Ex's

[FeelGood]

Kraig how was the club last night?

[miss.myra]

Originally Posted by Pennywise

i guess im that .01% of the people that dont survive it

If that's your attitude, the yes, you won't.

[bebu*funfun]

i like all my ex's.. dont have a bad relationship with any of them..still close friends. duno why its so hard for ppl to have it worked out..

[Kraig]

Originally Posted by eighty5

Kraig how was the club last night?

Not going to the club until Friday. I actually just got back from doing a sound/video check there and it's really nice. They also have wicked food.

Man I really wish we had some of these venues back at home.

[FeelGood]

Yeah then we wouldnt have to put up with the Maritime Labour center, heh.
Actually, I dont mind it there, its a good small venue, just needs some better ventilation, and I'd be more pleased with it, plus its a 15 min drive to my house in the morning heh.

[gratia]

Originally Posted by Kraig

It actually is that easy to make a choice, as easy as it is to do something right from wrong. It is emotion that will of course cloud that. -- This is why it is also important to understand that stuff like this takes time.

this is soo true. it is our thoughts that control our emotions, not the other way around as most people believe. if we can direct every single one of our thoughts in the direction we choose (pos/neg etc) then we are in control of our emotions and can walk through life pleasently and in charge. but if we let our emotions take over our thoughts turn cloudy and we're not in charge anymore. that's what makes stuff like this soo hard to deal with. we just let our emotions (which our usually negative) take over. 'course..easier said than done.....i know from experience. but i also know from experience that it works. just be very aware of every thought and get rida all the shit ones.;)


hehe...and if that doesn't work...get plastered!!!! hahahaha..jk.

[Kraig]

Originally Posted by gratia

this is soo true. it is our thoughts that control our emotions, not the other way around as most people believe. if we can direct every single one of our thoughts in the direction we choose (pos/neg etc) then we are in control of our emotions and can walk through life pleasently and in charge. but if we let our emotions take over our thoughts turn cloudy and we're not in charge anymore. that's what makes stuff like this soo hard to deal with. we just let our emotions (which our usually negative) take over. 'course..easier said than done.....i know from experience. but i also know from experience that it works. just be very aware of every thought and get rida all the shit ones.;)


hehe...and if that doesn't work...get plastered!!!! hahahaha..jk.

Yep... this type of positive or negative approach can be applied to anything you do or for that matter, anything that happens to you personally or professionally.

[кιŧŧεŋ]

Originally Posted by Pennywise

i know i can
its just i guess im afraid to open to someone new

Aww I hardly kno you but you seem like a super cool guy! I'm sure you'll find someone worthy of ya

[optimum sound]

Originally Posted by Kraig

It actually is that easy to make a choice, as easy as it is to do something right from wrong. It is emotion that will of course cloud that. -- This is why it is also important to understand that stuff like this takes time.

Actually I have to agree that it is easy, mind over body right? I always see that you have some really positive advise there Kraig...do you have anything in particular you practise? and where did you learn about positive and negative, not to many people are aware of how it all works...

[frankie_V]

Dr. Kraig in tha house!

[Kraig]

Originally Posted by optimum sound

Actually I have to agree that it is easy, mind over body right? I always see that you have some really positive advise there Kraig...do you have anything in particular you practise? and where did you learn about positive and negative, not to many people are aware of how it all works...

Nothing I practice per say... In the past, I've read a ton of psych books and of course, have experienced a lot of this stuff myself!

I think the best way to answer your question, is that I've gotten to a point that I am just aware of where I'm at and what I'm doing as I'm doing it. Don't get me wrong, I still have a ton to learn, but I will bare in mind a lot of things I've mentioned already as I learn them.

PS: having parents who were both councellors helped too. :)

[Kraig]

Originally Posted by franklin

Dr. Kraig in tha house!

Fuck I wish I was smart enough to have a PhD. Sheeeiiiit.

[mapleleaf4ever]

Originally Posted by bebu*funfun

i like all my ex's.. dont have a bad relationship with any of them..still close friends. duno why its so hard for ppl to have it worked out..

I'm still on a Social Basis with most of my Ex's save one or two. The really fucked up psycho one moved to Manitoba. :)

[robyn]

Originally Posted by miss.myra

Rest assured that every single person in the world has had their heart broken and 99.99% of them survive it.

Three times! Not dead!

ps - Get over it, go out with somebody else.

[Goodfellow]

Originally Posted by Kraig

It actually is that easy to make a choice, as easy as it is to do something right from wrong. It is emotion that will of course cloud that. -- This is why it is also important to understand that stuff like this takes time.

Have you ever been in love to the point where you could see yourself never wanting to leave that person for the rest of your life , then having it all messed up? You can't just be like okkkkkkkkkk I'll just switch my thoughts to positive and all is well.

