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May 16, 01
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need some advice
k.....hope u can stay with me on this
say life granted u an oppurtunity, one in which u had been hoping for, for a while......you would be able to take advantage of this oppurtunity with no strings attached, whenever you wanted to......but there was something that held u back in a way...something that u could POSSIBLY lose if u took this oppurtunity.......wonderin if u guys would or would not -adam 
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May 16, 01
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uummmmm. well your vagueness doesn't help anyone in the position of telling you what to do.
so here's what i'm gonna do. i'm gonna fill in the blanks with a hypothetical situation and give a solution that would work for any situation. lets all just say(for arguments sake) that Adam is talking about sex - WHICH I DOUBT HE IS. Hypothetically speaking...Adam is a virgine and was hoping for the opportunity to change this. Some ho wants him to come over and get laid every day - no strings attached. But somehow in this equation adam loses something....like his self-respect. This is a dilemma for adam because he reeeeeeaaaalllly wants to get laid. That said. My opinion is this. If it's something that you might lose (like self'respect) that you can't live without. then don't do it. if the gain is worth more than the loss (like sex tee hee) then do it...while you still can before you lose the opportunity. See, you gotsta decide what's more important to you. is it the opportunity ie sex? will you ever have the opportunity again if you passed it up this time? are you to remain a virgin forever hehe. Or is the thing you'd be losing too precious to you? yeah. like your self respect. would you be able to live without it? could you get it back. if you don't give us some more info we're all gonna assume it's about sex. :) j/j/ hope that helps. prolly doesn't tho. sorry - it's hard without really knowin whats goin on. good luck hon
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May 16, 01
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haha dont worry not a virgin......and its not some ho that wamts me to fuk her brains out.......and the thing i have to lose is not self respect but someones trust...
-adam
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May 16, 01
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well then. it's easy.
whats worth more to you? that persons trust or this opportunity that you speak of? is this the only opportunity you'll have? cuz usually if you break someones trust you dont get a chance to earn it back....see?
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May 16, 01
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depends on friend..
talk to the friend.....do u value his or her trust? weigh the consequences....if this is what u really really want and it's worth losing the friend's trust then go for it but if not then don't ...talk to the friend though....don't go behind their back...etc...
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May 16, 01
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yeah definately....
the best thing to to would be to talk to the person who's trust you may be losing.... but this is not only the best thing to do, in an ideal world, but the hardest. because if you tell him/her, and talk to him/her about it... you are really wanting them to go "no really, it's okay, take the oppertunity" or somthing to that effect but most likely this person will be choked... and even though you talked to him/her about it, and decided not to take the oppertuninty if their trust meant too much to you, he/she would still, in the back of their mind, wonder why you would even CONSIDER taking the oppertunity... so that would probably be hard i guess you just have to evaluate what is worth more, the oppertunity or the trust... do you get what i'm saying??? probably not... it sounds kinda confusing... but i know what i'm talking about. if ya want someone to bounce things off of, i'm around, icq 73678876
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May 16, 01
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if it's sex ur talkin about...which I think it is....
variety is good...but quantity of one is lots more fun...but redundant...dilemma u say...yes...that is the magic word for today.... u could be a sneaky little prick and shut ur mouth..then u could have the best of both...BUT MAKE SURE THERE ARE NO STRINGS LEADING BACK TO THE ONE U DON"T WANT TO KNOW!! don't over look anything...don't do anything in public...that always back fires..u think ur safe...and then hey..it's ur gf's long lost friend watchin u holdin hands wit some ho...yeah that sucks... i say long lost because before they never talked but now that person does talk to her jus to get u into shiznit...bitches..grrr! hmm what could u be contemplating...adam adam adam..hmmm..what goes on in that pandoras box u call a head??????? corrie
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May 16, 01
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k......guys this is not about sex.....but i am not at liberty to state what it is actually about.....thank your for ur quick replies and helpful advice.......
-adam
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May 17, 01
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Common adam this isn't a house of lies!!!....haha jokin man....we talked the other day...I know u will make the best choice in the end...good luck!
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May 21, 01
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This is all based on your own values. What YOU believe in. If you value someone, you would not betray their trust. Trust is such an important and sacred thing. Once you lose it, it is very hard to gain back. If you do go ahead and do whatever you're talking about, can you live with yourself for losing that person's trust? Will it eat away at you inside? Or are you okay with it? Really think it through very carefully before you make any actions. Cause sometimes we do something, without thoroughly thinking it through, and we have to suffer the consequences in the end. Also consider how you would feel/have felt in the past if someone betrayed your trust. In my past experience, it is one of the most horrible feelings ever. Personally, I value trust a LOT, and would never do anything to break that...regardless of how tempting it is. But everyone's different, and who am I to tell you what's right and what's wrong? Do what you feel is right for you. Good luck hun! :027:
Last edited by Erica; May 24, 01 at 07:59 PM.
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