Lost the spark?

[dj4mula]

Is it possible to lose the spark in the relationship and not blame anyone for it?


~Tim

[rawb]

yes.

[*STARFISH*]

yes..
sometimes you just realize you were 2 different people...
sometimes its just manotiny in the relationship..

[bebu*funfun]

fo shoz yo! especially in the teenager life...if he/she is "the one" the light is from an electric outlet or else the light is just from a burning candle...the light will eventually die out by itself.

its actualy better when u lose the spark and not have neone to blame for....soooo much more peaceful.

[Timdareez]

it is better if you don't even have a spark to start off. so you won't get burned in the end.

[bebu*funfun]

human beings like to play with fire

[krisamata]

yes.


but its not impossible to get it back in some relationships.

[*KeLLnEsS*]

yes. people change

[Guice_39]

Yes, but you can try everything to get it back and if that doesn't work then I think its just time to move on.

[krisamata]

^^^ yup.

[dj4mula]

I made one last effort 2 get it back and no success.

Now the question is. Can a friendship still occur? I personally the chances are 1 in 10 that an actual friendship will blossom. The other 9 will be hate, bitterness or just plane awkard.

But can you blame someone who is the "9", and aren't friends after a breakup?

[stabmyhead]

If there's no one to blame for the lack of spark, then a friendship wouldn't be as hard to blossom if you had fingers to point to a source of the trouble.

As with all things, it takes time.. whether or not you are willing to put in the time and patience to wait for something to escalate is up to you. It WILL be akward, someone might still be bitter, and there would be moments where you think the spark is back and you want to go back... but that's just relationship withdrawl.

[krisamata]

it really depends on the people, and the situation,
each situation is different..
thats somethng you have to talk about

[Guice_39]

Originally posted by dj4mula:
I made one last effort 2 get it back and no success.

Now the question is. Can a friendship still occur? I personally the chances are 1 in 10 that an actual friendship will blossom. The other 9 will be hate, bitterness or just plane awkard.

But can you blame someone who is the "9", and aren't friends after a breakup?

Yes a friendship can occur but most of tha time it doesn't. One person is usually all bitter and mean to the one who broke it off which is stupid an immature. But havin a friendship keeps you in touch which is good especially if that person means somethin to you....it also gives a chance for another relationship in tha future.
So I say try to be friends and if tha other doesn't want to....then at least you tried.

[Timdareez]

Don'T GET INVOLVED AT ALL !!!!! THAT IS THE WAY !!!!!!!
if you get involved always be PREPARED TO GET BURNED !!!!!!
cause remember FIEGS CAN NEVER MAKE UP THEIR MIND !!!!!
THAT IS A FACT !!!!!

[krisamata]

i say just stick with casual sex with strangers.

[Timdareez]

ya.... CASUAL SEX WITH STRANGERS WORK !!
but remember the rules......

NO CONTACT AFTER THAT NIGHT !
NO HAVING PHONE NUMBERS !
NO WISHING YOU COULD DO IT AGAIN !
1 NIGHT STAND IS THE WAY !!!!!!! <- NO Feelins will ever get involved......

[Timdareez]

Tim ( 4mula ) if you feel like both you lost the spark... honestly... talk about it with her and see how you can RE KINDLE that spark.... IE : SEX !! SEX !! SEX !!!....

[Guice_39]

Originally posted by Timdareez:
Don'T GET INVOLVED AT ALL !!!!! THAT IS THE WAY !!!!!!!
if you get involved always be PREPARED TO GET BURNED !!!!!!
cause remember FIEGS CAN NEVER MAKE UP THEIR MIND !!!!!
THAT IS A FACT !!!!!

Although I told him to stay friends..........I still agree with that fact Tim.

[walkin]

Originally posted by Timdareez:
FIEGS CAN NEVER MAKE UP THEIR MIND !!!!!
THAT IS A FACT !!!!!

same goes for guys dude, same goes for guys...

i think it is the human species that is messed up

[Italian_Soda]

Originally posted by Timdareez:
ya.... CASUAL SEX WITH STRANGERS WORK !!
but remember the rules......

NO CONTACT AFTER THAT NIGHT !
NO HAVING PHONE NUMBERS !
NO WISHING YOU COULD DO IT AGAIN !
1 NIGHT STAND IS THE WAY !!!!!!! <- NO Feelins will ever get involved......

No! 1 night... not enough me and my b/f have been having sex for 5 months and it gets better and better.. once u get more comforable with sombody u can try new things :PartEkid:

[Guice_39]

Originally posted by wALkiN:


same goes for guys dude, same goes for guys...

i think it is the human species that is messed up

Naw man were more chillin and relaxed than girls......girls are more sensative and analyze shit way more......but I smoke pot so I analyze shit hardcore too, especially when I'm baked.