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Mar 21, 05
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am i shallow?
I was dating a girl who seemed to be great at first but time would tell another story. She told me she lived w/ another family from the ages 11 to 13, and hates her mother for reasons only she knows. She also told me she has had a horrible childhood and was really insecure in her teenage years. I have had completely the opposite and look for the complete opposite when it comes to dating but I would never not date a girl who is different from me in fact some of the kewlest chicks I have dated have been totally different from me. This girl showed signs of a physcological disorder though and that worries me. I am in no way ready to care for someone with Bi-polar or any other mental disorder. I understand that not everyone is perfect but this would definately take a hit on our relationship and with all the fish in the sea why settle for something I know I won't be able to handle so early on.
I should add that the 2 weeks we were seeing eachother she flipped out a couple of times over things fairly small and also said something what seemed very strange to me "I always seem to find one thing wrong with a guy that way when he brakes up with me it won't hurt as much because I will think back to that flaw he had" is that fucked up? or is it just me. anyways let me know if I am out of line. 
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Mar 21, 05
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You should never settle into a relationship unless you already know its going to be great. I think most people know when things are gonna be good and when things probably wont work out.
I dont think your shallow for not wanting to be involved in a relationship that could take a toll on you. =D
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Mar 21, 05
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One of my friends had a crazy Girlfriend once. He eventually called the Police and her Roommate... he told the Roomie that whoever got to the Door first to get her off the Doorstep could have her. She refused to stop calling, texting, banging on the Door and crying... Get out while you can.
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Mar 21, 05
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To get together with someone is to give them a part of yourself. Biggest lesson I've learned since highschool is that it's a very bad thing if you can't trust them with that.
Initial doubts happen, but it doesn't sound like there's even anything positive to counter them! Therefore, I concur.
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Mar 21, 05
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Yeah that was my number one thought. My brother got into a relationship with a crazy woman, married, had kids, and then she fucked up their lives with her crazyness. Anyways this girl I was seeing told me she saw a doctor while she was younger but "he didn't even do anything" and it was a "waste of time" to me thats a clue that she has a problem and she is ignoring it. Oh btw I got rid of her last week but she still manages to send me text messages telling me how much of an asshole I am and how she should've listened to what people said about me. did I mention shes a virgin!!!!!! cool at first but the novelty wore off fast when she told me it would take me a long time to penetrate that shit. Yikes I better run before I start sounding like an asshole.
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Mar 21, 05
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She wanna shop with Stone-ay
Play box with 'Nay She wanna pillow fight in the middle of the night She wanna drive my Benz with five of her friends She wanna creep past the block, spying again She wanna roll with 'Nay, chase skeeos away She wanna fight with lame chicks, blow my date She wanna inspect the rest, kick me to the curb If she find one strand of hair longer than hers She want love in the jacuzzi, rub up in the movies Access to the old crib, keys to the newbie She wanna answer the phone, tattoo her arm That's when I gotta send her back to her mom's She calls me heartbreaker when we apart it makes her Want a piece of paper, scribble down "I Hate Ya" But she knows she loves Stone-nay because Cause she love everything 'Nay says, 'Nay does and uh
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Mar 21, 05
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HAY MAN YOU FREESTYLE GOOD LIKE MY FRIEND ANFONY ~~ RESPECK!
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Mar 21, 05
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so so not shallow!. she sounds like a potentially great girl but she needs time to work throught her issues.
i wish i had your foresight! good luck oh, and no way is that you at macchu pichu in your avatar? thats sweet....ill be there in may!
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Mar 21, 05
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I know of people with PhDs that aren't qualified to diagnose bi-polar.
If you don't want to date someone because you don't like the way they act, pick specifically what bugs you about them. Don't throw it on some bullshit label from a professional field that diagnoses 80% of all people as mentally ill. Aside from that, I wouldn't say you're being shallow. Don't get stuck in a relationship you don't want to be in just because you think you're not happy for the wrong reasons. That would be being shallow, IMHO.
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Mar 21, 05
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Dealing with someone with a mental illness can be a full time job within itself.
It takes a certain type of person to deal with things like that, if you don't think you could handle it I'd suggest not getting involved with the person, it would make things easier for the both of you in the long run.
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Mar 21, 05
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more a smart move than a shallow one...
It's actually an honest thing to do because if you stayed in a relationship you weren't comfortable in that would be a lot more shallow in a way.. ps- your a cute guy so i'm sure there's plenty other girls out there for ya
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Mar 22, 05
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you're allowed to be as shallow as you want especially when you haven't gotten yourself in too deep into the "relationship".
I think we all have a right to be "shallow". If we don't look out for our own happiness, who will?
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