My friends was sexually assaulted, how to deal with it..

[wum]

so a buddy of mine and I were drinking last weekend and he gets a little tipsy. Out of no where he confesses to me that his father raped him when he was a kid (his dad's now in prison for something else). So I'm like . Okay, well, I was sorta drunk myself, and I'm all in shock from what he just told me, so I'm just sort of staring at the ground.

He's like, dude, wtf, why aren't you saying anything? I'm like, I'm sorry, I don't know what to say. He's like, do you think of me as different now? I was like no, I don't...and then he kept badgering me asking me if I think of him differently.

Okay, so like I said, I was pretty drunk, and that's the only reason I can think that I said this out loud, but I finally said to him, "Fine, okay, I do look at you differently. How am I not supposed to think you're not a queer?"

Anyway, he gets soooo fucking pissed of and yelling and screaming and throwing shit. So I go up to him and tell him I'm sorry, and he was about to throw the tv, so I put my arms around him to stop him, and all of a sudden we both started to calm down and breath in synch. He turns around and starts staring at me, and then he kissed me.

I was like but after a few seconds I was like .

Anyway, I'm not gay or anything, but I just emotionally traumatized the guy, so I went along with him cause I didn't want to hurt his feelings more.

Does this mean I'm gay?

[skittles_0307]

so interesting
i could never call someone 'gay' because they enjoyed kissing the same sex. If i kiss a female does that make me gay? noo, not at all. maybe a bit bi curious if anything.

I can understand where your friend is comming from or why he might be upset, but understand you are his good friend he wants you to be there for him as a friend, and the possibility that he has deeper feelings for you may be scary

[decypher]

ohhhh man, SMOOOTH! Your approach and outcome were wrong on so many levels. I think you should be a psychologist, you sound like you got great skills dealing with situations.

[skittles_0307]

Originally Posted by decypher

ohhhh man, SMOOOTH! Your approach and outcome were wrong on so many levels. I think you should be a psychologist, you sound like you got great skills dealing with situations.

who are you talkin bout??

[spunsugar]

what channel do you live on again?

[Chewy]

Originally Posted by wum

so a buddy of mine and I were drinking last weekend and he gets a little tipsy. Out of no where he confesses to me that his father raped him when he was a kid (his dad's now in prison for something else). So I'm like . Okay, well, I was sorta drunk myself, and I'm all in shock from what he just told me, so I'm just sort of staring at the ground.

He's like, dude, wtf, why aren't you saying anything? I'm like, I'm sorry, I don't know what to say. He's like, do you think of me as different now? I was like no, I don't...and then he kept badgering me asking me if I think of him differently.

Okay, so like I said, I was pretty drunk, and that's the only reason I can think that I said this out loud, but I finally said to him, "Fine, okay, I do look at you differently. How am I not supposed to think you're not a queer?"

Anyway, he gets soooo fucking pissed of and yelling and screaming and throwing shit. So I go up to him and tell him I'm sorry, and he was about to throw the tv, so I put my arms around him to stop him, and all of a sudden we both started to calm down and breath in synch. He turns around and starts staring at me, and then he kissed me.

I was like but after a few seconds I was like .

Anyway, I'm not gay or anything, but I just emotionally traumatized the guy, so I went along with him cause I didn't want to hurt his feelings more.

Does this mean I'm gay?

yes!!!

[Gusto]

you seem to cause a lot of drama in you own life and the lives of people around you. i have a hard time believing it all.

[hardstylin]

A man can build a 1000 bridges and not 1 will fall down, but that same man sucks one cock and he's not a bridge builder he's a cocksucker, get my drift.

this must be an account hijacking.

I dont believe it.

[acidic_liquid]

That's intense.

Just ask yourself. Do you still like women?

Actions don't mean much. It's what drives the action that you should consider. In this situation, you definitely didn't kiss him out of lust or desire. I'd say it's a mix of being drunk, being a good friend, and feeling guilty.

[miss.myra]

haha

am I the only one that thinks his apparent response to his friend pouring his heart out to him was a little inappropriate? insensitve, perhaps?

and wumbles, if i had access to cool emoticons like you, I'd put up one that looks pretty unimpressed!

[Sarah...]

if this story is true........... wow

thats horrible about your friend
it doesnt make you gay ..you'll know if your gay or not beleive me.. it was nice of you to let him kiss u..
....and if ur stories true i dont really see why you would share something like this to a raver messege board... what if he read this....

[decypher]

Exactly what i was saying sarcastically above. His whole approach was extremely insensitive and i wouldn't be surprised if his friend is currently suicidal.

[lou_belle]

My girlfreind told me she was raped when she was six from an intruder...when I get really nervous I giggle...does that make me a bitch? YES...and YES you are gay! When you get nervous you kiss guys!

[MC Hammered]

This is the sequel from the guy who plays video games with the ladyfriend all night and didn't tap it?

WOW!

[Gusto]

Originally Posted by miss.myra

am I the only one that thinks his apparent response to his friend pouring his heart out to him was a little inappropriate? insensitve, perhaps?

hahaha, no you're not the only one. that was ridiculous. his friend kissing him wasn't much better either, though.

[crookedking]

you should do him wum.

then every Time you see a guy and you fight the temptation to have sex with him, you'll win a battle over satan.

[decypher]

yeh well the guy is obviously confused and took wum holding him the wrong way. Being raped as a child is a serious issue which flew right over wum's head.

[lou_belle]

your poor friend...if he were my best friend...I would hang out with him a lot more than usual while he's going through this time of confrontation. The only thing that can help a person who's starting to reflect on life's depressing past is a freindship that is comfortably stable. You shouldn't be questioning your sexual preference, you should ascertain the strength of your freindship. Explain to him that it's something that will last forever unlike sex:)

[mapleleaf4ever]

You two should totally hook up!

[wum]

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[wum]

excuse me while i kick my room mate's ass

[crookedking]

Originally Posted by wum

excuse me while i kick my room mate's ass

your roomie didn't make this thread!

[MC Hammered]

He's schitzo.

[wum]

I just lost it at

Originally Posted by wum

so I put my arms around him to stop him, and all of a sudden we both started to calm down and breath in synch. He turns around and starts staring at me, and then he kissed me.

oh yeah

[Liqwid]

omg i can't believe i gave u karma for being supportive...

~dalyn