Getting over a pet

[Special_J]

So for the past couple of months I have been raising an abandonned duckling. He had imprinted on me and thought I was his mommy. He followed me everywhere, he had a shower with me in the morning and even slept beside the bed at night. I was with him all the time (except at work). But as he got bigger I started to think about what I would do when he started flying. I live in an apartment and I wanted him to have room to fly and be free to run around. So about a week ago I decided it was the best thing for him if I took him to Monica's Wildlife refuge. I took him in and the woman literally took him out of my hands and put him away in another room. I didn't get a chance to say goodbye to him and she wouldn't bring him back out to let me see him one last time. I ended up getting so upset I just ran crying out of the place. I loved him so much, I know it sounds silly but I spent so much time with that little guy that I really bonded with him. I still cry every day about him and think about him all the time and how much I miss him. I hope he is doing OK and learning to be a real duck and to fly. I feel like I am never going to be able to get over losing him, even though I know I did what was the best for him, it hurts so much and I can't seem to do anything to make it go away. Has anyone else gone through a similar situation where you had to give up a pet that you had a unique bond with? How long was it until you felt better? I feel like I will never get over losing Jehosephat.

[Liqwid]

Awwww......tasha.....*HuGGleS*

~Dalyn

[Discord]

awww

Well, you have to think of the good you did for him.
at least you did the right thing now he's got a happy healthy home.

Even tho you miss him with alllll your heart.. he'll always remember you, you saved his life. and gave him a uniqe time that not many ducks probably have

hehe i bet he'll tell his children about you. ;)



*hugs*

[PHOTONIC]

from now on stick to goldfish, very had to get attached to them

[mugsy]

i had wanted a dog since i knew what they were called, and in grade 5 one of my good friends had a dog that had puppies. they were part aiketa, and i fell in love with the runt of the little cause he was small and didnt take shit from no one, not unlike myself. one day i come home from school and theres my puppy!
i had him for about a year and a half, the vet had told us that since his father was small and he was the runt he should only reach 60 pounds which was an ok size for where we lived - but he got to 120.
so my parents decided it was best for him to live on big property. we took him to the states, and left him there with these people we knew through family. i cried and cried and felt terrible. how could i say goodbye to Cub? i used to let him out of his sleeping room into mine at night and let him sleep on my bed, i snuck him cookies, he protected me, he only greeted me... fuck he was my dog.
then we get a phone call from these people 3 months later saying they put Cub to sleep. said he was crazy.... which WAS NOT true. thats when my heart literally broke for the first time. i couldnt believe it, i was so mad at my mom for making me give him away to murderers.....
anyways the reason for this story is to say yes i have been there, and it totally sucks. its worse than breaking up, or from what i can remember, i think its worse than any break up i have ever had. but it does pass like everything else in life.
and you did do the right thing, 100 % your little duckling will soon be a big wonderful duck, swimming and flying with all the other ducks, not to worry. he\she will have a wonderful place ot live now.

[Special_J]

I think I am going to volunteer there so I can still see him.

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^ That might be a good idea ^ Itz hard not being able to see something which you've gotten so attached too :(

[sweet~kandy]

Originally Posted by Special_J

I think I am going to volunteer there so I can still see him.

Aww *hugs* Tasha.

I think thats the best thing you can do right now. Volunteer there so that you can see how he's coping with his new home. It is hard to loose something youve have such a strong bond with and I think being able to see him in his new home will help you a bit.

[C_squared]

thats a cute duck!

you did the right thing.

[Special_J]

Aww I just found some more pics from when we first got him. So cute!

[stabmyhead]

That's really sad, but you did the right thing. Ducks have an innate ability for flying so he'll be just fine.

I have a story to share as well. I had wanted a puppy for Christmas and my dad ended up getting me a baby fawn Sharpei. It was a proud puppy, who seemed to like only me, and not much else. She was also the runt of the litter which later lead to her death. She was physically weak and contacted some sort of virus and we had to put her down. I was devastated. I stayed at home and just cried my eyes out - hell, sometimes I still cry my eyes out...

Mugsy and Special J, it's very unfortunate you two didn't get a chance to say goodbye though... I know the feeling. They took my puppy to the vet and they put her down without even talking to me first. I always thought that it left me with no closure at all. Sigh....

[Special_J]

^^ That is excatly how I feel! I needed the chance to say goodbye to him so I could move on. I know it was the right thing to do and all, but I wasn't prepared for it so suddenly and with no last goodbye pat or anything, he was just gone.