Are your parents divorced

[galaxie]

Originally Posted by Rhianna

You are so right. I'm so mad at my mum for leaving my drunk and abusive father. What a selfish bitch. Clearly my brother and I are more fucked up from living in the warm, safe and stable home she made for us on her own instead of watching her get beaten up.

Be careful who you marry, ture. However, sometimes people change. It may take years and you can't always see it coming.

ps. not every child that comes out of divorce is fucked up. I know just as many messed up kids that come from parents that are still together.

Fucking right.

I <3 you!

[MissBehavior]

Originally Posted by galaxie

*eyeroll*

My parents were divorced when I was 5. Best thing they could have done. It's not necessarily healthy for kids to have to deal with their parents getting divorced, but on the other hand, years of witnessing their parents screaming and yelling at each other is definitely more emotionally damaging.

My bf's parents split when he was 18 or 19, and even he's said that they are much happier now with people who suit them much better. His dad proposed to his girlfriend last Xmas, and they are getting married next July; and his mom is living with a guy that's almost as eccentric (in all the best ways) as she is.

Sometimes you make decisions when you're young that over time turn out to be not the best choices for yourself. As much as a proponent for "making it work" as I am, sometimes there are thigns that just can't be worked out. Why should people have to be miserable their entire life because of a wrong choice for themself?

[Moon]

Originally Posted by Rhianna

You are so right. I'm so mad at my mum for leaving my drunk and abusive father. What a selfish bitch. Clearly my brother and I are more fucked up from living in the warm, safe and stable home she made for us on her own instead of watching her get beaten up.

Be careful who you marry, ture. However, sometimes people change. It may take years and you can't always see it coming.

ps. not every child that comes out of divorce is fucked up. I know just as many messed up kids that come from parents that are still together.

yeah true dat.

although i wish i could agree with revolver that marriage should be outlawed, there will always be horrible husbands or wives and you gotta do what you gotta do.

its interesting.. i was reading up on Japanese culture, and they are known to have one of the smallest rates of divorce in the world. These people are not even highly religious and spiritually ethical. The Japanese even feel that showing too much affection and love in a marriage is detrimental to the family.... and what do you know? they have many marriages that last till the end.

the christian ideal of love marriage that most of us are probably accustomed to just seems to not be as successful as we'd hope it to be. in many asian cultures where the divorce rate is considerably low (but steadily rising... arguably due to the rising western influence), marriage is a union of 2 families. sex and romantic love are not considered important in a marriage as is procreating and keeping the family traditions alive.

you can never have a perfect marriage. it's one of those things that every single person who has probably ever lived has taken considerable time to think about and even experience... and i'm sure nobody has ever said it was easy....

[Kraig]

My parents would still be together but unfortunately my Mom passed away to cancer almost 3 years ago now. The would have been married for over 35 years.

[Miss T]

Originally Posted by Scarface

Both divorced and happily remarried.

mine too. :)

[Rhianna]

Originally Posted by k-pryde

The Japanese even feel that showing too much affection and love in a marriage is detrimental to the family.... and what do you know? they have many marriages that last till the end.

Well I'd fail at that or I'd be very unhappy.

[SquiLa]

My parents have been together 28 years. Though they never got married in the first place. No ring, no ceremony. Just stuck around together that long. I guess it's common law though.

I was actually quite shocked and temporarily disturbed when I was 12 and learned that they never actually technically married. But now I wonder if they did, would it be different?

[~lazee_grrl~]

my parents divorced about 3 years ago..i "found out" about the divorce 6months later because they decided not to tell me!
but after the initial shock and anger..i got over it...i went through 17 years of watching them fight and argue..and every night they did..i never slept..in fear that one morning i'd find one of them dead..
but i guess its all good now..kinda..

[Senior]

Why was there no option for divorced twice? That would be the case with my Mom and as for my Dad him and his second wife have been together for some 20 years or more, my bad for not knowing the exact number.

Really though I'm not a big supporter of marriage as an institution. If 2 people love each other than why should they need the church, government or anything else to legitimize that?

For people that do stay in abusive relationships "for the kids" WTF are you thinking? Will it some how make your kids better people to watch their parents suffer?

[robyn]

My parents are still together, but for some reason it doesn't compel me to get married myself.

[*Geminiz*]

My parents are divorced. My mom is happily remarried and my Dad is remarried but I'm not really quite sure how happy he is.

[TipSy]

my parents divorced when i was 6

[Euro Dollar]

Originally Posted by charly

just because my parents have a good relationship, doesn't mean i have a happy life/normal brain. :P

haha werd!

i don't have a normal brain either, ask anyone on this damn site...

