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Nov 23, 02
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make it stop!
i just dont get it! everytime life seems to be going ok something else happens... I had never had anyone close to me die until last summer, when my grandma died of a blood transfusion... my parents had top leave me alone for my 16th birthday to clean out her appartment,... the next day my aunt died, then my "grandma" (close family friend) passed away the next month from breast cancer... I thought that was enough and them my friend's brother took his own life,... a close friend of mine died in a car accident... and since then 6 of my friends have lost their parents unexpectedly, one friend is now an orphan at 17 as his father passed away like two months ago, and his mother had died only a few years before... Last week my ex-boyfriend's father killed himself and then the next day my friend came to me crying because a close relation of hers slipped in the shower and broke his neck.... I know not all these deaths directly affected me, but it hurts to see my friends suffering.... when does this stop?
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Nov 23, 02
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it never stops
best thing you can do for yourself is to not allow yourself to be too vulnerable to other people's hurt. Sounds like you're a very sympathetic person, which is a good thing, and it's great to be there for your friends but in these situations there's only so much you can "do".. Healing comes from "within" (hehhhe) so let them know you're there for them, but also remember to take care of you. It sucks when deaths hit you consecutively and "doesn't stop" but as it is a fact of life, it never does, really stop... the thing that slapped me in the face yet helped me through "situations like these" was the realization that life moves on, with or without you. So either you sit there and sulk in your own sorrow and let things fall apart starting on the inside, working its way towards the outside, or you can "go on a search" on what death means to you... Most of the time the reasons why we fear/dread death is because we don't know where our loved ones go after their passing. Maybe if you can figure out for yourself a positive theory about what happens after death, it would provide you with a sense of "Closure". It worked for my religious friends at least.. :P try to remind yourself of their life instead of their death. Rather than grieving their loss, celebrate the fact that you were blessed with having received the oppurtunity to know them, before they were to meet their eventual fate of death.
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Nov 24, 02
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i know what yoo're saying,... and i beleive that is pretty much the same speech i give to all my friends, that everything happens for reason.... and that when you loose someone like that you are supposed to take a part of them with you... and show the world the gift they have given you by being in your life... Its just so hard to watch parents burrying their children,.... and teenagers burrying their parents, none of which died simply of old age,... you know, "left quietly in thier sleep," its jsut that its gotten to the point where geting up in the morning means worrying about what news will come that day
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Nov 24, 02
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you live to die
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Nov 24, 02
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I beleive we live to die cuz death is the beginning not the end and birth is the end not the beginning HA!
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Nov 24, 02
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^hello womannnn can you READDDDDDD
"i'd respond.. but I'm gonna leave mine outta her thread. okah?" /me throws sausages at mr moderator ps: "you live to die" sounds, in my opinion, like a pretty depressing thing to say when some one is pouring their hearts out about loss/grief/death.. it's a perspective, (IMO) that says that the purpose of life is to die, therefore has no meaning. what a thing to think about when you're going through some hard times. therefore it is related, *neener neener weiner eater* Last edited by yoko*; Nov 24, 02 at 03:58 PM.
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Nov 24, 02
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ya my theory on life and death will help her greatly on greiving sO HA!
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Nov 24, 02
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I just dont see the point in candy coating stufff. It might be harsh I might come off as abrasive but its the truth.
BACK TO THE TOPIC NOW
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Nov 24, 02
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whoa!!!! i titally didnt mean for this to happen! :(
i was jsut trying to say that life is jsut sometimes hard to accept the way things are... but then again if it were all perfect we'd have nothing to make us realize the blessings we recieve in it!.... please dont fight guys :( im sorry
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Nov 24, 02
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and i dont think godessa is wrong... its her opinion.... i wish like hell i oucld view things like that but i cant! i envy you for viewing life that way!
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Nov 24, 02
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^haha silly girl, no worries, I had no intention of "fighting" nor was I bashing her opinion i simply brought up my own... I doubt godessa took it personally either.
Firstly, I'm not the type of person to argue, I prefer discussion. (and I'm not gonna even go into the distincton between argument and discussion)...secondly, if I were arguing I woudn't be throwing VIRTUAL sausages at mr. moderator boberator, I'd be throwig REAL ones to his face, if only it weren't a waste of yummy european sausages. keke. last but not least, I never said that godessa's opinion was *wrong* I am not the type of person to say that some one's opinion is wrong before hearing them out, I just thought that her one-liner sounded pretty pessimistic... ps. sweet of you to be concerned like that though, ;) no worries, everything is OK /me skips off into the sunset.
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Nov 24, 02
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thanks babe and thanks for your support! :)
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Nov 26, 02
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I wasnt fighting or nuffin!!!! I CAN BE NICE REALLY I CAN!!!! :)
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Nov 26, 02
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i believe you
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Nov 27, 02
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no godessa you've proved u can be a sweetie!
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Nov 27, 02
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C I TOLD YA SO! THANK U GIN!!!!haa haaa :sick:
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Nov 27, 02
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:kimmie:
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