has anyone ever been in love that it made them cry?

[MistressSpankME]

I was in love at 16, enough to make me cry happy tears. The first time we ever said it to eachother i was overwhelmed I did cry, it's just such a wonderful feeling.

But marriage? I was also mature enough at 16 to not even consider marriage as a possibility. It's highly unlikely that this person is the right one for you to spend the rest of your life with, and if he is then it will happen, rushing into something like that at your age could fuck up everythying you have with the person and possibly your own potential.. Try going out for a FEW years, getting out of highschool and fucking puberty possibly, THEN if you are still together and happy as you are now, if not happier, THEN think about marriage.

[sexynat429]

i put this on the message board cause i have no one else to talk to. and we aren't going to get married for a while, but a couple of days ago he just told me that he want's to marry when we are older. the reason i asked was cause i have never been this happy before in my life and i want to get married so i know that he will always be there for me when i need him and he won't leave when there is a little problem. but i'm sorry that i even started this post.

[MistressSpankME]

^no, don't apologize, if you have no one else to speak to, then this is better than making stupid decision you will regret later on.

I have one question for you though, by the sounds of it you want to trap him in so he can't leave when things get a little rough. It sounds more like holding him captive than being in love, do you actually think marriage will automaticallly make him "always be there for me when i need him and he won't leave when there is a little problem"? Marriage can be a wonderful commitment and way to show your love to eachother etc etc. But technically it's just a legal binding, it's not magic and it won't make him stay with you forever. Oh and just so you know, neither will a baby.

you are young and I'm guessing you haven't been together for THAT long, and not to piss on your parade but the odds that he told he wants to marry you because he either 1) wants to get laid 2) is in lust , or will change his mind within a few months because you guys ARE young, still exists. I'm not saying he's playing you, but you guys are so young you never know how things will turn out in the long, or short, run. So just be happy with what you have now.

[Joanne]

when I was 16, I cried for 7 hours straight out of "love" for this stupid, pathetic, piece of shit, motherfucking asshole who broke my heart. I hope he gets malaria.

--Joanne :P

[sNyx]

don't be sorry for expressing your personal thoughts/views on this. I believe that if you feel your really ready, and so does he.. then maybe its time to start "thinking" about your future together. but at 16 can you drive a car? do you have a full time job? are you still in school? ect.. ect.. there are so many important questions to ask about your life before you invite someone else into it. on your side, I have read/heard about marriage at 14.. 15.. yeah 16.. but its so early! why don't you two sit down and talk about a three year plan? discuss where you both are in life, were you want to be in a year, two years, then pencil in a wedding two years from now. this isn't like asking someone to the movies, or so go steady.. this is a life move, like a child.

anyway.. yeah thats my 1130a ramble. hope it helped somewhat. also please post deeper/personal threads in the heart2heart you will get more quality replies over posting in the lounge. I noticed I moved a few of your threads out of the lounge and into appropriate forums this morning.

good luck!
-mYles :)

[-InFiNiTi-]

Originally posted by bananasinpjs
when I was 16, I cried for 7 hours straight out of "love" for this stupid, pathetic, piece of shit, motherfucking asshole who broke my heart. I hope he gets malaria.

--Joanne :P

yup..same thing happend to me...it was ruff..right on valentine's day to.

i shoulda put voodoo on the fucker.but ya..love hurts..sux's and is amazing all at the same time...sweet isnt it :y:

[Chet]

looks like we should start a "I was crushed when I was 16 club"

[MistressSpankME]

I was the one doing the "crushing" at 16, and it hurt almost as much :( Well, with my first love at least.

Every relationship after that one my heart was multilated in some awful way... I'm lucky I trust -anyone- at all anymore.

fuckingmalebastardswiththeirpenis'thatiw anttocutoffwitharustysteakniferaaa


See sexynatperson, this is how most relationships at 16 turn out.

[Jingles]

Originally posted by beach*bum


and jingles i do agree with you. but it does say something about the maturity of someone if they feel the need to ask on a message board what they should do....

