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Sep 15, 05
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Finding out you're being spied on.....
OK, so maybe spying isn't the right choice of words but what would you do/think if you found out that someone was using your posts on FnK to keep tabs on what you do? Keep in mind that they log in as a guest.... well actually, it could even be a member I guess.
Either way.... I don't know if it should piss me off or wierd me out?? Basically the story is this... I'm not on the best of speaking terms with my Dad. We have our differences and more often than not they lead to arguing/fighting/not talking at all. Well, through e-mails and what not my Dad keeps saying all these things he knows. Now, out of my friends who know or talk to my Dad, they don't post on Fnk, have no knowledge of FnK. My Dad knows things that have only ever been mentioned on the board. I've been wondering for the longest time how he knew all this shit. He keeps tabs on me through the board! There's a good chance he's reading this right now. Now should I be pissed at this or should I feel bad that I don't talk to my Dad enough? I really don't know what to make of this. A lot of me is super angry.... despite the fact that this is a public message board it still feels like my privacy has been trampled a little bit. Last edited by Cdn_Brdr; Sep 15, 05 at 10:29 AM. 
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Sep 15, 05
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Personally I would be kinda pissed that someone would take the time to keep tabs on me, rather then spending that time, and making the effort to contact me directly. I mean if they were actually concerned enough about what was going on in your life, why not just use that time more constructively and simply pick up the phone and ask... work on the whole father son relationship.
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Sep 15, 05
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Hopefully, when he sees this he'll either stop or at the very least call me as opposed to sneaking around like this.
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Sep 15, 05
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I've had my own F&K stalker. I was dating this chick for over 3 years, then we broke up and things weren't so smooth between us. A while later I started dating her neighbour(still am) who told me about an F&K account that my X made up under the name Cranberrydip. So I checked to see when was the last time she was on the board and it was the day before my woman told me this . She has 0 posts and has been on the board for over a year, so obviosly she wasn't on here to chat or join the forum, nope just spying. Since then, I she got wind of me knowing about it, so she hasn't been on since last October or so. That doesn't mean that she hasn't created a new account and is reading this right now under a new name (FUCK YOU SARAH!!!) So if you're worried about being watched, well it's a public forum and there's always people watching, so don't say anything too private because you never know who's listening. p.s. Sean, if you want to finally come out of the closet, this may not be the best place to do it, unless you want your parents to find out over the internet.
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Sep 15, 05
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Hum..well I can't imagine my parents ever coming onto fnk to try and find out what Im doing and shit. We fight a lot not a shocker Im 18 but like I still talk to them even when im mad at them..try not to completly not talk to him. Work on when you guys get mad not fighting just breathing and relaxing and working things out instead of just blowing each other off. Im sure with that it will make things a lot better.
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Sep 15, 05
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^ i think that's a little bit harsh. (for b0ld)
i'm not agreeing with what he is doing, but it's not THAT bad. it's like the equivalent of snooping through your stuff when you were still living at home. sure, the right thing to do would be to talk to you, build the relationship and trust, etc. so that they wouldn't have to snoop. but we all know that isn't always what happens. personally, if i knew someone was doing that, i'd be a little creeped out. as public as this, i understand the invasion of privacy feeling. it's like having someone follow you everywhere.. i don't get why some people feel they need to know EVERYTHING. maybe i'm just a really private person, but i like to have things to myself. anyways, if i found out that my dad was reading fnk to find out things about me, i'd be quite weirded out. our relationship seems to be in better standing than yours does, from what you've said. the right thing to do would be pick up the phone and talk, as opposed to sneak around. some people will always talk to the easy way out though. this way he still gets to know stuff, but he doesn't even have to bother putting any effort (which is lame, i think, if you can't put any effort into getting to know your own son). i think if he sees this he should start picking up that phone and calling, or accepting your invitations. yet i feel this might just make things worse, because he knows you now know, and he may feel embarassed. g'luck.
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Sep 15, 05
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Well..this IS a public website after all. Anyone who stumbles across it can read it.