[Euro Dollar]

Originally Posted by Rhianna

You are so right. I'm so mad at my mum for leaving my drunk and abusive father. What a selfish bitch. Clearly my brother and I are more fucked up from living in the warm, safe and stable home she made for us on her own instead of watching her get beaten up.

Be careful who you marry, ture. However, sometimes people change. It may take years and you can't always see it coming.

ps. not every child that comes out of divorce is fucked up. I know just as many messed up kids that come from parents that are still together.

i divorced my mom....

huh?

[Euro Dollar]

Originally Posted by galaxie

Fucking right.

I <3 you!

ofcourse you do, EVERYONE *hearts* Rhianna!

[rav3r gurl]

my folks are celebrating their 25th anniversary this year.

[BrownThug]

theyve been together for 23 years...but all my grandparents have been divorced between 1 and 3 tiems....


ps (lots of grandparents means lots of birthdya money) hahaha

[miss.myra]

Originally Posted by revolver

DIVORCE should be outlawd....well mabey thats abit extreme but it should be much harder to go about getting one. Plus people should be more careful about who they marry. Marrige is for LIFE you assholes!

besides, what your left with after divorce is a toatally fucked up ANGEL as a result.

Yeah, I remember growing up Catholic I heard all of that time and time again. Principles are nice, but everyone's situation is completely not the same, therefore it's ludicrous to throw such a strong statement like that out there. Your life worked one way, Angel's worked another, but it is quite some thing to claim that you think something so extreme without knowing every single circumstance. That is really quite offensive.


anywhoo

My parents split up when I was a kid, but it wasn't really something that completely affected me. Why? Because they were civil. They realized they weren't totally in love and meant for eachother, but they knew that they had a really good friend. They stayed good friends too. It was an amiacable separation, which is rare, but I'm so glad it worked that way. It allowed my parents to keep friends, and it also allowed them to explore other things in life that made them happy that they wouldn't have been able to had they stayed together. I have a step dad, and I'm totally cool with him. My father passed away a few years ago, but my parents were amazing friends right up until it happened. I'm glad it all worked that way.

[Courtney]

unfortunately my parents are NOT divorced...but they should be...
they've been seperated...
but uhh I think I and my parents would be better off if they were divorced, so like....whoever thinks divorce should be outlawed should live in my family for a day..

[trance4life]

parrents are not divorced

[*STARFISH*]

my parents have been married for 26 years.
they should probably be divorced though..
theyd both be happier.
i think its just too much paperwork for them to bother.

[Niko]

My parents have been married since 1980, but they separated in 1987 when I was 3 years old. They somehow still manage to have a decent relationship; my mom, my stepdad (her fiancée), and I all work for my father. Apparently, she's asking my dad for a 25th wedding anniversary present—a divorce—so she can get re-married next summer.

[wundergirl]

my parents are still married, barely. it's more of a legally binding friendship at this point. as for the folks who want to rant on and on about the "values" involved in staying together for the kids, you have no idea what you're talking about. ask any adult child of a divorced family and they'll tell you that any kid in the long run would rather have come from a broken family than spend their lives in a broken home.

[Ree Fresh]

My parents divorced when I was 6 months. Would of been before I was born, but mom thought she would put up with it till I was old enough for day care. Thigns mostly seemed fine and nice as we got together once in while... untill I hit 10 and they got in a really bad custody battle... HAVNT SAID A WORD TO EACH OTHER IN 11 YEARS NOW!

And yes I really admire those who can stay together soo long, work things out, love each other like the begining or how ever they do it. Personaly I really hope and wish I dont have to deal with divorce if I get married. Especialy since Ive never really had a full familey all living in one house kind of experince :/
However it seems like divorce is becoming too common these days so Ill have to have a back up plan incase single mom becomes my case.

[Ree Fresh]

Originally Posted by wundergirl

my parents are still married, barely. it's more of a legally binding friendship at this point. as for the folks who want to rant on and on about the "values" involved in staying together for the kids, you have no idea what you're talking about. ask any adult child of a divorced family and they'll tell you that any kid in the long run would rather have come from a broken family than spend their lives in a broken home.

In a way I can agree with you. Ive seen the fighting that went on with my parents and im glad I didnt have to actualy live with it. Also its nice to get a break from one parent or the next, two christmas's and birthday's too :P

But then like I said I mised out on the experince; my only real role modles of marrage come form the families I visit who are usualy on good terms since they know guest are present.

One really hard thing to deal with though especialy between ages 8-13 are when parents try to get bf's/gf's... I could never deal with it and I absolutly hated it! Except when my dad had one gf/freind who I always knew and managed to really like for some odd reason?