Guys who Hit Girls

[GiggleyGal]

Originally posted by luvs2slut:
And Cheryl.. hey :) remember when i was drunk.. i kept sayn that u were 2 cool and we just have to hang out :) Anyways yeah.. i think my main problem is.. i don't wanna be alone.. and i don't wanna hurt my b/f... cause i know he's had a fucked up life.. blah.. this shit is drama and draining.

Lynda, u know this much, u don't deserve 2 be treated like this. As 4 the fear of being alone, don't worry about that rite now. Worrying about getting out of this and regaining your life back including, your friends etc... Your friends will be your comfort and your feeling of not being alone. U have 2 do something 4 u!!!!Don't worry about his feelings!!!!

[luvs2slut]

if ur takn the name luvs2slut too seriously then you obviously don't know nothn bout me. I only made this account to catch the eye of a friend of mine on here cause i didn't think she was really talkn to me anywhere else. The name don't mean nothn so don't get into that. And there is a lot that happens over an almost 4 year period. You think I'm immature.. as if i don't know how things work.. what i should do .. blah blah. things get in the way... responsibility gets in the way.

I really do value your opinion considering how little you know bout my situation. this thread was created when i was upset. he hit me yeah. but i ain't never asked nobody to take my side. I admit i'm the retard 4 stickn around. And am I some supreme god? No. I never said I was. But this guy is my friend..i love him. If it comes down to the fact that I have to leave him I don't think i would really ever completely give him up. I could never just turn my back on him. It would kill me to see him hurt... but unless you have been in my shoes.. in my situation.. you could never fully understand. So unless you have somehow viewed the past 4 years of my life.. seen every damn second of it.. then anything you really say is speculation and assumptions.

I came here to vent.. and yeah i value opinions and advice given to me from actual open minded people who don't automatically believe the worse in a person. I appreciate

[c.tard]

"it would kill me to see him hurt..."

ever thought of the fact that if you stick around to keep from hurting him, it might just kill you?

don't you ever fear for you life? it starts out kicking, hitting.. punching. for godssake hes thrown you at a wall! What's next? beating your face into the cement on some back alley?

do you have no self-respect? staying with him, letting him beat on you, letting him ruin what self-esteem you may have, just because "it makes him happy"

ever thought of making yourself happy?

y'know, i really don't think you should be complaining about him hitting you. you bring it upon yourself JUST BY STAYING WITH HIM. you can leave, he's not forcing you (i mean really its' not like he's tied you to a chair in his living room)

don't be so dependant on others, it wont get you anywhere.

[stabmyhead]

/me rolls her eyes.

Last time I stop by the asylum to help the mentally handicapp.

Just because advice isn't as happy or sympathetic as you had hoped it would be, does not mean the person is narrow minded and here to knock you down. Everyone "judges", by reading this thread, the person has already formed some sort of judgement on you.

I may not understand your situation, or know you personally, but there's this neat thing called common sense, if you are being hit, either retaliate or get the fuck outta there. Love doesn't come in the form of pain unless you're a masochist, or you just generally enjoy being depressed. You say it would kill you to see him hurt, but does it hurt him to see you hurt? Does it hurt him to see you in pain because he hit you? Obviously not if this is happening a lot. But then again, I AM JUST MAKING BLIND ASSUMPTIONS BECAUSE I DON'T KNOW YOU!! AIYA~

By the sounds of it, it sounds like you are gonna stick with him. Now I'm just going to point at you and laugh.

HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA. I hope my bf LOVES me too some time soon, I would really like to see him hit me hard. I think it'd really show me how much he cares.

Oh and btw, we have this nifty function call PMing if you want to catch your friend. I find it works much more effectively.

[stabmyhead]

Whatever Cheryl, you have not seen every little aspect of her life and their relationship, you would not understand. Don't even try to use your common sense here sweetie.

Oh another thing, about being immature. People that depend highly on others, are not mature people. They are not emotionally mature, the ability to be an independent and functioning person makes one mature.

Hmmm... for some reason the song SELF ESTEEM by Offspring is ringing in my head.

