'm getting older (26) and I'm realizing that there are tonnes of nice girls out there, and I only want 1.

So, it's time for a new approach. The nice guy approach... which I've always been btw! But this fucking approach never works. Everytime I start hangin out with a new chick, she seems to want to confide in me a little bit more, which is good, but then I start falling for her. And when the time comes and I can't help but start feeling a certain way, things go astray.

"You're a good friend K", "I like talkin to you K", "You're always there for me K"

SO WHAT'S THE FUCKING PROBLEM THEN????????:271:

I'm not an asshole, but I'm about to become one if things don't start turning around.

Anyone got any advice? Besides telling me to just wait, and the right girl will come. I'm sick of hearing it, or more like sick of "waiting" for it.

ebbomega · #2 (**permalink**) Jul 07, 04

If you assume that this saying is true, I can assure you of two things:

1) You'll always think you're a nice guy.
2) You'll always finish last.

Attitude is your first mistake.

axion · #3 (**permalink**) Jul 07, 04

i guess you're not actually the digital pimp then.

**MC Hammered** · #4 (**permalink**) Jul 07, 04

All I can suggest is that maybe you are not being assertive enough at the right time. People are not mind readers so if you are hoping they catch on to the signals you are sending out or are "reading between the lines" properly then you are mistaken.

Just swallow the pride and speak your mind and you will be surprised at the results.

Being a nice guy is great but realize that if you are acting or being a certain way just to attact someone and that isn't who you really are or your genuine style then you are going to lose in the end no matter what.

Scarface · #5 (**permalink**) Jul 07, 04

Call the girl a "slut" they love that kind of thing.

ebbomega · #6 (**permalink**) Jul 07, 04

Oh, and when you reach the magical moment, say stuff like "Grab your ankles bitch, it's ass-riding time."

Chicks dig romantic stuff like that.

Chet · #7 (**permalink**) Jul 07, 04

thats not true, I finish first all the time

mojo · #8 (**permalink**) Jul 07, 04

welcome back chet...welcome back

**MC Hammered** · #9 (**permalink**) Jul 07, 04

Quote:

Originally Posted by Chet

thats not true, I finish first all the time

You have to work on holding back that mother load my friend.

iluvtechno · #10 (**permalink**) Jul 07, 04

nice guys finish last with hot bitches with chicken brains

bob · #11 (**permalink**) Jul 07, 04

nice guys sure are whiney... no wonder they get sent to the back of the line.

mugsy · #12 (**permalink**) Jul 07, 04

usually the "nice guys" have no confidence which equals small sex appeal. girls are not just looking for someone they can confide\trust in, they also want someone with confidence, someone who doesnt say im a nice guy, but simply knows it.

SEAN! · #13 (**permalink**) Jul 07, 04

what makes you think what you were doing ebfore wasnt being a nice guy?

not all nice guys finish last, chumps do tho.

Goat · #14 (**permalink**) Jul 07, 04

Quote:

Originally Posted by SEAN!

what makes you think what you were doing ebfore wasnt being a nice guy?

not all nice guys finish last, chumps do tho.

and fat people.
always the fat people.

bob · #15 (**permalink**) Jul 07, 04

the mistakes nice guys make are:

-being too needy
-unrealistic expectations/premeditated resentments
-idolizing a woman
-living for everyone else but himself and becoming dull
-making his happiness and existence too dependent on his relationships with others

if you recognize your own behavior in this list, you have probably blamed your "niceness" for hindering your relationships with women

decypher · #16 (**permalink**) Jul 07, 04

Quote:

Originally Posted by MC Hammered

You have to work on holding back that mother load my friend.

oh snap!

Rhianna · #17 (**permalink**) Jul 07, 04

Being nice is not the same as being a chump, yes man or a pushover. I like the nice guess w/ confidence. Mugys has it dead on. Winston is right too, you have to be assertive enough at the right time. If you wait too long they'll just put you in the "friend" category.

fadedsignal · #18 (**permalink**) Jul 07, 04

Quote:

Originally Posted by TheDigitalPimp

So I seriously think the saying is true. WTF. Everytime I try goin for a girl that I find myself attracted to, it always comes down to this. WTF. I mean, I used to have no problem getting the girls I wanted. Not to sound cocky or anything, but I used to be able to lay the lines down, make her laugh a little, and give a little smile to bring em home. But now, I'm getting older (26) and I'm realizing that there are tonnes of nice girls out there, and I only want 1.

So, it's time for a new approach. The nice guy approach... which I've always been btw! But this fucking approach never works. Everytime I start hangin out with a new chick, she seems to want to confide in me a little bit more, which is good, but then I start falling for her. And when the time comes and I can't help but start feeling a certain way, things go astray.

"You're a good friend K", "I like talkin to you K", "You're always there for me K"

SO WHAT'S THE FUCKING PROBLEM THEN????????:271:

I'm not an asshole, but I'm about to become one if things don't start turning around.

Anyone got any advice? Besides telling me to just wait, and the right girl will come. I'm sick of hearing it, or more like sick of "waiting" for it.

nice... not nice... who cares!
the most important thing is... to be yourself...
Next time, tell the girls how YOU feel...

rawb · #19 (**permalink**) Jul 07, 04

i found when i used to say shit like 'nice guys finish last' i really meant 'man the girl i obsess over is going out with shitty guys who are more assertive than me'.

ive hung out with relatively more shit girls while the nice girl and i were too busy fucking around and playing "OMG DOES SHE LIKE ME???" games so i saw it goes both ways.

~god~ · #20 (**permalink**) Jul 07, 04

Quote:

Originally Posted by fadedsignal

be yourself...

do that and kiss the girl arrivederci

rawb · #21 (**permalink**) Jul 07, 04

do what

~god~ · #22 (**permalink**) Jul 07, 04

or who.

TheDigitalPimp · #23 (**permalink**) Jul 08, 04

Well, it's not that I'm not being assertive or confident, otherwise I wouldn't have met these girls. Trust me, my approach is fine, no problems there. I am being myself, not puttin on a front or anything, and it's not even like I'm waiting too long, girls pick up on who I am right away, I really open myself up to people, that's all.

TheDigitalPimp · #24 (**permalink**) Jul 08, 04

Quote:

Originally Posted by bob

the mistakes nice guys make are:

-being too needy
-unrealistic expectations/premeditated resentments
-idolizing a woman
-living for everyone else but himself and becoming dull
-making his happiness and existence too dependent on his relationships with others

if you recognize your own behavior in this list, you have probably blamed your "niceness" for hindering your relationships with women

BTW, what are you, a fucking psychologist?

SteveO13 · #25 (**permalink**) Jul 08, 04

man I always Belived in this to cuz if u ask most of the people that I know they say that I am 1 of the nicest guys out there I always think of my friends and family before myself. But Tell ya the truth put sum more effort into it and shit will go good for ya so its up to u to make U(the Nice Guy) Finish first. Its like sayin Im gunna win the Stanly Cup but u dont even show up to Practice how will that work without u puttin effort in it ??