what is it with some guys?!!@?

vinnys_gurl · #1 (**permalink**) Jan 03, 03

I just don't get it.....

What makes some guys think that they can treat us like shit for over 2 years and then tell us that they don't want us and no one else ever will, shattering our self image. We get up the balls to finally get rid of them, then about 2 months later when they haven't been getting any ass they think they can call up and promise they love us and that they can change. Like what the fuck?

linds · #2 (**permalink**) Jan 03, 03

thats really shady

i dont know why they think they can do that.

its ass.

dont believe it. get on with your life.

yourlilbaby · #3 (**permalink**) Jan 03, 03

its astory many girls know all too well. I dont know what makes guys think like that from time to time... maybe its the lack of blood flow to their actual brain. All u have to know is that you are better than that and shouldnt let them treat u that way. Ignore their calls, jsut get them out of your life. But if u do get caught putting up with their cruelty then you are jsut as bad as them cuz u are leting them do it to you.

vinnys_gurl · #4 (**permalink**) Jan 03, 03

there is no way in hell i am going to get back with him

thanx for the support gurlies!! :c-tard: we all need it sometimes

yourlilbaby · #5 (**permalink**) Jan 03, 03

no shit!

linds · #6 (**permalink**) Jan 03, 03

totally.

yourlilbaby · #7 (**permalink**) Jan 03, 03

i dont know who had it has their msn name but its the funniest quote ever:
why do guys name their penis?
cuz they wouldnt want a stranger making all their decisions for them

boozydaclown · #8 (**permalink**) Jan 03, 03

women are crazy :284:

stabmyhead · #9 (**permalink**) Jan 03, 03

What is up with some girls that put up with that shit for more than a month or so?? What's up with girls that have that low of self esteem and confidence that they are insecure enough to stay with an 'asshole' guy? I mean, don't they realize that they are just letting him get away with it, in turn, making him more of an asshole as he tries to see how much 'abuse' he can inflict and get away with it? It takes two, one to inflict the 'abuse' and one to recieve, the problem wouldn't exist if you did not let it.

On an unrelated note, what is with some guys? I mean they're really nice guys and then some girl comes into their lives. They end up falling for her, then she breaks his heart and he turns out to be a complete asshole and goes around breaking girls hearts. And then girls complain that there are no nice guys. Girls should stop helping create asshole guys.

boozydaclown · #10 (**permalink**) Jan 03, 03

that makes complete sence stabby you a very smart girl

yourlilbaby · #11 (**permalink**) Jan 03, 03

yeah its the unwriotten rule generllay nice ppl go for asshile its stupid and i dont know why but it happens
with the exception of neal and tina who are both nice

soma · #12 (**permalink**) Jan 03, 03

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Originally posted by boozydaclown
women are crazy :284:

well said.

If you're getting treated badly why stick around for more abuse?

vinnys_gurl · #13 (**permalink**) Jan 03, 03

^^^^ prob because it didn't start out to be abusive. It wasn't like *BAM* ur in an abusive relationship. its more like you are with them for a while and you start to have strong feelings for the other person and make excuses for them then they appologize and you think things are going to get better and they just get worse. sometimes it takes us longer to realize what is going on when you really care about the person

vinnys_gurl · #14 (**permalink**) Jan 03, 03

NOT that I am making excuses..

I am dumb

I can admit that

yourlilbaby · #15 (**permalink**) Jan 03, 03

your arent dumb

c.tard · #16 (**permalink**) Jan 03, 03

everyone makes mistakes.
it happens.

it's the people who make the same mistakes over and over again, and never learn from them, that are dumb.

