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Oct 17, 04
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This relationship thing.. is it just one big GAME?
WHy WHy Why..
its basically.. girls love assholes and guys love bitches.. so assholes and bitches have long term relationships.. (except for those odd balls where they are really in "love" if you can even call it that) but neways.. Does a relationship haft to be rocky in the beginning? is everyone just playing this big game.. even if they know it or not? this is my theory: In the beginning its a BIG power struggle.. with trying to make the other person jelous and making them wonder to get them more interested.. and both people stress out. but try to act cool. and trying to fit eachother into your schedule without giving stuff up. (remember girls don't drop everything for a guy.. it shows u have strength) and when you get the power and schedule balanced.. you can actually start to get to know the person.. and let your feelings grow.. but i think during this stage its not a matter of you NEED this person.. its jsut means.. I WANT this person because their messing with your head.. and like we all know.. "you always want what you can't have" life's werid. and for you people who say "i dont like games" or "i dont wanna play any games".. trust me.. EVERYONE does.. i'm one of these people.. but its a self-concious thing.. u jsut can't help it.. because you don't want to look desperate right? ahaha. i got some tricks in my bag..* Last edited by FlyViEtChiC; Oct 17, 04 at 07:22 AM. 
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ugh i'm going through this phase right now
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^^.. sucks eh?.. well i got some tricks for u if u want some ahahahah..
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yah shit like this is retarded. stupid human nature. bah! why do we all have to be so complicated.
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You know how boring life would be if we were all simple and predictable? I mean how many of you would guess that I'm going to say SNARKFIZZLESHORTBLOGGLFAP in the middle of my Post?
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i fucking hate the game.
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maybe im just a fool in love, but i really dont think every relationship starts as a crazy battle for power. of course theres moments of unease, youre just getting to know someone you really dont know, intamately. discovering the inner-most-being of someone can be scarey and frustrating. and allowing someone to discover you is even more terrifying. its the relationships where there is no awkward moments or power struggles or forceful jealousy that last. i think i would - no its been proven in my past - i would go crazy in a relationship that involves games. but having been really stupid, and staying i learned that its a waste of my time to be around someone who wants me to "win" their affection. and the same goes the oppisite way, i dont wana be with anyone who feels that have to do something amazing for me to enjoy their company.
im sure theres rocky points in the beginning of friendships too, people just dont stress it. i like being unpredictable sometimes. poopie.
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heck with relasonships i'm single and having fun but not too much fun... dating is good for now.... i don't trust all to well cuz a few select past guys in the past
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Oct 17, 04
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Everytime I hear about complications in relationships, I roll my eyes. This is why I'm single.
I don't think games are really games at all. I think it's mis-communication; for instance, if I don't call for a few days, or do and sound distant and uncomfortable, I'm not fucking with your head, I'm just needing to do something else. But the fact of the matter is this: I don't know you well enough to tell you straight up that I want to do something else, so I beat around the bush, act uncomfortable and sound distant. Yes, its retarded, but its part of the Western social nuance. Relationships that go on for years rarely have miscommunication - but when there are games, they're fucking malicious and its time to walk away. Last edited by DJ Ponz; Oct 17, 04 at 11:03 AM.
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Oct 17, 04
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my theory is.. b4 things can get better it will get worse.. anyways
not all relationships are perfect... but i believe that the beginning should be the test.. see wut eachother can handle or no... at the moment.. it may be a bad idea.. but in the long run.. its for the best... i dunno hard to explain.. but to me its better if the beginning is hard and all that shit happens cuz u kno wut lines not to cross.. and so u dont have to worry bout that in the future.. and in the future u wont have to have stupid arguments and discussions.. k i'll shut up.. im rambling but to me it makes perfect sence
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^^^... yes taht is veryyy true.. the little bickering and miscomunications. (arguemnts on my part) are jsut soemthing to untangle the knot.. but i think this whole thing is jsut one big game.. because when you show someone else affection it shows that that u care and so u win points hahahaha.. man this whole thing we call life is one big game man.. its werid..
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Oct 17, 04
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I'm an odd ball I'm an odd ball!
I will never understand girls that like assholes. Am I missing something there or what? Now when I say I hate games it means: If you are a guy and you fuck around w/ me at all I will walk away. DO NOT waste my time! Sure I let my bf get away w/ a few things in the begining but we don't fuck around when it comes to that crap. We call eachother on games right away. They don't fly in our relationship. Fuck, I rather be single then be in a big power struggle game.
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i feel like shes testing me whether i'm the type who would do everything for her while she looks pretty but at the same time she seems like the type who is supportive of her friends & bf's. then theres this language barrier between us. shes here as an international student learning how to speak english, while i initially saw this as an opportunity to improve my ethnic language skills. eventually i've been coming to realize this language barrier has prevented us from having cool intellectual conversations. we've more so been speaking on a junior highschool level and its getting very fucking frustrating i realy liked this girl when i first met her. shes got a very good character and reminds me of home in asia. but at the time same, i've been highly educated here in canada in english, although i am billingual, i am not intellectually fluent in my ethnic language. so yeah..... wtf. hahaha
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last time i saw the girl i've been seeing, we didnt have much of a nice confrontation, mainly because my head was spinning after writing a test... and the last thing i needed was an awkward conversation in a language i'm not 100% comfortable in... i hope she didn't get the wrong idea.... ugh..... i really dont know where this is going. i'm still very attracted to her though.
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^^.. haha thats true.. ive been single fro liek 3 years.. and this is the first time i actually really looked in to a relationshp hoping it would go forward.. before evething would last 2 weeks.. and it would be over because i wouldnt be attracted to them anymore cus theyonly gave me one round.... and girl love assholes because they tease.. liek one minute they seem to be into you so much. and the next its like whoa what happened.. and the girl is laways at the edge of her seat waiting what would happen next..
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how hard can this testing phase get?!?! i'm moreso used to relationships that blended in from friendship.... started off comfortably in moreso a plutonic sense... but then progressed into a more sexual thing. but i can't say those things worked out as well as i'd hoped since crossing the line from a friend can make things rather awkward.... thats a whole other topic to talk about though....
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i hear that all the time.... my friends think i've been a bit of an asshole to this girl cuz i talk to alot of other girls. but really i was talkin to them about school work and stuff... but i got the vibe she wasn't too stoked on that. damn i really really wonder where this thing between me and her is gonna go... when i started seeing her i really thought we had some serious potential... but now i'm being advised that this language barrier is gonna hurt the relationship more than it can benefit our language deficits... but i really dont know.. i too am very inexperienced in the relationship game
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in the beginning i definetly got the vibe she was interested in me. but she never calls me. hmph. and it seems like shes always on her phone. so i REALLY really dont know what the deal is. she waits for me after class but theres this uncomfortable shit in the beginning where she doesnt come say hi while i'm talking to my boys in the corner... one minute i think shes not into it, the next minute i get the vibe she is into it.... darn fresh off boat girls.... they are so different.....
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