disgusted

[justa~gurl]

it seems lately that i've been completely surrounded with girls in relationships where they are abused and bossed around... treated like prisioners in a cage. where they are obviously un-happy yet still they stay.

what is it with men who feel like they have to control every single move "their woman" makes
and what is it with women that makes them feel like they have no other choice but to stay

seriously there is a whole world full of people out there that has yet to be uncovered for each person.. yet they choose to stay with an asshole who abuses them mentally and/or physically.. girls make up excuses why their boyfriend/ husband needs them "his brother passed away" they say.. so that means that you have to take the abuse while your 1 year old child sleeps in the other room? that means that he's allowed to throw things at you and tell you who you can see.. what you can wear.. where you can go, meanwhile he does whatever he damn well pleases?

what makes people think that they have to be with one person for the rest of their life? how logical is it really to stay with the same person while you both grow and change into completely different people? of course some say that the trick is to tough it out and learn to grow together or whatever.. but that doesn't always work as easily as it is suggested..
and i mean, i don't want to add to the lazyness that our later generations have picked up... but where do you pull the plug on this 'relationship' b.s.?


i dunno..hopefully this all makes sense cause i'm kinda ranting .. but yeah.. it just seems to be everywhere and it's disgusting

[cinist]

amen, i have a few good friends in this position.

i'm about ready to set up interventions!

[BAL1STOPHER]

loves a fucked up thing......it makes people irrational thank goodness im love proof

[cinist]

love proof , that's the ultimate gangster. i wish i was gangster

[Revolver]

Originally Posted by justa~gurl

it seems lately that i've been completely surrounded with girls in relationships where they are abused and bossed around... treated like prisioners in a cage. where they are obviously un-happy yet still they stay.

what is it with men who feel like they have to control every single move "their woman" makes
and what is it with women that makes them feel like they have no other choice but to stay

seriously there is a whole world full of people out there that has yet to be uncovered for each person.. yet they choose to stay with an asshole who abuses them mentally and/or physically.. girls make up excuses why their boyfriend/ husband needs them "his brother passed away" they say.. so that means that you have to take the abuse while your 1 year old child sleeps in the other room? that means that he's allowed to throw things at you and tell you who you can see.. what you can wear.. where you can go, meanwhile he does whatever he damn well pleases?

what makes people think that they have to be with one person for the rest of their life? how logical is it really to stay with the same person while you both grow and change into completely different people? of course some say that the trick is to tough it out and learn to grow together or whatever.. but that doesn't always work as easily as it is suggested..
and i mean, i don't want to add to the lazyness that our later generations have picked up... but where do you pull the plug on this 'relationship' b.s.?


i dunno..hopefully this all makes sense cause i'm kinda ranting .. but yeah.. it just seems to be everywhere and it's disgusting

you know people like this?.....holly thats too bad. i feel for them.

....good post.

[Revolver]

You must spread some Karma around before giving it to $userinfo[username] again.

^i hate this shit....when can i give karma to who ever when ever?

[vaporize]

i see so much relationship drama in the public

i guess woman need a strong support of a man, as he being the asshole, woman love him more...? why? maybe it's because they don't want a "nice" guy, maybe just as friends, but boyfriends? no they want an total jerk that shows his strong masculinity

[Goat]

I've stopped feeling sorry for these people. Each and every one of us has the power to put a stop to the things that make us unhappy. 99.99%^ of the time it's hard as fuck to do it, but it still has to be done.Anyone who doesn't act an that is a chump.

[Miche Me]

^ I aggree....The problem with these situations is that when you are in them, you cant see any other way- but the way it is....its not until you come out of the situation that you really realize just how fucked up it really was...getting out on the other side is the hard part. People are blinded by "love".....and its hard to get an objective perspective when you are the one in the situation...and its really hard to watch someone in the stuation from the outside...

[ebbomega]

Originally Posted by Revolver

You must spread some Karma around before giving it to $userinfo[username] again.

^i hate this shit....when can i give karma to who ever when ever?

so that people can't make a fake account just to pump up their karma.

"[Karma] is something if you give it away, you end up having more."

[Ragga_Wh0re]

i dont feel sorry for bitches like that.Obviously theyre still there because they like it in some sort of sick and twisted way.If they really were displeased with thier situation they would do something about it,there are resources for women who are being abused...however those resources cant be forced on women who do not want or think that they need help.

Its like junkies,you cant force them to get help they need to realize they have a problem on thier own and be proactive.