Chet · #17 (**permalink**) Jan 03, 03

some girls just need someone who will treat them badly
the can meet and date all the nice guys in the world but will only really start likeing the guys they think the can 'help' or 'fix'
they just can't handle a perfect guy, because then they don't feel like they are needed, and no matter what all girls like to feel like there b/f could not live without them

stabmyhead · #18 (**permalink**) Jan 03, 03

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Originally posted by vinnys_gurl:
^^^^ prob because it didn't start out to be abusive. It wasn't like *BAM* ur in an abusive relationship. its more like you are with them for a while and you start to have strong feelings for the other person and make excuses for them then they appologize and you think things are going to get better and they just get worse. sometimes it takes us longer to realize what is going on when you really care about the person

I am quite aware of the antics that women use to convince themselves that things are going to change and that if they stick around some more and help work with the relationship, things will get better. It's like, "ohh, all this suffering has got to amount to something!" Unfortunately, karma isn't a good way to base your relationship off of. I see way too many girls make the same mistake over and over again, it's quite... pathetic. Like Cheryl said, you aren't a dumbass if you learn from your mistake...

Chet: Abso-fucken-truth. It's just in most women's nature to feel motherly, and a guy that is so perfect and independent that he doesn't need her in his life, poses as a threat to a woman. Often he will be accused of cheating, and she'll probably do things to test his loyalty... although she'll never believe him. Then again, it's the same way with men... now, does does that song go again? "If you wanna be happy for the rest of your life / Never make a pretty woman your wife"

yoko* · #19 (**permalink**) Jan 03, 03

guys should stop blaming it on their previous relationships and take responsibility for their own life. Guys should stop allowing one girl to turn them into an asshole...

cheeseburger · #20 (**permalink**) Jan 03, 03

^^ and so should gurls

yoko* · #21 (**permalink**) Jan 03, 03

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Originally posted by vinnys_gurl
^^^^ prob because it didn't start out to be abusive. It wasn't like *BAM* ur in an abusive relationship. its more like you are with them for a while and you start to have strong feelings for the other person and make excuses for them then they appologize and you think things are going to get better and they just get worse. sometimes it takes us longer to realize what is going on when you really care about the person

yeah.. Especially when your feelings grow for the person, and the situation with them never seems to change, and you seem not tobe able to make a compromise with them, its understandable that you're the one that ends up trying to change yourself to be able to "put up" with them. One might start making up excuses for his actions, or for the things he said. "He didn't really mean that, he was only joking" But somewhere deep down one is consumed with guilt, because they know that whether or not their partner was joking, it still wasn't acceptable for them to be treated the way they were.

It's the illusion that they will change, or the need to believe that they will, that gets you. When they tell you that things will be different you grasp onto those words, disregarding all the times that they hurt you, simply because you want to believe, you need to believe that things wll change, and all you need is for them to say the things that you need to hear for you to be convinced.

But then, things goaround in cycles. It happens again, and again... And all the things you told yourself in order to protect yourself from hurt, from facing the reality of your situation, crumbles.

who knows why it happens, but it does. And because it's happened to some one doesn't mean they are a bad person. They were just vulnerable, and by chance met some one that knew how to get to them. The important thing is to embrace it somehow, rather than to allow yourself to get bitter. Don't allow this person to change your outlook on all relationships, or to turn you into an "asshole" because of it. Learn something positive from it.

yoko* · #22 (**permalink**) Jan 03, 03

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Originally posted by ninewells
^^ and so should gurls

I was referring to stabby's first post, and she referred to the person as a "he" so Ijust followed.. Equal rights, yes yes..

HE/SHE.

cheeseburger · #23 (**permalink**) Jan 03, 03

sorry, i don't have my reading glasses on

yoko* · #24 (**permalink**) Jan 03, 03

hehe.

sungoo · #25 (**permalink**) Jan 04, 03

It annoys me when people say "I need to find a nice guy".

In all actuality, what most people really want is an attractive guy they can mold into a "nice guy"

Another thing which annoys me is when girls go back to their abusive boyfriends.

Like my friend was going out with this girl for a month, he is a total gentleman when it comes to women. Treats them with immense respect, holds them on a pedastall, buys them things. Treats them as if they were a princess.
Anyways, yada yada yada, what does she do? she goes back to her abusive ex boyfriend. I don't understand people like that.