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being tru to ur heart
i have a situation????????????i was in a relationship where my gf she
felt like i was unhappy with myself. we had a bunch of arguments like really stupid shit like for me i wanted it simple but isn't it harder to make plans if u leave a certain day open ?like if ur bf or gf asks u to go sumwhere but u answer them with a lets see what other people are doin?what does it tell u?well i have a shit load of love in my heart for my ex but i don't know how to get rid of it???or do i want to, or is it possible. i love her alot but its hard for me to show it cuz i wanna start fresh but also be myself again. she doesn't feel tha same way bcuz all tha good stuff reminds her of tha bad stuff i wanna show her how i feel but it jus hurts her to see me sad but oi can't help it i had several things goin on in my life and i needed to get a job and shit and stand on my own feet again. i've been through relationships over and over but i feel different for this gurl cuz i actually love her. i don't wanna force her to love me again but we were soo happy b4 and we never had ne fights like is it wrong to be curious to ask her who she was with like its not insecurity for me its jus curiosity and to carry a conversation not a fight .but all i want is to jus take it easy and work things out , is that too much to ask for .i kno she still looves me but she thinks its easier to jus move on.what do u peeps think???????????? 
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Originally posted by c_men18
i have a situation????????????i was in a relationship where my gf she felt like i was unhappy with myself. we had a bunch of arguments like really stupid shit like for me i wanted it simple but isn't it harder to make plans if u leave a certain day open ?like if ur bf or gf asks u to go sumwhere but u answer them with a lets see what other people are doin?what does it tell u? I'd say that either she feels like she's not spending enough time with her friends, or she'd rather be friends with you, but of course there could be some deep meaning to this that I don't know about because I am unaware of the kind of person she is... If she's busy a lot and rarely gets to see her friends and you then she's probably just trying to kill two pigs with one stone.. well i have a shit load of love in my heart for my ex but i don't know how to get rid of it???or do i want to, or is it possible. i love her alot but its hard for me to show it cuz i wanna start fresh but also be myself again. In my personal opinion, if you weren't able to be yourself, then it probably wasn't love... This may sound crazy, but I think that if you're in a relationship and you're acting like someone else, it's not really geuinely you, which would make it fake. she doesn't feel tha same way bcuz all tha good stuff reminds her of tha bad stuff i wanna show her how i feel but it jus hurts her to see me sad but oi can't help it i had several things goin on in my life and i needed to get a job and shit and stand on my own feet again. I think you just answered your question as to what you need to do right there buddy... First off, she doesn't feel the same way as you. Second, you don't need this head trauma right now. Third, she doesn't need this head trauma right now. If you forget, repeat 1 - 2 - 3 all over again. i've been through relationships over and over but i feel different for this gurl cuz i actually love her. i don't wanna force her to love me again What is this? AGAIN? You don't want to force her to love you AGAIN? If this is not an aparent sign to give up, I don't know what is... You'll probably just push her further away if you force your love onto her... it sounds more like a strong infactuation than anything, then again, I don't know you or what you two have been through. but we were soo happy b4 and we never had ne fights like is it wrong to be curious to ask her who she was with like its not insecurity for me its jus curiosity and to carry a conversation not a fight .but all i want is to jus take it easy and work things out , is that too much to ask for .i kno she still looves me but she thinks its easier to jus move on.what do u peeps think???????????? I'd hate to break this to you, but most new couples were happy "before".. it's the honeymoon phase of the relationship where everything is new and the relationship is airbrushed and fluffy. How long you can keep feeling like that depends on how well you maintain the relationship. Sometimes it's better to not let yourself get your heads too high up into the clouds, but if you two couldn't pull through the "stupid shit" then how the hell are you going to overcome this? I suggest you take some time away and stay away from her, get your shit together, take care of yourself first before you think about looking after the emotions of someone else. That is all.
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i think its stupid that she says "lets see what everyone else is doing" when you want to do something with them... in fact i'd be REALLY pissed off just cause i hate people who do that
anyways, i think you should mail her some anthrax and get on with your life john 2899131 ps. school is cool
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*head twirl and snapping in some obscure hoochi manner* Life experience, good perception and common sense helps people through obstacles. Regarding John's post: AHHH, It's like, let's see if other people are doing anything more interesting besides hanging out with you before I make any plans.... If you make plans with someone, stick with it damn you people.
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