Breaking up...

[MissBehavior]

Sucks.

Pass the good vibes, please. :(

[lildonkey]

Breaking up does suck... how long were you guys together?

Time heals everything.

[MissBehavior]

4.5 years.

This blows. :(

[James]

*hugz*

[*SunShyne*]

Ohhh... hun.... I am so sorry. It hurts, I know... but you get through these things. Whatever the reasons are, I'm a strong believer in fate and karma, and good things happen to good people. Things just have a way of working out for you.

Take care.

[stabmyhead]

This will be a great time to re-evaluate where you are in life, do things that you didn't do while in a relationship and get back to being awesome on your own. Life goes on and there are way worse things in life than heartbreak. Learn to take better care of yourself, who cares about some dude.

[project.one]

Go out and spend some time with good friends.

[Bitchin]

of course it suck... i dont think anyone like breaking up, no matter if the reason is good or bad.

chin up lisa.

[veN]

Originally Posted by stabmyhead

This will be a great time to re-evaluate where you are in life, do things that you didn't do while in a relationship and get back to being awesome on your own. Life goes on and there are way worse things in life than heartbreak. Learn to take better care of yourself, who cares about some dude.

QFT!!!

[ash1ee]

hug.
come drink margs with us hun.
we'll cheer you up.
<3

[Carrie]

it's myra and rhia's birthday at lotus.

come join us !

[MissBehavior]

Thanks, but tonight's an "in" night...Gotta work tomorrow too.

[mapleleaf4ever]

*huuuuugs* :)

[t-skywalker]

breaking up really is lame:( trust me when i say i know and im so sorry ur going thru the pain<3 hugs*

[tiedye]

Perfect time to master the art of drinking alone.

[Liqwid]

awww *hugz*

yeah my bf recently told me "we should just be friends" i really don't know why.....we never talked about it.....but its what he said....

i this feeling

[robyn]

summer is an awesome time to be single!

[Guineveire]

I know how you feel. It took me 2 months to get over my last breakup and I didnt even know him all that much yet.
It's just a blow to the heart.
But I am all good now, and ready to shop for a new man! haha :P

[lildonkey]

Was this yours and his first long term relationship?

If so you will end up getting back together.. theres an 80% chance of that happening i think..

and after 4.5 years... trust me when i say it's not COMPLETELY over.. i don't think it ever will be

[SEAN!]

Originally Posted by stabmyhead

This will be a great time to re-evaluate where you are in life, do things that you didn't do while in a relationship and get back to being awesome on your own. Life goes on and there are way worse things in life than heartbreak. Learn to take better care of yourself, who cares about some dude.

thats true but its also pretty hard, 4.5 years is a long time to spend with soem person and then say, fuck it who cares about them.

you'll probably think about the person on occasion for the rest of your life even long after you have moved on.

[mojo]

I feel your pain Lisa. Breakups are shit, no matter what side you are on.

I wish you the best Panarama friend : )

[stabmyhead]

Originally Posted by SEAN!

thats true but its also pretty hard, 4.5 years is a long time to spend with soem person and then say, fuck it who cares about them.

you'll probably think about the person on occasion for the rest of your life even long after you have moved on.

I've had really long relationships as well, sometimes things don't work out, and that's okay because it opens the door to other possibilities in life. People need time to heal, and thinking about the other person, or seeing them after the initial break up (although sometimes unavodiable) is a horrible idea. Best to just say, "fuck it!" and not continue to pour salt on an open wound. Sure after you've moved on, you may think about them from time to time, but it'll be more like how you think about an old classmate.

How you feel is dependent on your attitude and outlook on the situation. You can sit around feeling sad about the fact that the break up happened, or you can go out and make something of yourself. Harness all those intense feelings of breaking up and put it towards something useful. It's a great motivator and means of inspiration.

[lildonkey]

Originally Posted by stabmyhead

I've had really long relationships as well, sometimes things don't work out, and that's okay because it opens the door to other possibilities in life. People need time to heal, and thinking about the other person, or seeing them after the initial break up (although sometimes unavodiable) is a horrible idea. Best to just say, "fuck it!" and not continue to pour salt on an open wound. Sure after you've moved on, you may think about them from time to time, but it'll be more like how you think about an old classmate.