The positive energy vs. negative energy mind control works for daily life/situations etc , but with love its different. that's just my opinion though.

meditation helps though, and I guess that is channelin pos. energy

but pat like its prolly already been said, time heals all. no matter HOW insanely bad it is, time will eventually heal it.

[optimum sound]

Originally Posted by Kraig

PS: having parents who were both councellors helped too. :)

Haha yeah that would do you good...I use NLP (neuro linguistic programming) as well as hypnosis and some relaxation mp3s here and there. Ive been out of the loop for awhile but reframing is the best tool for every situation. If anybody is interested in any of this pm me and ill hook you up. Works wonders if you give it a chance.

But exs suck, they hold you back and mess with your head :075:

[Kraig]

Originally Posted by GoodFlow

Have you ever been in love to the point where you could see yourself never wanting to leave that person for the rest of your life , then having it all messed up? You can't just be like okkkkkkkkkk I'll just switch my thoughts to positive and all is well.

The positive energy vs. negative energy mind control works for daily life/situations etc , but with love its different. that's just my opinion though.

meditation helps though, and I guess that is channelin pos. energy

but pat like its prolly already been said, time heals all. no matter HOW insanely bad it is, time will eventually heal it.

To answer your question, yes... I have. To the point where I couldn't see anything else beyond her. Not only that, my life was so ingrained in her families that when we broke up, I not only lost her, but her family as well.

I TOTALLY disagee with you above about the positive vs. negative energy thing being just a daily thing and being different when it comes to love. Does the complexity of love and all the emotions around it mean that it takes longer to deal with, yes of course. But it doesn't mean you don't have the choice on where to focus your energy.

[Bitchin]

wow, I've been single for jsut about a year...

:014:

When I get back from shambles.

wow.. thats really depressing.. that means a year ago I lost everything [jobs,appt,bf,2friends,ect..].. and its been a year.. and I havent even been able to get back to where I was.. wow. I dont even know what to say. wow.:(

[t-skywalker]

^^^^^^^(BITCHIN)aww monkey......everything will turn around for you this year...it will be reverse cause your going there with shit that hit the fan so it will all be switched this time when you get back...you will meet a great guy who will treat you like a fucn queen...i love you babe...xoxox.have a blast...CALL ME THE MIN YOU GET BACK

[Kraig]

Originally Posted by Bitchin

wow, I've been single for jsut about a year...

:014:

When I get back from shambles.

wow.. thats really depressing.. that means a year ago I lost everything [jobs,appt,bf,2friends,ect..].. and its been a year.. and I havent even been able to get back to where I was.. wow. I dont even know what to say. wow.:(

Just because you're not "exactly" where you were last year, doesn't mean thatthe year was any less successfull!

[b0ld]

I've already said this once but will say this again.... I have a better relationship with my ex then we were when we were together as a couple.... In this day in age its sometimes hard to have a commitment in a relationship. Regular daily routines such as having a job just to survive is a contributing factor. And when one has a different schedule then the other and wouldn't have time to spend any quality time together. If you really look at it... our generation is nothing more then work work and more work... Hardly any quality time at all.

You look at families that were created up until the 80's and christ families were huge... On average 2 girls 2 boys... Now a days people just have 1 kid and then contemplate whether if they are gonna have another one.... Times have changed alot... Myself.. well what can I say, I am in no position to be in a serious relationship now. Just to god damn busy trying to make a dollar and survive. It just wouldn't be fair for both parties at all...

With my ex.... well when the oppurtunity comes and our schedules are free I'll bring her out for dinner. Soon she is gonna be moving into her own apartment so right now working on a gift for her for a "home" warming. Thats all I can do right now... but until next time.....ya know???

[Bitchin]

Originally Posted by Kraig

Just because you're not "exactly" where you were last year, doesn't mean thatthe year was any less successfull!

Thoguht about it.
And yeh it does.

[miss.myra]

Originally Posted by Bitchin

wow, I've been single for jsut about a year...

:014:

16 months for me, seems like a long time I guess when you say it, doesn't feel like a long time when you've got reasons to be though :)

[rawb]

pretend it didn't happen, tell your/her friends shes a dumb ho, drunk call her and beg her to realize you guys can work it out, lock yourself in a room and cry, get a livejournal, get over it, move on.

or just skip to 'get over it', no one's worth compromising your happiness for more than a week or two.

[Bitchin]

Originally Posted by miss.myra

16 months for me, seems like a long time I guess when you say it, doesn't feel like a long time when you've got reasons to be though :)

I'm not exactly upset that I'm single, cause it hava been by choice.
I'm just recalling the shit I went thru last year.... and I'm goin thru something pretty similar this year.
It just sad to see what I havent accomplished in a year.