[Capt.AA]

Originally Posted by justa~gurl

it seems lately that i've been completely surrounded with girls in relationships where they are abused and bossed around... treated like prisioners in a cage. where they are obviously un-happy yet still they stay.

what is it with men who feel like they have to control every single move "their woman" makes
and what is it with women that makes them feel like they have no other choice but to stay

seriously there is a whole world full of people out there that has yet to be uncovered for each person.. yet they choose to stay with an asshole who abuses them mentally and/or physically.. girls make up excuses why their boyfriend/ husband needs them "his brother passed away" they say.. so that means that you have to take the abuse while your 1 year old child sleeps in the other room? that means that he's allowed to throw things at you and tell you who you can see.. what you can wear.. where you can go, meanwhile he does whatever he damn well pleases?

what makes people think that they have to be with one person for the rest of their life? how logical is it really to stay with the same person while you both grow and change into completely different people? of course some say that the trick is to tough it out and learn to grow together or whatever.. but that doesn't always work as easily as it is suggested..
and i mean, i don't want to add to the lazyness that our later generations have picked up... but where do you pull the plug on this 'relationship' b.s.?


i dunno..hopefully this all makes sense cause i'm kinda ranting .. but yeah.. it just seems to be everywhere and it's disgusting

imo...no man can call himself a real man...if he has ever hit or abused his SO. No other way about it.

[beedub]

Originally Posted by Capt.AA

imo...no man can call himself a real man...if he has ever hit or abused his SO. No other way about it.

Someone I know recently offed herself in this type of situation. She had a bad relationship with a guy, she told her mom about it.

The guy called her abusive names. And had hit her sometimes, how much I don't know. He got money from her and may have lived off her.

She was trying to break off the relationship but could not get rid of him. She was a stripper & he is a DJ in a club where she worked a lot.

There was a party at her place and she had a big argument with him. Party broke up & he says he went home, but he was the last person to have seen her. Some furniture and stuff was flipped over in the livinroom so either there was a fight or someone looking for something, or she went hysterical and busted up her place a bit. Next day she is found in her place, an apparent suicide. The guy was cleared but it looks really suspicious & even if he didn't do anything it's clear he made her life miserable.

Guy had the nerve to show up at the funeral and act like he was all shook up & no idea why this would happen.

I don't know why people stay in these situations, so destructive, it's like they want the conflict.

[Capt.AA]

Originally Posted by Ragga_Wh0re

i dont feel sorry for bitches like that.Obviously theyre still there because they like it in some sort of sick and twisted way.If they really were displeased with thier situation they would do something about it,there are resources for women who are being abused...however those resources cant be forced on women who do not want or think that they need help.

Its like junkies,you cant force them to get help they need to realize they have a problem on thier own and be proactive.

if you brainwash someone good enough..or condition a response like "o..maybe he won't do it next time...it's only happens sometimes" it is really easy for girls to be stuck. You've obviously never talked to anyone who was been directly abused because you would have a better understanding...I used to think the same way until I met my ex...

Originally Posted by beedub

Someone I know recently offed herself in this type of situation. She had a bad relationship with a guy, she told her mom about it.

The guy called her abusive names. And had hit her sometimes, how much I don't know. He got money from her and may have lived off her.

She was trying to break off the relationship but could not get rid of him. She was a stripper & he is a DJ in a club where she worked a lot.

There was a party at her place and she had a big argument with him. Party broke up & he says he went home, but he was the last person to have seen her. Some furniture and stuff was flipped over in the livinroom so either there was a fight or someone looking for something, or she went hysterical and busted up her place a bit. Next day she is found in her place, an apparent suicide. The guy was cleared but it looks really suspicious & even if he didn't do anything it's clear he made her life miserable.

Guy had the nerve to show up at the funeral and act like he was all shook up & no idea why this would happen.

I don't know why people stay in these situations, so destructive, it's like they want the conflict.

that's ridiculous. My ex girlfriend was in an abusive relationship before me and it was just mind boggling the things she went through...and it's just twisted to listen to the stories of how they thought the loved the person or whatever...probably something I'll never understand...but hell I'll never be abusive so I'm doin my part:D

[<mouse~]

Originally Posted by Ragga_Wh0re

i dont feel sorry for bitches like that.Obviously theyre still there because they like it in some sort of sick and twisted way.If they really were displeased with thier situation they would do something about it,there are resources for women who are being abused...however those resources cant be forced on women who do not want or think that they need help.

Its like junkies,you cant force them to get help they need to realize they have a problem on thier own and be proactive.

Well, I'm not going to pretend I know these people, and the reasons behind why they stay, but wow "Ragga_Wh0re" what an ignorant comment to make
have you ever heard of the cycle of violence? It's not a matter of enjoying the violence or abuse, but a feeling of security. Maybe you should read this -----> http://www.pbs.org/kued/nosafeplace/.../domestic.html

I do feel sorry for people like that, when you're immersed in something like that, it's very hard to see the situation objectively, or to comprehend what changes could be made.

I hope your friends are doing ok justa~gurl, I'm assuming all you can do is just be supportive and there for them when they need it?