Shawn, because you and your dad aren't on good terms doesn't mean he's not going to be curious about what you're doing with your life and he doesn't care about you. For some people it's too hard for them to swallow their pride and pick up the phone, especially when they know you're not on the best of terms. I'm not saying it's right, but I don't think it's completely out of left field for him to do.
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Sep 15, 05
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Like I said, part of me is angry, but part of me is upset that this is the depth to which our relationship has fallen. I'm far from perfect and so is he but the sneaking around like this makes ME look like the grown up. The fact that he'll read this and be embarassed kind of hits me in two ways. I'm glad he'll be embarassed, he SHOULD be, but in the same respect maybe he'll also realize that I'd much rather speak with him and let him know what's going on in my life in person. We definitely have our differences but it'd be nice to put them aside and be civil to each other. I give this situation a 10 out of 10 on the 'THIS SUCKS BALLS' scale. :(
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Sep 15, 05
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i think this has two interlocking points
when you say something in the public domain you should comfortable with anyone in the world reading it, be it on fnk, your lj, a book, or tv the fact that it is your family reading it most likely does not affect you on any real level. if what you write is truth, people reading your words is a passive action. because its 'your dad' makes it sound different, but really what is going to happen? he will feel sad or proud or mad or however dads feel. beyond that he could tell other people like your family, but hey, free advertising right? think of it as a movie trailer for an upcoming conversation. as long as you have nothing to hide then you shouldnt sweat it. if you do have something to hide, then you should question why.
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Sep 15, 05
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^Valid points except for the fact that it's more on a level of snooping than anything else. I kind of equate it with me going to my father's friends and having conversations about him behind his back to find out what's going on in his life.
I fully understand the 'public message board' aspect but in the same respect this is a forum that I use to keep in contact with my friends. There is nothing on this forum, aside from my private life, that would interest my Dad. If he had a genuine interest in something and used the forum I'd be able to deal with it better despite the wierd factor of having your father on a raver board.  I mean you have to have that separation from your parents.... you have a life that is now your own and as far as I'm concerned they should respect that.It's not like I have anything to hide but I still don't need my old man reading my posts about going drinking with my friends and the such, ya dig?
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Sep 15, 05
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I don't think you can say what another person would find interesting though. Every word you write expresses some personal facet to everyone reading it. What makes him reading that depth any different than the rest of the anonymous people on here? Perhaps this is the best way he can stay close to you while keeping his distance. Maybe he knows you'll be friends again one day, from experience. maybe my dad is reading this right now and judging my words too. hey, fuck you dad! <kick rock>
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Sep 15, 05
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i'd be pretty freaked out :S ..... iono ive had stalkers b4 and one of my ex actually had ppl watching me during da day iono why cuz i mostly stayed home but if i went out he knew it was really freaky he was pretty controllin.....but over da internet on sum board dat he knows u post....thats pretty messed....id be pissed off and just right sum messed upshit see if he knows it or mentions it ...make sure its only on dis forum and den be like how da hell do u kno bout dat? iono like catch him or sumthin den try to talk 2 him bout it and try fix it iono ..... :( hope everythin works out 4 u tho ^.^
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Sep 15, 05
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I think you and your dad really need to work on the whole communication aspect of your relationship. Its an essential relationship and its not worth all this anger and misunderstanding, quit being bitches and start talking.
ive had someone do that to me and then try and turn it around and call me a creepy stalker.
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Sep 15, 05
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I try to remind myself to be carful of what kind of information I let out on the boards. Usualy trying to keep in mind anyone including familey could read this. What worries me even more are the possibilitys of any students I work with who jmight happen to check this site out or even my boss's or co-workers could look my name up through google and come apon fnk.
All in all... reminder everything is public here and everyone has the right and access to read whatever you post.
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Sep 16, 05
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i don't think she even comes on the board anymore :(
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Sep 16, 05
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well the old me, then i made a new me, now no more worries :) ps wont they be reading this post about it??
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Don't you have a new schtick yet?
