Singledom.

[C_squared]

Yeah manning up is mos def in order.

I went out lasty night talked to some ppl... met some cute girls and we'll just leave it at that. Thx for all the support guys y'all been watching Dr. Phill or something.

[decypher]

Strength from within is better then strength from others.


IMO anyways.

[C_squared]

You've been watching Dr. Phill too, eh.

It's a pretty good show.

[dabbler]

Dr.Phil learned everything he knows from me hahaha

[C_squared]

Originally Posted by dabbler

Dr.Phil learned everything he knows from me hahaha

Indeed. bald men are wise.

[ppcock]

I had the same problem.. I started to dream about her. My life went into serious depression.

But.. Hanging out with good friends and not staying home helped me out a lot.

[decypher]

Originally Posted by C_squared

You've been watching Dr. Phill too, eh.

It's a pretty good show.

nah it's my own patended wisdom. I'm full of it.
I'm always having these discussions lol.

[miss.myra]

People just really have to step back and look at a breakup that is for the better as a gain and not a loss. Everyone always looks at it like you're losing an important person, you're losing companionship, you're losing purpose..but really, you're gaining a lot out of a breakup too, you're gaining a new sense of independence, you're gaining all this opportunity to look out for one person's best interests only- your own, you've got all these chances to make things better for yourself. I think that is often overlooked, but it's an important thing to remember, this is a time to really get to know and even help yourself, and a time of new beginings.

:317:

[Haze]

I think that in many cases people that are mourning over a break up are more upset about what they could have been as opposed to what they really were as a couple. (and during the whole process it is pretty hard to tell the difference between to the two in many cases)

- ë

[Kraig]

Originally Posted by C_squared

So it's been 3 weeks for me being single. 100% my decision. My ex didn't want to break up but the relationship was sucking despite what she thought. I couldn't bare being so bitter all the time and a lot of things would have to have changed in order for things to work out in the long run.

But that's besides the point. Now that I've been single for this long It feels like forever and I find myself missing my ex. I know that this won't result in me asking for her back, 'cause the break-up was pretty messy and it's totaly out of the question. Being apart is for the better anyways-- for her and me.

I guess it's the lonelyness that's killing me right now. I feel so unmotivated and lazy. I feel more inspired to write my thoughts than anything, but I'm lacking happiness, which is what I set myself to find after breaking up w/ her anyways. I know its retardedly soon to be bitching about this, but it WAS a 2year relationship... Is it spose to be this shitty?

fawk. :(

Absolutely it's supposed to be shitty... 2 years is a long time. Enough time for you two to totally integrate each others lives in with one another.

As you re-adjust your priorities and grow accustomed to having more time now, you will go through all of these different emotions and feelings. The fact you're going through them is a good thing though as that is the beginning of dealingn with it.

You mentioned that the break up was better for you both and was messy at the end and although I'm sure you miss your ex, I think you miss more the relationship you had with her. -- That is what will take awhile for you to adjust to not having. In a way, it's like a death in the family and the re-adjustment one has to go through in dealing with that.

Time will certainly help... do not rush into anything else though as it will just supliment the bigger problem and you'll find yourself in a rebound for sure.

[Ragga_Wh0re]

awwwwwwwwwwwwwwww los,sorry to hear about you & Tasha...funny thing is on fri i was going to tell you say hi to her for me.Glad I didnt or else id feel like a jerkface!

Anyways,break ups are rough.I know how much you cared for her and I know how long you held on for and tried to make it work,and definate big ups to you for that.You gave it your best but breaking up was inevitable unfortunately.Its going to be rough for the next few months if not longer.But keep your chest out&chin up because it`ll get better.I suggest a no-contact order,seeing her is just going to make it harder for you to deal.And keep busy to save you from dwelling on it and spiraling downwards into a pit of emo-ness.

I dont suggest rebounding,because rebounds distract you from what youre really after and interrupt the healing process.Take inventory of what you have,what you had...and what you want,and strive for it.And NEVER settle!

Anyways next time i see your drunk behind out Ill buy you a beer mr.lonely;)

*edit*

TOP LEFT LOS!

[ebbomega]

Originally Posted by C_squared

You've been watching Dr. Phill too, eh.

It's a pretty good show.