"The more you suffer, the more it shows you really care"

Or should it be, "The more you suffer, the more it shows THEY DON'T CARE"

meh.

[Joanne]

it's easy for people to give advice when they're not in the situation, but it's much harder for people to actually make the choices when they're in the relationship.

but if your perception is so blurred because of this dependence, then I think you need some time away from this guy. take a break and concentrate on you.

--Joanne :P

[*STARFISH*]

..
i know how you feel.. my ex hit me..
its a hard thing to leave..
just be strong =)

[luvs2slut]

"I may not understand your situation"

no you don't understand my situation. simple as that. And the lyrics in a hurtn song really have no place here. And oh .. another thing bout immature people... they often assume shit when they shouldn't.

I pay my way in life.. i haven't lived with my parents since i was 16. Nobody gives me handouts.. nobody gives me help. So really now.. do not talk to me about maturity and my ability to be independent.

[stabmyhead]

You can assume that because I don't dump my garbage onto other people, I perfer to keep my personal life out of the public. I'm not going to argue about your mental and emotional independence/maturity, no point, you're just going to try to convince me how hardcore mature you are.

Boohoo, I assume you don't want to leave your bf cuz he is most likely the one you are living with right now and you don't want to lose a place to live or have to *gasp* crawl back home to live with your parents. Btw, what do your parents think about him beating you? Do they care? Meh.

Another teenage love sob story.

Yawn.

[bob]

i threw eggs at stabmyhead OK
she's been in your situation so shut the fuck up
just cuz she doesn't publicize it like you luvs2cryforattention

[bob]

PS don't rag on ANY offspring songs

[Rhianna]

Well, I may not know you or your situation either. However I came pretty damn close. Let's just say that there is a person in my family who thought it was pretty cool to hit the women he "loved", because he was an insecure bastard on a power trip. Anyway same old shit, it took her forever to leave him because they were married, they had 2 kids and owned a house not to mention years of time invested into the relationship. So instead she stuck by him until it got so bad she had to go into hiding for the first 3 months after she left him. Now clearly he wasn't like that from the start. It happened slowly. Just don't let it get to that point.

Why do girls in this situation take so god damn long to come to their senses? I don’t care what the situation is. He hit you. He clearly has issues.

[luvs2slut]

"teenage sob love story" "boo hoo" "hardcore mature"

first I'm 20. And i ain't cryn. I'm bitchn cause i can't get out of a seemingly simple situation. And I am mature. not hardcore mature.. i'm sure in your childish brain you have some definition of... HARDCORE mature, but I'm not interested. Here is the thing that made me laugh though.. you're an idiot.

-"I assume you don't want to leave your bf cuz he is most likely the one you are living with right now and you don't want to lose a place to live or have to *gasp* crawl back home to live with your parents."

First of all HE lives with ME. I pay $680 in rent a month, plus $300 per month in bills. And I manage. That is what we call maturity and responsibility. Why would i crawl back to my parents when for two years, i have been paying for my rent ,and bills ,and all that 'grown up shit' that one day you will find out bout.

*gasp*

[Guice_39]

Fuck man were sposed to post shit like this to help each other out, not to start a damn war between people. Like seriously, this fightin is just gonna go on and you peeps are just gonna keep talking shit about each other, in the end it will prove nothin.

[bob]

Originally posted by luvs2slut:
First of all HE lives with ME. I pay $680 in rent a month, plus $300 per month in bills. And I manage. That is what we call maturity and responsibility. Why would i crawl back to my parents when for two years, i have been paying for my rent ,and bills ,and all that 'grown up shit' that one day you will find out bout.

*gasp*

guess what...

1) anyone can live on their own and pay rent. it has nothing to do with maturity. anyone can get a job and find a place. fuck, i live on my own...

