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Jan 04, 03
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Yea, its like those girls who ask other guys. "How do I get my boyfriend to stop hitting me?" and the response is, "Its really simple honey, don't go out with guys who hit you." David. sigh... 
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i think that as long as you learn from things like this and not let them become something that is frequent in your life with any type of relationships you may have with people then you will become the better person. and when they call for ass- laugh in their faces! then tell them you are too busy washing you hair
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One of my girlfriends told me once, that some one doesn't have to hit you in order for the relationship to be abusive. It's true.
Yet I somewhat agree with others in that people allow themselves to get abused. Sometimes people are in so much denial, wanting to believe in a lie so much that in their minds it becomes true.. I know I've made up excuses for others before, and for that, I have only myself to blame. But I just won't allow such people to ruin me, or tear down what I have to offer in a relationship... I know that it's hard for people to understand why some one would keep going back to an abusive relationship.. But I've seen it happen before to some of the best people I know.. So I don't think it has anything to do with whether you are a good person.. It's just that sometimes we just want to be loved, and the more it is denied from us the more we crave it from that person.. EXAMPLE: PUSH AND PULL EFFECT: my theory of the yo-yo effect... Where the partner is sweet kind and caring at one time, treating you as though you're everything in the world to them... and then moments later they are saying things that are contradictory of all the heavenly things they told you before. They give, and then they take back from you. It's like gambling. You know that you're most likely to lose, but you disregard all the times you've lost and the instances where you've actually won convince you to keep gambling. And that's why it makes it so addictive... That's why people keep going back Cuz their lover keeps saying "please i'll do better next time, don't go, I need you, I can't be without you".. (don't look for this term in a psychology book cuz I made it up.) Last edited by yoko*; Jan 04, 03 at 04:26 PM.
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SO TRUE. I think it also has something to do with the fact that we are able to put all of the bad things away and focus on all of the good things, somewhat like looking for the rainbow after the storm. Blah- but once you have overcome it and can recongnize the signs that someone is going to be that way you can turn around and run, not walk, but RUN. :365:
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Jan 04, 03
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:toasted: women and guys are fucked
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^^that is true.
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With abuse, it's sad because mental/verbal/emotional abuse is the hardest to detect... so people use that because they can get away with it and others might not see it as a big of offense as if you had visable physical scars all over your body.. Like Yoko said, the 'victim' will spend so much time in creating excuses and lies to help their 'attacker'... and by doing so they help in the creation or expansion of the 'attacks'. This leaves them open with a sign that says, "I'm vulnerable, I'm easy prey." MOST (not all) the people 'attacked' are usually submissive, shy and quiet... ones that the 'attacker' can easily control and manipulate.
All though at times it might seem that I'm a tough one when it comes to relationships, I'm not oblivious to problems that exist in one. People fall victim to an abusive relationship because in the moment of betrayl and hate, they still see a glimpse of hope, perhaps a vision of better times in which they enjoyed the relationship.... However, you can't hold onto a dream forever... often they are used to cover yourself and protect you from the truth. Let's face it, the truth is ugly, and no body wants to see it, especially if it could mean you're going to end up alone... That's the biggest fear for a lot of people. Also the realization that they've been 'used' and 'abused' for so long, the realization that they have been so 'weak' and vulnerable' is a real turn off, nobody wants to feel like that. Another thing I notice is a lot of people that fall victim to 'abuse' don't have very many friends, perhaps it makes it so they occupy most their time with their 'attacker'. In turn they fear the lost of their significant other even more because they have no one to turn to in trouble without their 'other half'.... The exagerrated love professions of a manipulative partner are hard to forget and easy to fall back on.... just depends on how long you want to live your life in denial.... I just got up and my brain is pudding.
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that was a long long long post but i agreed with most of it
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Jan 04, 03
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the only part that I don't agree with stabby is the "...Another thing I notice is a lot of people that fall victim to 'abuse' don't have very many friends, perhaps it makes it so they occupy most their time with their 'attacker'. "
I have many friends, I didn't spend a lot of time with them not because they didn't exsist but simply because I wanted to be with my bf. I was so into him that I didn't want to be with anyone but him....
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i was like that with my ex girlfriend but i still just want to hang out her not because she is my ex but my best friend
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Notice how I said, A LOT, not all, yeah.. I'm glad we're able to read today ;]
Did he ever try to take your time away from your friends? Out of your many friends, how many of them were close? When you're young and are lead on by fabricated, 'exagerrated love professions' from someone you care deeply about, it's easy to want to spend your time with them... the feelings they confess to you are mature... I see many, especially girls in highschool that devote their time to their bf because he tells her he loves her... she is overwhelmed by these 'mature' feelings that she probably doesn't know how to handle/deal with, that she forgets all else. When they break up she goes crawling back to the friends she neglected.. Love is just a label, people hardly ever take the time to give it a meaning... I always believe that there are two sides of the story though...
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Jan 04, 03
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stabby you are a very deep person and when i met you outside of tribecka you seem so sweet but to tall you the truth you scare me a little but you are very pretty what does have to do with anything though
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Jan 04, 03
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ya stabby i can read thanks :c-tard:
i was just saying that i don't think that related to my situation as i do have a lot of friends and around that time there was a group of about 8 of us that were really tight
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i can but i dont like to
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What do you expect? You get as much respect as you demand, and you obviously didn't strive for much if you stayed with him for two years while he was "treating you like crap". Males are horny, disrespectfull idiots most of the time, but they wouldn't get away with it so often if women didn't stand for it as much as they/we do.
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Jan 08, 03
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I've known a lot of girls who only like guys who treat them like shit. whenever they meet guys who are nice to them they think they are too good for them.
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Jan 09, 03
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All you need to do is beat them whenever they do something stupid. I don't understand why women think it's alright for guys to treat them like that.
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Jan 09, 03
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kristen is my sister :)
haha kristen ditched all of us for other boys! :( :finger: :finger: :finger: hehe its ok.. your still in part of the cru.... your one of the only ones who graduated/stayed outta jail :) im proud! haha
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Jan 09, 03
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i still luv you guys and if you weren't in the middle of buttfuck no where i'd come and give you a hug and yep- i am officially the only one who hasn't been arrested :keebler: you better come out here soon so we can practice rave dancing
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