Oh dear lord, you do need help.

Someone get this man laid, stat!

[ppcock]

i hear ebbodave's mom is a great lay



if you've got low standards

[ebbomega]

2001 called, Marty. They said Mom jokes are played.

[ebbomega]

PS: Your sister called too, but I'm not about to tell you what about. =P

[Silverwinged]

ahhh 'los.
fate is a fickle mistress, but everything happens for a reason. (or so i think)
like myra said, it stops sucking.
and once you realize you are better without the person, life is all aces again.

[Jen-E-03]

I ended a 2 year relationship a while ago now. It ws hard for me at first, cuz even though i knew it was for the best after a few week I hated the thought of being alone. It really doens't help that the weather is so unmotivating either. Give yourself a little while, as a few more weeks pass u'll find things to be much easier than they are now. good luck :)

[ppcock]

2001??? dude you went off on me at trouble a few months ago

2006 called and they said you're a fag.

[brokencrayon]

Originally Posted by kprojekt

yeah buddy... Though I was on the other end of the break up circle, best advice 'keep yourself busy' Make a goal, take up a course or something, and most of all GO out and meet a lot of people!!
break ups always suck, but its pointless trying to put that broken mirror together. Rinse it out and Respect

the broken mirror quote is one of my absolute favorites, it makes too much sense that you couldn't disagree with it even if you wanted to lol.

[TrixX]

Originally Posted by C_squared

So it's been 3 weeks for me being single. 100% my decision. My ex didn't want to break up but the relationship was sucking despite what she thought. I couldn't bare being so bitter all the time and a lot of things would have to have changed in order for things to work out in the long run.

But that's besides the point. Now that I've been single for this long It feels like forever and I find myself missing my ex. I know that this won't result in me asking for her back, 'cause the break-up was pretty messy and it's totaly out of the question. Being apart is for the better anyways-- for her and me.

I guess it's the lonelyness that's killing me right now. I feel so unmotivated and lazy. I feel more inspired to write my thoughts than anything, but I'm lacking happiness, which is what I set myself to find after breaking up w/ her anyways. I know its retardedly soon to be bitching about this, but it WAS a 2year relationship... Is it spose to be this shitty?

fawk. :(

i can relate los! its continued much longer than 3 weeks though...........4 and bit years will do that to ya.
i've been having such a wicked time lately though. still not interested in any such dating or anything but being completely free without a significant other to worry about is fucking fantastic. getting over the lonely feeling is the first step.
surround yourself with good friends, good drinks, and good beats :)

sushi????

[Drafted]

guy,get out there and take the single life for granted, and don't be satisfied untill you pass the hepatitis test with an A, two B's, and a C

[C_squared]

Originally Posted by Drafted

guy,get out there and take the single life for granted, and don't be satisfied untill you pass the hepatitis test with an A, two B's, and a C

that has to be the weirdest advice anyone has given me. thx guy.

[C_squared]

Originally Posted by TrixX

i can relate los! its continued much longer than 3 weeks though...........4 and bit years will do that to ya.
i've been having such a wicked time lately though. still not interested in any such dating or anything but being completely free without a significant other to worry about is fucking fantastic. getting over the lonely feeling is the first step.
surround yourself with good friends, good drinks, and good beats :)

sushi????

Sashimi babe! we're still on... :202:

[ill-esha]

Originally Posted by Drafted

guy,get out there and take the single life for granted, and don't be satisfied untill you pass the hepatitis test with an A, two B's, and a C

Ewwww nasty.

Aw Carlos.. I know how much it sucks. Believe me there is just as much pain being in a relationship as being without one sometimes.... but you have to find some source of inner meditation to collect yourself, find your true intentions, and move forward. (boy, I should write editorial for Shared Vision!) But seriously.. it's soooo important to have your own inner peace going on. Try to just focus on what it is that YOU need right now. Even as part of a couple I treasure and value my personal space and alone time to continue to question and evolve. Do this.. maybe try and go on a trip if you can afford it.. travelling is amazing for the soul. If not, focus on the music, focus on the creative things that make you tick, and let yourself acknowledge the pain, then accept it and begin the process of moving on.

[dabbler]

i think carlos knows how to deal with it all just fine. by getting wasted of course.