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Apr 14, 03
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when you (the kid) dono who to believe
ok so im now living with my dad 'cuz my mom is a materialistik,
money hungry,close minded womyn that puts on a show for the neighbourhood so they believe she is the sweetest, most caring laidee(ms cleever type) in the co-op with a great family and a awfl ex-husbund that she has braved all alone and that she is doing all she can for her "troubled and sexualy confused" daughter and handycapt son. but really shes just the opposite of that (and me) really the only love she can show is the material kind(on occasion) my dad is verry sik right now,he's unable to work so he is collecting u.i for now he gets a small cheque every 2 wks,and of that he owes my mom hella child souport and he has to pay rent leaving him something like 20.00 left for grocrys an' stuff......(for 2 wks).....thats impossible. my mom is still insisting im living with her and is still collecting souport for me,when i have been out(off and on) since i was 16(im now 19) she tells me shes getting NO money from him and he shows me goverment recipts ....(proof). she lives in a co-op and pays $210.00 a month she makes $14.00/hr...my dad pays more rent and makes way less then her but still is never late on his payments. *i guess this is just a vent....im sorry!* shit jus' sux ri' now.........naaameannn it's kinda funni, when i was younger i was taught to HATE my dad at all costs cuz"he was soo awfl" but im qwiklee learning diffrent. how can someone do that? i feel soo stoopid. sometimes i dont understand the reason behind peoples hate. i havn't even talked to her for a month now,she never even called me on my birthday..... uuuggghhh i soooo hope i dont turn into her as i get older. *ok sorri im done* 
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Apr 14, 03
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i don't know what else to say but, let the authorities know that you no longer live with her, and she'll have to stop collecting on your behalf. (actually, you're 19 so she shouldn't be getting anything for you).
^i'm only saying this (not to pick sides) but it seems like you're on your dad's side on this and it will help him out.
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Apr 14, 03
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aww ashlee thats so shitty, it sounds like you've got a lot of built up frustration but you should try talking to your mom about how u feel (i KNOW its sooo hard!!!!~)
its unfair that all the time she's lead you to believe false shit about your dad, alot of parents do that to there kids and they shouldnt its not fair on you...i dont think i shood say much more on a public message board but if u ever needta talk just gimme a call take care hun :)
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Apr 14, 03
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Wow ash... I cant tell how familar that sounds!!!
Yeah ive always been stuck in between my parents who hate each other, wont talk, both think the other one has more money, or is giving more money then needed or claims the other is just being greedy etc. It sucks cus your stuck in the middle and love or want to love both your parents... But when there both taring the other one apart and get you invold to fight against the other with them... I reckon a lot of it is just them getting back at their broken marage and trying to prove to the kids how much the other parent sux to make them feel better or somthing stucpid. Its just not fair, unreal and very hurting for the kids... It sux and im glad to have gotten away from it for a whole year and just live on my own out of the country. I was hopeing as I grew a lot older so would my parents... However some how ive managed to servive the last 10 years :) And yes after 18 parents dont have to pay child suport, thats when you start paying rent ehhh... So hang in there!!! Last edited by Ree Fresh; Apr 14, 03 at 04:51 PM.
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Apr 14, 03
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aww yall are awsome
i have tried to talk to my mom .....she thinx shes right all the time and is just a sarcastik bitch shes like"ohh im glad ur 19 and you have the world figgured out already" and it just makes me cry an' i hate crying , especially when people can hear me. even when i was hella drugg adikt in gr 10 she wouldn't even let my counciler at school talk to me (or ne one) cuz she didn't want people to think she skrewed up on raising her kids and "no one knows her family better then her"....... yeah right,she has no idea who i am.
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Apr 14, 03
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so meny moms are like that for some strange reason... they have such comfoting caring materal love... and then just have certin ways that are imposible to get around no matter what, unless you need to take it to court wich you realy dont want to do to your own mummy...
I pray not to pick up momy skills like that
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Apr 14, 03
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oh no shitt eh^^^
im gonna be such a good mom ... i want my kids to like me. cuz i know 1st hand whut it's like to be afraide of cho' mamma and no kid should ever feel like that! some kids are soo lucky ,and they think there soo bad off fuk those kids piss me off! like....."oh mommy only made me a peanut butter sandwitch fo lunch today ....stoopid bitch didn't give me nacho's"
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Apr 14, 03
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awww hunny hang in there :)
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Apr 14, 03
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i hear ya
stuff used to be alot easier when you were a kid and sure i could go off on a rant but just wanted to say i got your support whenever you want gimme a holla if you ever want to im sure we can chat and mabye i can help talk you though it. Not saying im the best or smartest person to give advice i just say what i think most of the time. hope everything is going well for you and your family and you get though these hard times and look back and smile instead of crying *hug
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Apr 14, 03
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^^^ what he said lol :c-tard:
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Apr 14, 03
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Don't let your parents immaturity make you ever feel stupid. It's unfair for them to use you to vent their frustrations.
If you ever feel like your mom is taking money that rightfully belongs to you and is lying to you about it, go see a lawyer (a lot of them can help you out pro bono) M
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Apr 15, 03
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Yup once you are 18 no more child support - And you are 19 so tell your dad to stop paying - Not to mention the fact that id he's on E.I he can apply for child support relief - If he can talk to a lawyer he'll find out if he's eligible to take a break for a few months of until income situation is a bit better.
Your dad must see a lawyer - just sending out money doesn't help any situation. And now that you are an adult, I recomend highly that you take some time and see someone about all your emotions surrounding what you have had to see in your lifetime. You said you didn't get a chance to do it in high school - take that chance now, take a parent if you want, but don't keep it inside. You must let it out so that one day you can be the best mum possible and have a great relationship with your own partner. Many of us have had to deal with ugly things as children, but as adults we must take a hold of our own situation so that we don't inadvertantly continue the cycle give yourself a hug! and go pick up the phone Jingles
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Apr 15, 03
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thanx guys ....wow!
im alot better today ...i had a huge talk with my dad last night, and told him alot of the thinga jingles wrote ..thanx man. ninja boy.....ahh whatever ur skinny faggit ass aint wo0rth a word that comes outta' my mou7th ,i jus' wish u showed ur face on occasion,cowward.
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Apr 15, 03
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but you shold really look into getting the money away from your mom she collecting off you.. and somehow get it to your dad... hang in there. SN: ninjaboy is one of those people who are stupid as fuck, thinkin they know you and stuff, dont bother with his comments.. just a boy looking for sumthing to do with his worthless life, needs to be filtered outta this world along with all the other stupid fucks out there. (yeah you all know who you are)
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Apr 15, 03
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oh please...
she's pouring her fucking heart out and you have the fucking audacity to make some sny, RUDE remark? you're an asshole. but i'm sure you pride yourself on that. get a fucking life, chump. ash: you're a strong girl and you'll rise above all this because that's just who you are! keep your head up! when i come home i'm gonna give you the biggest hug ever. -s.
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Apr 15, 03
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awww promise???^thanx dawlin'
ninja boy you didn't attak me but when i see you next time (if you ever show ur face in publik an' ever leave ur comp.) i wanna talk at you for a bit....an' i hope im not drunk cuz really you sooooo deserve a kik in the teeth.(not just from me) i can see it now junglist beats candee kidds teeth in ...HOLLA!!! (ASHILLEE BARX IN NINJA BOYS FACE!!!!!)
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Apr 15, 03
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oh man..
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