lost love

[Sue Bitch]

I just cant get him out of my head. My ex-boyfriend, it has been 8 mounths since we broke up. I dont see him much at all but i sometimes talk to him on the net. We never did part on good terms since i practically broke his heart. He hates drugs. I really like drugs (pot) nad there was the problem of going to raves cause of the excess to drugs. But l;ately I have just been thinking of him alot I dont know if it is because I truely love him or it is the fact that i havent had a boyfriend since him (hurting)

Should I just ignore my feelings or maybe go see him and pour my heart out. I mean if i went out with him i would stop drugs not easily but i would truely this time in a second flat.

But i am not good with this stuff and my best friend has well not been a best friend lately so HELP!!!!!! please

[yoko*]

Well if you don't know the root to your cravings for him, you shouldn't just go straight up to him and pour your heart out. You should figure out what you want first,
and then decide what you want to do
;)

[stabmyhead]

Originally posted by Sue Bitch:
I just cant get him out of my head. My ex-boyfriend, it has been 8 mounths since we broke up. I dont see him much at all but i sometimes talk to him on the net.

That could be the problem, you don't see him that often, only left to talk to him on the net, so you are left with this lingering feeling to see him, to be with him...

We never did part on good terms since i practically broke his heart. He hates drugs. I really like drugs (pot) nad there was the problem of going to raves cause of the excess to drugs.

If that's why you guys broke up in the first place, and you're still smoking pot and going to raves, I don't think it's going to be better this time around if you guys can't be open minded and look beyond something so trivial. Then again, maybe you doing what you do, strongly offends him, and in that case, I don't think you should attempt.

But l;ately I have just been thinking of him alot I dont know if it is because I truely love him or it is the fact that i havent had a boyfriend since him (hurting)

*eye roll* OMG, Eight months without dating someone... that's like, harsh man, how do you get by? I think you're just lonely and want to be loved, then again, who doesn't. You're looking for it in the wrong place. Recycling is for bottles and cans.

Should I just ignore my feelings or maybe go see him and pour my heart out. I mean if i went out with him i would stop drugs not easily but i would truely this time in a second flat.

Quitting drugs for someone else is a bad idea, what happens when you guys break up again? You'll probably go back to doing drugs and partying to forget about him... If you're going to quit, do it for your own reasons, not to try to win back some guy. It just makes you look needy and fake. Try to figure out what you really want before you go for it. Those that walk with their eyes closed, just end up running into walls.

[Sue Bitch]

But l;ately I have just been thinking of him alot I dont know if it is because I truely love him or it is the fact that i havent had a boyfriend since him (hurting)

*eye roll* OMG, Eight months without dating someone... that's like, harsh man, how do you get by? I think you're just lonely and want to be loved, then again, who doesn't. You're looking for it in the wrong place. Recycling is for bottles and cans.

that may be true i think i will try to find a guy b4 i do anything drastic

[stabmyhead]

How about finding out what you want instead of what you can get.

[Sue Bitch]

hmmmmm

[justa~gurl]

i've been thinking about my first love a lot lately too...(do'nt get the wrong impression, i have a bf right now who i love more then anything~


i've had 4 or 5 boyfriends since him....but i still miss him and i still love him, but that doesn't neccesarily mean that we should get back together.

imo,
if you loved him then you will always have those feelings for him..

[Ragga_Wh0re]

awwww bella u still love him <3 !!! go get ur love andiamo! I know exactly how u feel i still ache for my love too,but rarely do i give in cuz im too fuckin stubborn... but for u just give er shit dont deny urself of something u want

[sungoo]

I love how stabby is always right...

well my advice is...
Even though you still have these feelings for him, spend some time alone. As in single.
And figure out what you want before you go into a relationship.

[Jingles]

:keebler: Feelings are something that will always be there for an old boyfriend - especially if there has been no one since. Many times your hearts will forget what it was that made you break up in the first place. Your heart chooses to only remember the good things...this can be a problem because if you don't seee that person or actually talk to them (internet doesn't count) your brain will start to make up fantasies about how perfect you two were together and so on... when you seea person you are more likely to remember why it was you can't be together - when they are on the internet they are just a disembodied voice that has time to think of answers to questions and so on...it is less authentic - i think anyway - I wouldn't pour out your heart just yet - if you broke his heart before, this really isn't what he needs. And if you honestly love him, you will consider that.
In the grand scheme of life 8 months is nothing, I've gone years without someone serious - its all about being secure in being alone - it doesn't mean you have to be lonely - there's lots of other people in the same situation. On my hip it says Love Never Dies and I (of course) believe that, but love sadly isn't enough to make a great partner - don't forget that
best wishes
Jingles

[Sue Bitch]

thanx girls

[poohbearhoney]

i love you sue and don;t forget it