am i shallow?

[Sniper]

Not shallow at all

[veN]

I was just talking to a friend and saying that life is too short for unnecessary bullshit.

Remove as much stress from your life as you possibly can, and don't bother putting up with stuff you don't have to.

If you already think it's not working out just two weeks in, don't bother. Yeah relationships are something you work at, but this just sounds like a "piece of work".

Good luck, and chin up!

[Ree Fresh]

Originally Posted by matéo

I was dating a girl who seemed to be great at first but time would tell another story. She told me she lived w/ another family from the ages 11 to 13, and hates her mother for reasons only she knows. She also told me she has had a horrible childhood and was really insecure in her teenage years. I have had completely the opposite and look for the complete opposite when it comes to dating but I would never not date a girl who is different from me in fact some of the kewlest chicks I have dated have been totally different from me. This girl showed signs of a physcological disorder though and that worries me. I am in no way ready to care for someone with Bi-polar or any other mental disorder. I understand that not everyone is perfect but this would definately take a hit on our relationship and with all the fish in the sea why settle for something I know I won't be able to handle so early on.

I should add that the 2 weeks we were seeing eachother she flipped out a couple of times over things fairly small and also said something what seemed very strange to me "I always seem to find one thing wrong with a guy that way when he brakes up with me it won't hurt as much because I will think back to that flaw he had" is that fucked up? or is it just me.

anyways let me know if I am out of line.

You go out with ppl becuase they make you happy. One of my favorite teachers told us... "dont ever go out with someone if doubt youll ever marrie them." She should respect you being straight up with her.

Its ok sometimes we date strange odd ppl (better find out now than later) Thats why we go out instead of getting maried off the bat. Test and trial, break ups happen. This is normal dont feel out of line :)

[justa~gurl]

i am going to go ahead and assume that you are young?

So you still have your own life to worry about without taking on some girl's problems whom you went on a couple of dates with..

If you can already predict trouble.. leave

The girl already sounds like she's got relationship issues, and personal issues... she probably shouldn't even be dating..
so before things get complicated and she gets all attached to you, do yourselves both a favor and end it

[yoko*]

Originally Posted by justa~gurl

i am going to go ahead and assume that you are young?

I don't think that this has anything to do with his age...

As I grow "older" I find I'm less willing to put my whole heart into relationships that are just not worth it for me or worth my time and energy. I think it's perfectly normal to look out for yourself and your own needs. When that "right" person comes along, you may have to make some compromises together and deal with some unexpected things but imo, KNOWING what you want in itself is more mature than "putting up" with less than what you're looking for.

[Custard]

whats teh defination of normal?

[.muffy.]

It's not being shallow its called having standards.

I got called shallow and materialistic once for not wanting to date someone that wanted to get rid of his place so that he could sleep/live out of his car.

repeat after me: "I will not date crazy bitches"

[ash1ee]

look out for number 1.
selfish? we have to be in some situations.