2) sounds like your bf's a moocher if you're paying that much for rent & bills. i bet he doesn't even have a job. give him the boot, call the cops, get a restraining order, move, unlist your name from the phone book. take some RESPONSIBILITY. *note* responsibility includes taking care of yourself, and you don't seem to be doing too good of a job by the sounds of it (ie. taking a couple shots to the head)!

if you were as mature and responsible and you're claiming to be, you probably wouldn't have gotten into this situation in the first place... you're practically harboring a felon (which is a crime in itself).

*gasp*

get a clue woman. nobody's gonna feel for you around here, especially when you prance around with a name like that. i'm sorry to be an asshole about this, but any girl that doesn't have the sense to find her way out of an abusive relationship deserves to be bitched out... tough luv bitch.

the fact that you mentioned that your bf lives with you, and yet you pay all the bills... makes you look like more of a fool. it doesn't make you look more mature, it doesn't make him look like any more of an asshole than he probably is. it makes YOU look like a fucken fool and that's the bottom line.

[luvs2slut]

:) yes he is a moocher. But half the things in the apartment are his. and he is going to school. there is always more to a story ya know.. it doesn't all appear within one post. But clearly you think you know me. You think you can judge my maturity level by something I have written in this forum. and as for not being a mature person blah blah.. cause i got into this situation in the first place. No I wasn't very mature when I did. I was 16 years old. But if you wanna question my life, my maturity, my responsibility... you might wanna consider that here... ya don't see all sides of me.. just the one that is complaining that i got a shithead for a b/f.

And i never asked 4 anyone to feel sorry for me. And I ain't now. By what I have written I think I have proved that I understand this is my problem and that it is only me that can get me out of it. Get a clue. And luvs2slut..... i'll prance round with this fuckn name all i likes and if you hate on me fine. Cause I don't take shit literally and you probably shouldn't either.. Shit if ya did that ya might be inclined to walk round.. i dunno.. stabbing bitches heads.

[stabmyhead]

I doubt you're going to end up leaving him, so enjoy your life with him, let it be filled with happiness, who knows, maybe you'll become a masochist and enjoy it when he beats you.

FOOL! OMG! You're 20! Your mother popped you out of her cunt a year before mine did, you are so much more experienced than me now! I don't have to get beat by my bf to know that it's wrong and love doesn't justify all.

By the sounds of it, sounds like you gave up your life for him, paying all the rent and working while he goes and gets a education and whatnot.

Whatever, have fun, hurting and beating people up is a great stress reliever, maybe you guys can go round for round... I have some boxing gloves if you want.

/me shakes her head at girl who started thread.

[luvs2slut]

Last time I stop by the asylum to help the mentally handicapp.


*cough* and lol

[NinjaBoy]

Whatever happend to keep it simple stupid?

Boyfriend is abusive.
Girlfriend stays with boy cause she feels pitty.

Equals= Unhealthy relationship

Unhealthy relationship means you should not be together.

Thus logic says leave.
Of course, you only want to feel pitty and validated by creating this thread so I'm wasting my bandwith talking to you

[luvs2slut]

uh.. how many times have i said i ain't lookn for pity? do i have to pound all your heads to get you to realize this? duh.

here once again.. i know it's my problem, and it has a simple solution that I have to bring myself to do. Either I do.. or I don't.. But boy if I wanna bitch.. then i'll bitch.

[NinjaBoy]

Originally posted by luvs2slut:
uh.. how many times have i said i ain't lookn for pity? do i have to pound all your heads to get you to realize this? duh.

here once again.. i know it's my problem, and it has a simple solution that I have to bring myself to do. Either I do.. or I don't.. But boy if I wanna bitch.. then i'll bitch.

Bitch in public for everyone to see

Expect the public to bitch back at you.

[luvs2slut]

all i'm sayn little one i ain't lookn for pity. and i'll bitch right back at you.

[stabmyhead]

/me walks down street with a sign "MY BF HIT ME" and then wonders why everyone is looking at her

[luvs2slut]

* luvs2slut logs on to F&K with a post that says "my boyfriend hit me" and wonders how anyone could compare that to walking down the street with a battered bitch sign

[lay_z_carter]

* luvs2slut changes her name to lay_z_carter cause she is stickn round