[Ragga_Wh0re]

Originally Posted by Capt.AA

if you brainwash someone good enough..or condition a response like "o..maybe he won't do it next time...it's only happens sometimes" it is really easy for girls to be stuck. You've obviously never talked to anyone who was been directly abused because you would have a better understanding...I used to think the same way until I met my ex..

hi fucko i used to be in an abusive relationship,he hit me once...i beat him back then let it slide.He hit me twice i broke 3 of his ribs pawned his jewellery cut up his armani suits and trashed his condo:)so dont hand me that shit bud.

and yeah,ive heard of the cycle of violence mouse cuz I lived it.So again,dont hand me that shit.YOU DONT LIKE IT DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT.

straight up.

[impure]

there are many diffrent reasons for people to stay in those relationships. i was with a guy for 2 years and afraid to leave because i didn't see a way. but i did it. just leave. it's easier than you think.

[Capt.AA]

Originally Posted by Ragga_Wh0re

hi fucko i used to be in an abusive relationship,he hit me once...i beat him back then let it slide.He hit me twice i broke 3 of his ribs pawned his jewellery cut up his armani suits and trashed his condo:)so dont hand me that shit bud.

and yeah,ive heard of the cycle of violence mouse cuz I lived it.So again,dont hand me that shit.YOU DONT LIKE IT DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT.

straight up.

look drain the piss out of your corn flakes this morning and chill. what you posted was completely assanine and insensitive. It shocks me that you actually experience this type of bullshit and for your opinion to be so adamant. I apologize if I offended you...but now you are e-threatening people?

straight up...shut the fuck up or post with some common sense. It makes you look like a moron.

[Ragga_Wh0re]

^youre a moron buddy!

I think you need to re-read what I had said and shut up cuz youre a moron who doesnt have a firm grasp on logic or the english language.

Post with common sense?Dude,how is anything ive said anything but common sense?Assinine and insensitive?Thats REALLY FUNNY!And contradictory as hell too.

[Capt.AA]

^^

Originally Posted by <mouse~

Well, I'm not going to pretend I know these people, and the reasons behind why they stay, but wow "Ragga_Wh0re" what an ignorant comment to make
have you ever heard of the cycle of violence? It's not a matter of enjoying the violence or abuse, but a feeling of security. Maybe you should read this -----> http://www.pbs.org/kued/nosafeplace/.../domestic.html

I do feel sorry for people like that, when you're immersed in something like that, it's very hard to see the situation objectively, or to comprehend what changes could be made.

I hope your friends are doing ok justa~gurl, I'm assuming all you can do is just be supportive and there for them when they need it?

that's also another member who agreed with me that it was an out there post. how could you deny that? Don't get so pissed because we disagree with you. Message board for a reason. You have posted twice in a row in response with me and have been really brash for no reason. I'm not in mood to play intraweb argument wars, I left the preschool playground years ago. Once again. Chill.

[tiedye]

Originally Posted by Ragga_Wh0re

i dont feel sorry for bitches like that.Obviously theyre still there because they like it in some sort of sick and twisted way.If they really were displeased with thier situation they would do something about it,there are resources for women who are being abused...however those resources cant be forced on women who do not want or think that they need help.

Its like junkies,you cant force them to get help they need to realize they have a problem on thier own and be proactive.

Most ignorant post ever. Seriously, dude. Wow. Don't you know that fear is the strongest emotion we have? It's hard to overcome something like that, when you're living in fear every day of your life.

So you were in one of these kind of relationships. That doesn't mean that because you had the ability to fight back every other woman out there does.

I'm beginning to think your ego has swallowed any lingering traces of kindness you *MAY* have ever posessed.

[BongMan]

Originally Posted by Ragga_Wh0re

hi fucko i used to be in an abusive relationship,he hit me once...i beat him back then let it slide.He hit me twice i broke 3 of his ribs pawned his jewellery cut up his armani suits and trashed his condo:)so dont hand me that shit bud.

and yeah,ive heard of the cycle of violence mouse cuz I lived it.So again,dont hand me that shit.YOU DONT LIKE IT DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT.

straight up.

you sound rather abusive yourselfe I think I would wanna meet a pitbull in a dark alley instead....

[Liqwid]

she dosn't really have an ego.........or atleast a big one...

I see what shes saying tho; its almost like growing up. its gotta change, and its up to me to change it. not anyone eles.

and its not about fighting back, its about going to a safe place.

and there are safe places out there........

.dalyn.

[Lil Jenna]

Maybe they stay because they think they will change. Its sad but true.


Sorry about your friend Amanda...

[Miche Me]

Originally Posted by Ragga_Wh0re

^youre a moron buddy!

I think you need to re-read what I had said and shut up cuz youre a moron who doesnt have a firm grasp on logic or the english language.

Post with common sense?Dude,how is anything ive said anything but common sense?Assinine and insensitive?Thats REALLY FUNNY!And contradictory as hell too.

GAWD...You are a class A BITCH....