is it really worth the hassle?

[maripoppins]

k ...i know some of you know who this involves, some of you dont, but read on if you dare...i need some advice and dont know where else to turn!

i met an absolutly awesome guy a few weeks ago and we have spent some time getting to know one another, and i have over time started to develop feelings for this guy! he isnt like most guys ive met lately just by the fact that he actually comes across like he has respect for women...a trait that is pretty hard to find now a days! he has done small, sweet things to let me know that he cares too, atleast i think so, but he is going to school right now, 5 days a week till 4:30 in the afternoon each day! now i dont want to be the one that takes his attention away from his school work cause i really want to see him succeed! i live an hour away from him and dont mind driving out to see him...even if he is doing work the whole time and doesnt even really have time for me...i just want to be there...in his company! well, lately we have barely been talking at all, it seems that whenever we do its cause i have initiated the conversation...and he always is too busy doing what he was doing to even hold a conversation with me...so i ask if he wants me to let him go...and he ALWAYS says yes! after he says that though its always followed by an "im really sorry, i dont mean to be rude...sorry!" well i feel like he is avoiding me bigtime...and when i said that to him, that i felt that he was avoiding me he replied with thw answer of..." if i was avoiding you i would call" well now he hasnt even called in a few days.....oh hang on he just phoned! ...k well if he reads this i dont want him to think that im looking for his sympathy or anything...i dont even care if he replies to this....i just need some advice cause i feel that he doesnt have time for me in his life and that kinda sucks...oh well, maybe im wasting my time...but i really want to give this a fair chance and it seems like he isnt really willing to even give us a fair chance...maybe im just beeing a whining little freak....but it really aches when you are willing to put in more effort than the other person....

so recaping...he doesnt really have time for me...should i walk away now before i get hurt anymore...or should i stick it out a bit longer to see if he really does want to pursue this into something more???

by the way....to whom this effects i hope your not pissed at me for posting this...i am just really confused and frustrated and need some advice...:021:

[kiMMie]

Aw...Poor Jess...*Hugs*

I don't know what to say...Honestly, if a guy told me to "let him go" I would...unless you really truly know he doesn't mean it. If you hold onto him, you might be the only one getting hurt...

You can always be friends with him, but I know that trying to let go of that "love" feeling is really hard...I think you should sit down with him and really talk about this "face to face"...That's the only way you can bring out the "reality"

I hope that helps a little...if you want...ICQ me

[*addy*]

Well, it's not like we don't talk about our "man problems" enough, but hey, i'm bored ass shit at school so here's my reply:)
The thing is even if he does say "no, just wanna be friends ra ra ra" it's not so easy to let go huh? (hmmmm could i know from experience? possibly...) I guess that's the problem with liking someone. Yeah, hes busy, but if he's a smart boy, he'll see you as the awesome chick that you are, and realize he'll just have to make time for you... I understand your frustration completely. So what would happen, you'd just be friends and wait around till he decides its the right time? Hanging out with the person, without "being" with the person almost hurts more.
I'd have to agree w/Kimmie that being straight up is a good idea (which you pretty much have already right?) But, don't let him avoid the conversation, and finish it without getting any answers. You need to know what's going on thats all.
Don't worry about it Jess... good things take time (unfortunatly), he'll come around:)
And if not... we'll just have to break his legs (moo ha ha ha)
LOVE YOU!!
Addy

[ice]

I think that there should be a rest. Your putting urself too much online for this boy. If he really cares for you and has respect for you, then he wouldn't be treating you the way he has been treating you. At this point you guys are just hanging out and have sum mutual interest for each other. that's about it. So go look around the pond. He'll soon realize that there are more guys out there interested in you and he'll be able to spend some SMALL amount of time with you without thinking that it's a chore. *shrugs* that's my opinion anyways. Either way, good luck and take care.

[dragon boi]

wow so much writing dont think i can write that much hehe:009:

[§tåtîk §HöÇk72]

:001: well jess i would have to stay"stop trying"i feel for ya big time.girl i swear you change guys like i burn cds,daaaayum,fa real boo you know that i love you with all my heart and i would never want to see you get hurt especially by a guy.4 real tho stop looking let him find you .because you make something outta nothing all the time(its a good thing)but sometimes is bad.all i see is you trying so hard to find him,that he is walking right by...boo relax for a bit 4 real since ive been on this site you have liked 4 differnt guys,thats gotta tell ya something i mean damn.but hey its your life live it how ya wanna.Stay true to yourself....Ill always be your shoulder if ya need one boo.
~dave~:001:

[powerpuffys*]

Maripoppins if the guy really cares about you.. always bes there for you..understands you..never lies to you..nor cheat... calls you.. instead of you calling him.and if you love him it is worth going through all that hassle... but if he doesn't call you .. and he avoids your phone calls..treats you like shit.. lies to you..hits you..and is totally not understanding than that is totally not worth going through all that hassle...

[BB_YungYung]

Well.. I think just be friends for now. Which you probrably are.
If you phone him and he's too busy to talk to you, then tell him to call you.
If you calls ( called ) you.. of course he cares. And you just said he did just call you.

