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Apr 20, 01
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I'm so confused these days..how do you differeniate between someone who is ur friend for good and someone who is your friend because you're usable?
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Apr 21, 01
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I had a hard time seeing the difference between these two for a while, but I dunno...usually you can tell by what they ever do for you. If it's a good friend, they'll help you out when you need it, they're there for you when you have problems or feel down, you feel like you can trust them and they have your back etc. If it's someone that's using you, they'll act like your friend, but you'll feel like you're giving and giving to that person, but don't feel like you're getting anything in return in terms of support, friendship, etc.
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Apr 21, 01
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good point..I guess these days I'm finding out I have a lot more " friends" than friends...
but I shouldn't complain cuz i do have some really special friends =) It just suxs being used!
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Apr 21, 01
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it does suck to be used....but u never really find out wut type of friend they are until later on like when they have already used u or sumthing..its really hard to tell..then there are the friends where u just don;'t know whether they are ur friends at all or not..the off and on friends..i dun like them..too hard to know~:023:
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Apr 21, 01
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yoko~u took the words right out of my mouth.....
....me and my 2 closest/bestest girlfriends were just talking about that the other nite over drinks....we were talk'n about one of our "friends", Jessica, who bounces from one group to another, and appears to have tones of friends, but doesn't have any "true" or "real" friends....what i mean is, say 10 years down the road, are any of those people gonna give a fuck about her? hear a song on the radio that brings back memories and say 'hey, i wunder how Jess is doing? probably not....i know that no matter what happens, 'my girls' will alwayz share a place in my heart, and mine in theirs....and thats a really great feeling.... ...its all about the old saying "QUALITY over QUANTITY"....id rather have fewer quality friends who have my back NO MATTER what... than tones and tones of "friends", who, in the loooong run aren't gonna be there...
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Apr 21, 01
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nicely put Jules...i totally agree with you. quality over quantity.
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Apr 22, 01
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I know lots of people due to the type of work I do (contractor).
But I can only count the number of true friends I have on one hand. These are people I can count on if I need help, NO questions asked. They will be there for me, to help, to listen and to watch over me. I am like that to them as well. I asked one of my best friends this "Why are you my friend?" His answer was "Well, I don't agree with everything you do, but that's what friends are. Imperfect. You take the good with the bad, and deal with it. I wouldn't be who I am today if it weren't for you." Our relationship comes and goes, sometimes we hang out alot, some times I don't see him for months at a time. But it doesn't matter, we will always be there for each other no matter what happens. I am proud to be his friend. I hope you are as lucky as I am and have friends like that too. Take care. Winston
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Apr 24, 01
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wow..u guys have some really great insights =)
I guess realizing who your true friends are is a lesson that everyone learns..its hurts a lot less now then it would hurt later.. and rowdy thank u so much for being such a dependable friend! its too bad u don't know how to spell my name...! no h!:031:
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Apr 24, 01
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awww joan
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Apr 25, 01
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Jul-E... oh my gawsh I know wut u mean.. i know a chick.. well more than one chick.. that does the same thing that ur friend does.. she completely ditches wut she says she considers her "True" friends for other ppl she barely knows... on the surface if you barely know her any one would believe that "wow she knows LOTSA ppl!" and she sum how tries to make ppl believe that she knows EVERY BODY and every one LOVES her and that they tell her every single thing about their lives and says crap like "oh yah... he's nice.. yah she's real sweet" when she knows shit... it's true when u say that most ppl aren't gonna give a fuck about her a month frum now. she'll juss be another acquaintance to them, and when she realizes that her so called "True" friends are gettin sick of her ditching them all the time, she'll figure out that every one wuz too fed up of bein her 'accesory"
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