Starting To Rethink my Relationship. - Page 2

mikey · #26 (**permalink**) Apr 25, 06

^^^

thats awsome

stephen_c · #27 (**permalink**) Apr 25, 06

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Originally Posted by Nev

i think all relationships have high and low points. You've just gotta figure out what you want, and if what you have is what you want. If not, don't bother with it a second longer! If you're considering marrying this guy, you'd better be really into him! And be willing to put up with ALL of him.

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Originally Posted by miSsy_chriSsy

If you're not happy, then why waste your time?! Don't settle!! There's the perfect person out there waiting for you, you just need to let yourself find them... and never hold yourself back!!!

Trust me!! I found my prince charming.

both of u should take daily horoscopes less seriously.

Discord · #28 (**permalink**) Apr 25, 06

... Klingon's sort of... insult eachother..

"I love you" kinda translates to "its not that unbarable to be around you."

and hitting on one another is sort of more like "Your forhead is big, and you smell bad.....(slap in the face) Mate me now"

its fun....

AND to speak klingon is VERY hard.. there is all these Diffrent nouns and tones. Diffrent add on to make your words stronger...

If you say it in wrong pronoun and tone.. you could get hurt....
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I get in ruts... and the problem more likely has to do with my own insucurities about being a good lover rather then actually getting bored.

Settling is the LAST think i wasn ither of us to do.
no doubt in my head hes "it"

I just wish there was away to get that drug like feeling back

impure · #29 (**permalink**) Apr 25, 06

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Originally Posted by Discord

... Klingon's sort of... insult eachother..

"I love you" kinda translates to "its not that unbarable to be around you."

and hitting on one another is sort of more like "Your forhead is big, and you smell bad.....(slap in the face) Mate me now"

its fun....

AND to speak klingon is VERY hard.. there is all these Diffrent nouns and tones. Diffrent add on to make your words stronger...

If you say it in wrong pronoun and tone.. you could get hurt....
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wow.
that takes the cake.
someone needs a new hobby

cubed · #30 (**permalink**) Apr 25, 06

you lost me at, "like borg you share every inch of your being.".

ebbomega · #31 (**permalink**) Apr 25, 06

^^ Really? She had me at that point.

<3

just kidding... i dated a geek chick once. Don't need to learn that lesson twice

Lyndzie, I hate to say it, but maybe putting marriage pressure on the relationship before either of you were fully grown adults may have had a big part of it.

There are always lulls in every relationship. This is just human nature. Not every part of love is happy-fuzzy-gut-feeling. In fact, very little of the stuff that matters really is. Yes, that's nice and all, and definately a good way to decide who you might be happy with your entire life, but it misses key things in building a family.

But fuck. You're younger than me and I'm not even ready for a family at my age. And I know sure as hell that I definately didn't know enough about the world at 21 to even really have much of a clue what kind of person I wanted to be with.

My last relationship was one of those "we'll probably get married sometime" ones. And the thing is we both got so involved in the whole "Wow! Someone to spend our lives with!" that I know I for one (and I'm guessing her as well) blindsided myself to all the annoyances and things that bug me about her. It took me two and a half years to decide that I really didn't like this person that much.

So my advice is drop this whole marriage idea if you want to save your relationship. wait. It's not like you're going to go through menopause at age 25, is it? Isn't it a little bit soon for you to start having midlife crises wondering where all the time went and when the hell are you going to have children anyways? Most people I find hit that point around 30 or so. If it's really that special a relationship that can endure anything, then it can endure a little bit of growing up on either of your sides. If you don't allow for that to happen, then you're going to get married and _THEN_ grow up. And you might find out at the end of it all that you're both very different people than you were when you started, with different priorities and different desires in life. Then you're stuck with a spouse you may not really be that compatible with.

Love and family is a shitload more than just butterflies in your stomach. If you think that's all there is to it, then what the fuck are you doing getting married?

Oh, and this is a little personal moralism on a side note, but I'd also ditch that whole no-sex-before-marriage policy. Seriously, nothing scares me more than getting married to someone and then finding out that they're crap in bed, and not really willing to learn anything sexually. It's like.... gee, great, a lifetime of bad sex. What a great idea!

Just my 2 cents. Probably unwarranted but whatever, my opinions usually are.

Qa'pla in whatever you do.

Discord · #32 (**permalink**) Apr 25, 06

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Originally Posted by ebbomega

^^ Really? She had me at that point.

<3

just kidding... i dated a geek chick once. Don't need to learn that lesson twice

Lyndzie, I hate to say it, but maybe putting marriage pressure on the relationship before either of you were fully grown adults may have had a big part of it.

