Being a heartbreaker with a conscience...

[Heffy]

It seems that for some strange reason, girls that i am involved with seem to become attached really quickly. I, being a commitment-phobe, usually end things after a month or two. This is because I don't want anyone to get hurt, but no matter how hard I try, I always endup with a sobbing, screaming girl and I feel bad.

Now I know that i'm not the first guy to break hearts, and i know that its bound to happen in the "game" that is relationships no matter how casual they may be.

I just broke up with my g/f because of several reasons, mainly that i know shes going back to germany in may, and i could sense that we were getting pretty close. Basically we were setting ourselves up for a big let down. Not only that, but i realized that i am not over my last significant relationship.

I guess it sucks feeling bad about doing the right thing...

anyone know what i mean? or am i just some crazy emo bastard? :p

[rawb]

YOU'RE A DICK WHO'S AFRAID OF COMMITMENT, GET OVER IT
NOBODY HAS SYMPATHY FOR THAT WEAK SHIT

[C_squared]

[Heffy]

Originally Posted by rawb

YOU'RE A DICK WHO'S AFRAID OF COMMITMENT, GET OVER IT
NOBODY HAS SYMPATHY FOR THAT WEAK SHIT

actually..... I was moreso complaining that I CARE when i break a girls heart. Im perfectly fine with no commitment thx.

[-evil-duerr-]

You're a heartbreaker, dreammaker,
Love taker, don't you mess around with me
You're a heartbreaker, dreammaker,
Love taker, don't you mess around,
NO
NO
NO!!!!

[FireWire]

Originally Posted by Heffy

actually..... I was moreso complaining that I CARE when i break a girls heart. Im perfectly fine with no commitment thx.

Dude there's your problem - you CARE too much.

A real alpha male just straight up doesn't give a fuck. Well, technically he fucks first and THEN he doesn't give a fuck!

I mean c'mon, why feel bad for saying goodbye to someone? People come and go in your life. They come AND GO.

So don't feel bad... it's how people enter and leave your life. It's totally natural to say goodbye to that girl who you are no longer interested in dealing with and... NEXT! The worst that can happen is she could cry... AND SO WHAT? I would just call her a big baby and give her a hard time for it instead.

Have fun with it! Just don't care about it too much or else it's won't be fun anymore. And to be honest, it's the first time I hear someone complaining about the fact that girls become attached really quickly to him - dude, what more could you ask for?! Christ...

[rawb]

Originally Posted by Heffy

actually..... I was moreso complaining that I CARE when i break a girls heart. Im perfectly fine with no commitment thx.

SO WHEN YOU'RE A JERK TO A CHICK YOU CATCH FEELINGS
WOW, WELCOME TO BEING A NORMAL GUY

[Tea]

What Rawb Said.

[Heffy]

Being a normal guy would mean i dont give a shit.

[Sarah...]

Its hard being a playa?.............

God, you probably put some huge love front on to the ladies then dismiss as soon as she falls for you, just the right time for them to get attached and hence get upset with your inconsistance..................you feel bad? yeah righht, It's AN EGO BOOST....or as you say "game".........lot of people have done it, most without knowing....but your still a dork who thinks he's hot ...be a man, don't start something with someone unless you let them know that from the beginning that your afraid of commitment or whatever....then you might not "feel bad" and then rant about it...

[soma]

fucking geminis ;)

[mojo]

Sarah summed it up. Be truthful from the beginning and save yourself the drama that i bet you secretly desire.

[esoter1c]

Originally Posted by C_squared

must spread............

[Tea]

Originally Posted by soma

fucking geminis ;)

haahahaha. :D

[prozac]

Originally Posted by Heffy

Being a normal guy would mean i dont give a shit.

]

Nope. That's bullshit. Normal guys do give a shit.

Problem is they're usually too retarded to know how to handle the fact that they give a shit.

[Tea]

Basically, you want sympathy because you feel bad for not giving these chics what they want.

Everyone feels bad about things they do in life...but if you dislike it all so much then maybe you should stop doing it.

Sometimes it is that simple.

ie: some chic : " I'm so tired of people calling me a slut"
some friend: "Well, maybe you should keep your legs closed and stop sleeping with "some dude".
(only 'some chic' can turn it around for herself)

If you can't handle the aftermath, you should ask yourself if it is worth it.

Maybe waiting until your ready to comit is a good idea, otherwise try to spare your emotions and have fun without. If this isn't possible for you then let's face it, players who can't play shouldn't try to play anything.

Good Luck.

ps: There is no such thing as 'normal'

[Heffy]

sarah..

be happy that i care. b/c after what i've been put through by females (yes, you are heartbreakers too btw) i wouldn't be outta line doin this to get my kicks.

but i dont. so :p

[Heffy]

i dont want sympathy. i was just wondering if anyone 'got me' as far as the subject goes.








and i love to see what ppl say when you express feelings on this forum. it is quite entertaining :D

[rawb]

Originally Posted by Heffy

sarah..

be happy that i care. b/c after what i've been put through by females (yes, you are heartbreakers too btw) i wouldn't be outta line doin this to get my kicks.

[rawb]

CARRY THAT CROSS, STRUGGLER

[Heffy]

^^ dude. thats awsome.

[FireWire]

Actually this is funny - I saw a man a few days ago carrying a huge cross just like that on Georgia st in Van. I shook his mighty hand (just in case he was the 'Holy One').

[project.one]

Maybe your problem is when in a relationship you make them feel that you care just as much as they do or that you lead them to think you want a more serious relationship. So, basicly leading them on to thinking theres more there then there isnt.

Maybe you should be telling girls straight up you do not want a serious relationship. If you KNOW you dont want one, but continue to get into relationships with girls, and not tell them, then yea thats kinda being a dick.

[SEAN!]

Originally Posted by Sarah...

Its hard being a playa?.............

God, you probably put some huge love front on to the ladies then dismiss as soon as she falls for you, just the right time for them to get attached and hence get upset with your inconsistance..................you feel bad? yeah righht, It's AN EGO BOOST....or as you say "game".........lot of people have done it, most without knowing....but your still a dork who thinks he's hot ...be a man, don't start something with someone unless you let them know that from the beginning that your afraid of commitment or whatever....then you might not "feel bad" and then rant about it...

yeha but its hard tho, sometimes you go into it all smitten an shit but after a little while you realize that things arent going to work out.

i have that problem, because im expressive people often think im more serious then i actually am.

p.s rawb, im glad you came back to the board, better then ever. by the way hows the mcgriddle addiction going?

[Revolver]

sara makes a excellent point...

and im amazed that i actually agree with what rawb and sean have said,,,wtf.

but seriously.....live journal yeah.especially if shes a poster around these parts.

i understand what your going through......