How you feel is dependent on your attitude and outlook on the situation. You can sit around feeling sad about the fact that the break up happened, or you can go out and make something of yourself. Harness all those intense feelings of breaking up and put it towards something useful. It's a great motivator and means of inspiration.

I personally find that girls have an easier time moving on from relationships then guys do. I find we get a bit more dependent on the girl then the girl does with us, and when the breakup happens girls can go clubbing and immediately have 10 guys hit on them... doesn't mean they will be a slut and hook up with them, but right after a breakup i'm sure it's a help to their confidence etc... guys don't have that luxury after breakups...

unless you're brad pitt.... then you could walk by a church and have the nuns run out and flash you

[Bitchin]

Originally Posted by lildonkey

I personally find that girls have an easier time moving on from relationships then guys do. I find we get a bit more dependent on the girl then the girl does with us, and when the breakup happens girls can go clubbing and immediately have 10 guys hit on them... doesn't mean they will be a slut and hook up with them, but right after a breakup i'm sure it's a help to their confidence etc... guys don't have that luxury after breakups...

unless you're brad pitt.... then you could walk by a church and have the nuns run out and flash you

see if ones more dependent on the other, its not gonna work... that why its prob harder for the one that is and easier for the one that isnt.. for the one that isnt, its like taking a fucking huge ass load off your shoulders. the dependency should be even between the two of you!

[lildonkey]

Originally Posted by Bitchin

see if ones more dependent on the other, its not gonna work... that why its prob harder for the one that is and easier for the one that isnt.. for the one that isnt, its like taking a fucking huge ass load off your shoulders. the dependency should be even between the two of you!

Note: Emotionally dependant is what i meant... and i don't think theres a problem with one being more emotionally dependant then the other.. so long as it's nothing extreme like one of them can't be apart from eachother... but i think this is going a bit off topic...


back to topic now.. breakups suck... try and keep yourself as busy as humanly possible.. all those things you kept delaying, go do... start taking care of your body because it will greatly increase your mood... work out a lot... you're going to have a shitload of free time now... and if you used to see them really often, then every day there will be a time frame of when you used to hang out with them that will still be really hard when the time rolls by everyday...

try and avoid watching sad movies or listening to depressing music etc...

and i'd advise against watching tv also... because every show has couple shit in it..

you may find it hard to eat / sleep for the first week - week and a half, but that ill pass and you'll regain your appetite... all those old friends that you dont call that often anymore.. you should be contacting them and start hanging out etc etc... it may seem selfish to do that kinda shit, but you should be selfish during this time to help yourself get over it...

can you tell i've been through a breakup? haha... but i was in one as long as you.. we've been together for 5 years now.. we were high school sweethearts that ended up staying together... i was her first long term relationship and was also her first... everything was absolutely amazing for the first 3 - 3.5 years.. then we hit a little rough patch etc, and ended up breaking up for 6-8 months or so.. and i think that even though the saying "if u love something, let it go... if it was yours it will come back to you, if it doesn't it never was" is the absolute lamest line in the world... but it is true i think... cause when we were apart for those 6-8 months, we really got to know ourselves and how much we missed eachother etc... so when we got back together it was fucking awesome and has been awesome since.. we needed the time apart to see how much we meant to eachother so i really think it was healthy for our relationship..

what i'm getting at, is that maybe the same thing will happen with you... even though people are really different... long term breakups are pretty similar in a lot of cases

1.) you breakup
2.) you try and be happy and find someone else new right away
3.) everybody annoys you because you compare everyone to your ex and they are not up to par with your ex in your eyes
4.) you get drunk one night and end up calling the ex, or you get drunk and somehow end up sleeping with your ex
5.) you both talk about how it was a bad thing to sleep with eachother cause there are still feelings
6.) you end up getting back together... often for a short while and breaking up again... but sometimes end up staying together...


holy fuck i think this is the longest post i've ever posted on fnk...