There are always lulls in every relationship. This is just human nature. Not every part of love is happy-fuzzy-gut-feeling. In fact, very little of the stuff that matters really is. Yes, that's nice and all, and definately a good way to decide who you might be happy with your entire life, but it misses key things in building a family.

But fuck. You're younger than me and I'm not even ready for a family at my age. And I know sure as hell that I definately didn't know enough about the world at 21 to even really have much of a clue what kind of person I wanted to be with.

My last relationship was one of those "we'll probably get married sometime" ones. And the thing is we both got so involved in the whole "Wow! Someone to spend our lives with!" that I know I for one (and I'm guessing her as well) blindsided myself to all the annoyances and things that bug me about her. It took me two and a half years to decide that I really didn't like this person that much.

So my advice is drop this whole marriage idea if you want to save your relationship. wait. It's not like you're going to go through menopause at age 25, is it? Isn't it a little bit soon for you to start having midlife crises wondering where all the time went and when the hell are you going to have children anyways? Most people I find hit that point around 30 or so. If it's really that special a relationship that can endure anything, then it can endure a little bit of growing up on either of your sides. If you don't allow for that to happen, then you're going to get married and _THEN_ grow up. And you might find out at the end of it all that you're both very different people than you were when you started, with different priorities and different desires in life. Then you're stuck with a spouse you may not really be that compatible with.

Love and family is a shitload more than just butterflies in your stomach. If you think that's all there is to it, then what the fuck are you doing getting married?

Oh, and this is a little personal moralism on a side note, but I'd also ditch that whole no-sex-before-marriage policy. Seriously, nothing scares me more than getting married to someone and then finding out that they're crap in bed, and not really willing to learn anything sexually. It's like.... gee, great, a lifetime of bad sex. What a great idea!

Just my 2 cents. Probably unwarranted but whatever, my opinions usually are.

Qa'pla in whatever you do.

Lets say I ditch the Emo kid and marry you insted

we can run off to Vegas and get married trek style....

you can be the data to my borg queen ;)

and in all seriousness... true... I think i'm going to put our plans on hold... Take a brake. be "on my own."

with this new job and school and my own place... its kinda nice to be free.

cubed · #33 (**permalink**) Apr 25, 06

^I think that is the most sense I've ever seen you make.

KUDOS TO YOU!

dj_soo · #34 (**permalink**) Apr 25, 06

is "klingon sex" a euphimism for rough sex (kind a like "monkey sex" or do you guys actually pretend to be klingons when you get it on :o.

cubed · #35 (**permalink**) Apr 25, 06

^my guess is they actually role play.

This is quickly turning into a mature situation.

dj_soo · #36 (**permalink**) Apr 25, 06

wow.

well, whatever turns your crank i guess. If he's willing to role-play klingon sex with you I'd say he's a keeper.

Goodfellow · #37 (**permalink**) Apr 29, 06

omg! I found a pic of Discord's BF !

Discord · #38 (**permalink**) May 01, 06

last night I dressed up like a ferengi

and got my freak on.

oh it was fun.

Cdn_Brdr · #39 (**permalink**) May 01, 06

I'm sure I'm gonna get a shit load of flack for this but whatever....

It seems to me, judging by all your whacked out fucking posts, that you are trying way too hard to be different or shocking.... way to be a rebel.

What ever happened to getting your ears pointed elfy?

#40 (**permalink**) May 01, 06

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Originally Posted by Cdn_Brdr

I'm sure I'm gonna get a shit load of flack for this but whatever....

It seems to me, judging by all your whacked out fucking posts, that you are trying way too hard to be different or shocking.... way to be a rebel.

What ever happened to getting your ears pointed elfy?

<3

I kind of agree. Weren't you just posting a few months ago how you were getting married?

ps - I think Robyn called the demise of the relationship in the post.

pps - this thread makes me miss Robyn.

Discord · #41 (**permalink**) May 01, 06

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Originally Posted by Cdn_Brdr

I'm sure I'm gonna get a shit load of flack for this but whatever....

It seems to me, judging by all your whacked out fucking posts, that you are trying way too hard to be different or shocking.... way to be a rebel.

What ever happened to getting your ears pointed elfy?

I think I got over the shocking different rebeling thing a while ago..and if I was going to be like that.. I think i'd pick a better place to do it then a raver website, where most of the pople know me in person anyways.

were still getting married. After moving away from him I thought we could use this time to grow up a little as people, Insted of rushing into marrage right away (thanks to ebbomega who always makes me think)

We both talked about it, took a step back and decided to hold off the wedding for a while... We're going to get an APT. together insted of just jumping in head first.. which we are both good at doing without seeing the pit falls.

AND

I got a consoltation when I was in London...and my ears arn't the right shape to get cut they'd look nothing like elf ears, and most likely reject so no elf ears for me.