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Nov 02, 04
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Lost in highschool
I'm in grade 10...and completely lost! everybody's changed...*everything's changed*. Since I started drinking and getting to trouble and stuff when I was in grade 8, ive already gotten into trouble and all that, and now everybody around me is just getting into it. I live in kits, hence the teens here have no idea what they're doing or how to do it. I feel like im older and different, and just dont fit in anymore.and now that I'm discovering the rave scene they all think im crazy. It seems like they're all stuck in grade 8- they have no opinions, individuality or personality. Everybody just seems to be cloned over and over again and put in a tna tracksuit. I dont know if I've changed..or they've changed.. or if im just going crazy. I know all about changing and stuff as u grow, but now that its all happening so suddenly i dont know what to do about it or myself. Just wondering if anybody whos been through it all and back has any good advice to make sense of it all..
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Nov 02, 04
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welcom to life....High school actually any schooling for that matter changes ppl for the better or the worse.... I know I lost friends ppl I had been best friends with for like 3 years and then I made so many new friends and the ones that stay by you when you meet new ppl enjoy doing new things raving being the examle will show you who your true friends are. One of my best friends in the world I met going into hight school and I havent has a freind as close as her ever! and you'll find your way threw everything eventually it just takes time.
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Nov 02, 04
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same thing was happening to me when I was in highschool.. Now that i've graduated I only hang out with about 5 people out of my grad class of 250. The rest I never see or talk to anymore.. I have a whole new group of friends(A HELL of a lot of FNKers, plus all the post secondary friends I have met)
Most of the people you know from highschool you leave behind when you graduate. I wouldnt worry about it too much. You're usually better off finding someone who cares about you, and your interests and who has a decent maturity level.
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Nov 02, 04
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Its the teen angst ridden stage of elitism. dont worry, pick something your passionate about like playing the guitar or learning about a subject and STICK to it.. and when the drugs and alcohol come in between you and that love, you know that you've gone too far.. because it WILL happen in highschool...thats a good way to keep urself in check... plus if u pick something u enjoy now, and stick with it... by the time ur older you'll be a pro at it... something i wish i did in highschool... instead of flaking off, fucking around with too much drugs.
ps. fuck the people in highschool.. everyone thought i was a freak cuz i wore NIN and Rancid shirts in highschool.. but then when i did my own thing people started kissing my ass in grade 12, i just laughed... high school isn't the end of the world as i thought it was, its the annoying speedbump before u get onto the rest of ur life. Last edited by decypher; Nov 02, 04 at 01:27 PM.
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Nov 03, 04
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Highschool is just preparing you for real life.
Look at the adults around you - how many of them really have a different, distinct personality and strong opinions? Sure, way more adults have those things than kids in highschool, but IMO there are still a whole lot of simple-minded adults who just float through life with no real opinions, convictions or deep interests. This is just a time to learn about the different types of people in life, and to determine what type of person you are, and the type of person you want to be as an adult.
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Nov 03, 04
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OK word of advice.........The people you call your friends right now will not be your friends in 5 years. Keeping friendships with highschool people several years after highschool doesn't seem to happen. After highschool is when you start to realize whats really important to you and most of the time it's not important to your "friends". Everything in Highschool seems to be an amazing amount of stress but in actuality and most reality all that stuff means very little. Most people spend their entire highschool time trying to fit into a click or group that they don't really belong too but in school they are precieved as the in crowd. The best advice I could give you is be true to yourself and forget about anything that anybody else says to you or tells you. If you can look in the mirror and be happy that's all that matters no matter what.
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Nov 03, 04
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I find I had an easier time relating to people in highschool and actually started enjoying myself when I realized I really wasn't that different from the rest of them, even if I started geting into trouble at a much earlier age.
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Nov 03, 04
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These are the people that form who you are. Don't take them for granted. Never be afraid to sacrifice who you are for who you could become.
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Nov 03, 04
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In general, I meant that if you pay attention to the way people act in highschool, it's just an exaggerated way of how adults act. There's still behind-the-back talk, there's still the popular crowd, there are still the losers, etc., but it's more subtle. If you learn to recognize the characteristics of the members of these different groups in highschool, and determine where you fit in, you will be able to more easily determine where you fit in AFTER highschool.
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Nov 03, 04
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If you've accepted your differences between you and your "friends", then it's not completely unheard of to keep your best friends OUT of high school. I mean, the people you see at school don't have to be the ones you hang out with in your spare time. I had much better friends that didn't go to my school. It was nice that way. I didn't have the same drama or gossip going on about my life bc I had different friends than I went to school with, and the friends at school only knew what I chose to tell them about. The people I went to high school with were my best friends from early elementary right to about grade 10 or 11 and then they became acquaintences because we were too different. Or I was too different. But you'll come to find anyways, that in high school and even into your college/uni years most people feel alienated and/or misunderstood. Everyone's in the same boat. Its just a personal choice whether you choose to conform to your schools cutural norms, or to go your own way.
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Nov 20, 04
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Thanksfor all of the advice. I guess it isnt the end of the world:)
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Nov 20, 04
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highschool = lame
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Nov 20, 04
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fuck highschool, what you do there wont matter shit once you get out and go to school or work. You'll make new friends, a new life and move on. You might want to drop the drinking though, you make yourself out to be one of these sketch cases.
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Nov 20, 04
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highschool was pretty fun for me, i didnt mind it at all actually wish i was still in it sometimes, wait to you hit the real world its fucking crazy!!!
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Nov 20, 04
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Aw, I was in your position when I was i highschool.
Except for me it started in grade 9... Best thing you can do is just remain friends with the people you can tolerate. thats about it.. dont let the other kids get you down. If you cant handle thier immaturity.. then dont.. move on. But form my experience.... your gonna regret it when your old.. and think you grew up far to fast. I know I do.. and you maybe in the same situation. Enjoy being young.. take it for what it is... You'll thanx me when you get older.
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Nov 20, 04
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snub the boppers,you`ll thank me later.
surround yourself with like minded indviduals,and if some of your "friends" arent of like mind,snub them too. Infact,snub about 99.9% of people in highschool,they are generally insignificant,immature,lame,and useless.
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