I think You could wait it out, but still keep your eyes open. Untill you know it's something DEFINITE

:001: wishing you all the best :001:

[wundergirl]

"Maripoppins if the guy really cares about you.. always bes there for you..understands you..never lies to you..nor cheat... calls you.. instead of you calling him"
(quoted by powerpuffys)

I'd have to disagree with that one (sorry hon)

It seems to me like has very different priorities, that's all.
Your priorities seem to be focused on finding the right person and so on and so on. He seems to be focused on more school sort of stuff.
What you need to understand is that he is not going to rearrange his life because you like him. That sounds really harsh but it's true. School was prolly on his mind before you were and now he's committed.

i know it suck, i'm going thru the same thing, but girl you gotta understand.


juss my opinion, dont be mad k?

[maripoppins]

wundergurl....im not mad at all...i agree with ya bigtime...i dont want to be the one to take him away from his studies...i just wish that when he has an opportunity to see me for even an hour when im out by where he lives that he jumped on the opportunity...its not that often that im out by where he lives and stuff...he lives like an hour away...i dont even care if when we see each other he is sleepin the whole time cause hes tired or hes workin on schoolwork...i just wanna see him...thats all!

[BB_YungYung]

you want to go see him
SURPRISE HIM
MARIPOPINS!@@@@@

[maripoppins]

you think i should...i would love too...but i dont want to drive all the way out there and have him be busy and unable to see me! what if he isnt happy to have me suprise him...what if it kinda scares him a bit?

[maripoppins]

damn...he is too damnsweet to pass up...i understand that he has school and all...i shouldnt complain too much...we chat as often as we can...and damn...we are still really at the beggining of our relationship...i think he is definetly worth the wait...and hopfully i will get to see him this weekend...i was just having a few really sensitive days...i should think of it this way...when we do get to finally se each other the time will be soooo precious and i wont take it for granted...thanx for listening guys...i like him too damn much to ignore it...oh well, i hope you read this hun, cant wait to see ya...miss ya lots...i understand the school thing...ya lets take our time with this relationship...you are too special to walk away from...get some rest, lotsa sleep and i cant wait to see ya like i said...just cant stressit enough...*muah*:010: :009: :012:

[maripoppins]

i dont care if the guy phones me again.....im drunk right now....so i may be posting sumthin tomorroe regrertting this post.....but i swear i saw some shit....(like some chick in his room doin up her pants....) he set up a webcam....and i saw some shit today that im not happy bout....grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr....i hate guys and the shit they put me through....he was supposed to call....and its been about 7/8 hours...do ya think ive waited long enough for his call......ggrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr!!! i hate guys bullshit.....why do i put up with it??????????

[sNyx]

Originally posted by maripoppins
(like some chick in his room doin up her pants....)

Hummm, that sounds quite bad just there jess?

snyx

[wundergirl]

well it looks like you have your answer maripoppins. sorry chicky, thats sad. guys suck:023:

TO THE BOY:
YOU SHOULD NOT MISLEAD - and if you have no intentions of calling FER FUCKS SAKES just don't say you will. thats just bad manners.

shame on you

[kiMMie]

Yikes :039: Let me get this straight...he knows you saw...and he still hasn't even phoned to explain anything to you??? He's just letting you think what you want to think about the "situation"...

If that's the case...Ummm...He's not worth it...If he cared about you (even in the past) he should at least tell you what that was about...shouldn't he?

*hugs* Jess...PM me if you need to talk, k?

[kiMMie]

PS...Don't drink too much....I did that two weeks ago...Way too much...Felt shitter afterwards... :(

[wundergirl]

k, i need to take some stuff back....all that i said to "the boy" until after i get some info on the situation.

mari: were you guys actually startin sommin (like there was definately some acton happening) or did you just really like him? both situations really kind of suck i guess, i feel super bad for you...if you want I'll definately kick some ass for you :031:

IM TUFF LIKE DAT!!!

[stabmyhead]

apologizing ahead of time if this comes across blunt, harsh and cynical....

hun, you never said you guys were dating, so the rule. all is fair in love and war, blah blah. applies here... its possible that he's just really friendly and respectful, he might not neccessarily like you... ya know? some ppl are like that. they're just friendly to everyone.

i really don't think the person that this is to would really appreciate you posting this stuff on a board that they go to even if you let them remain annoymous, cuz you haven't gotten the full story yet and you just kinda jumped to conclusions..

try not to put in so much hope in something that might not happen. it's one thing to be hopeful and another to be blind..

later chickee-poo. don't let these things piss you off. just not worth it.

[BB_YungYung]

aaawww SOME GUYS ARE JERKS
but .. stabby's right

some peeps are nice........ but if he gave you some hints that he wanted to hook up.
Tell him that.. if you read those signs.. and now he's hurt you. (he did hurt you right?)

I'm really nice.. and some guys get the wrong idea. But then I always want them to know
what my intentions are.. is just to be friends. But I never really want to give out the wrong vibe

Maripoppins: you seem like a cool chicky... and you deserve a guy that will LuB you!
and appreciate you for all that you are.. and wouldn't want to hurt you in ne way.
You will find him someday..... ^_^

Let your mind comprimise with your heart.
Don't let your mind & heart speak alone or they will fool one another.

[dragon boi]

ahhh too much reading everybodies so metaforiccal if thats how u spell it hahaha