All she asked for was opinion - i do that now - sometimes we all get a little cloudy in the head and just need to hear the voices of others to help guide our own thoughts - She never asked if she should get married now - or if she should have sex
at least that's not the way I read it

Msg borads are a legiimate way of getting opinion, and God know sas a 16 yr old I sure would have used this if I could've

I say it shows the maturity of a person when they have the courage to ask rather then to just do what others are doing - At 16 we are learning about ourselves, still learning what is normal and some folks here are quick to forget their own emotions at that time and think that by waving the finger 'you don't know what love is - you don't know what you want' that they have somehow been helpful
and i invite everyone to remember being 16 and getting those responses from older people - and how unhelpful they were

I stand up for teenage love :) because I still remember mine - and unlike everyone else who replies they had their heart crushed - well mine had his throat crushed, so sadly we were never able to live out the rest of the teenage love cycle, so it makes me smile to see others doing it

My rant is not for you Miss Beach Bum (cause i hear where you are coming from too)- I just stole your quote

[diva]

Originally posted by bananasinpjs
when I was 16, I cried for 7 hours straight out of "love" for this stupid, pathetic, piece of shit, motherfucking asshole who broke my heart. I hope he gets malaria.

--Joanne :P

Harsh, Joanne!
I got malaria when I was 4 years old and almost died of it because the fuckers at Montreal Children's hospital knew fuck all about tropical diseases.

Anyhoo, I think you guys should all shut the fuck up. How dare you tell What'sherface with the generic raver nickname that what she's feeling isn't real?! Love's as real as you make it!

YOU GO GIRL.

[frontline]

^ i agree...and nothing anybody says will change what you feel...

[yourlilbaby]

Its easy to be in love at any point, and there is no age where you should or should not have sex with someone, but i personally say thinking or tlkaing about marriage is ok, but actuslly doing it should wait till you are a bit older. You have a alot of growing to do as a person, and im sure he does too, and at 16 you have so much of your life left to find out who your are, you should wait until you've completely figured out who you are. Congradulations on having that strong of feelings for someone though, its an amazing feeling, but id say wait on any permanent decisions about marriage until you are cerain this is the guy you wanna spend the rest of your life with (which is at least another 60 or so odd years). remmebr when u get out of school everyhting becomes so different, id say at least wait until you're out of school and moving on to a life of your own. Good luck with whatever you decide, remember that all these suggestions are just trivial, you have to do what you feel is right and no one else can make that decision for you.

[sexynat429]

thanx everyone for the helpful advice. and i am waiting to get married and i'm just thinking about it (what girl doesn't think about getting married?) and we are waiting till we get jobs and stuff before we do anything and when we are done school we are going to live in my basement until we can make it on our own.

[Anjew]

don't get pregnant.

[mugsy]

our ideals change alot after highschool. i used to think success was marriage, 2 kids, with a white picket fence outside a beautiful home. i believed thats what i should aspire to be.
then i realized what passion was, and what i could be. right now, success to me is to paint. its all i wanna do at this moment, its all i can see myself doing, at least for this week.
even within this past month, i have changed, ive become more driven for myself rather then for others.
as its been said over and over again, enjoy your feelings, feel them with all your might, but feel them for today not tomorow.

[sexynat429]

i don't want to get pregnant and i'm not going to until i can support the child.

[baby_bluez]

get married thats fine... just dont bring chillun into this world at that young an age. i think bringing chillun into ur life at 16 or any time before you have an established career is child abuse. dont do it. and ya having sex w/ someone you love is fine and dandee at any age as long as ur both mature enough to talk about the possible risks and outcomes that comes w/ humping and you both know to use protection.
*****Also for any girls who don't know, there are free youth clinics all over the lower mainland where you can get any type of birthcontrol pills, *excluding diane 35* free of cost and complettttttttttly confidential. You can also get free std tests and blood tests and the results will be told only to you. Your parents are NOT involved in any way. *******

[Joanne]

Originally posted by baby_bluez
get married thats fine... just dont bring chillun into this world at that young an age. i think bringing chillun into ur life at 16 or any time before you have an established career is child abuse. dont do it.

I never knew being poor parents constituted as child abuse. :P

--Joanne :P

[yoko*]

Originally posted by Jingles
I tihnk that one of my greatest pet peeves is how quick people are to dismiss teenage love as 'lust' or somehow not real. Love is something we are capable of our whole lives - and it evolves. My definition of love now, is not what it was 5 years ago and certainly not what it will be a decade from now - we love in every stage in life the way we know how. A 16 yr old doesn't love the same way a 25 yr old does - they aren't at the same place, but that doesn't mean their love is any less real or any less valid

I say enjoy the beauty of the moemnt -enjoy one another - don't worry about things like marriage just yet - marriage is not the ultimate way to express your love anyway - You have forever and a day to think about marriage, and in your heart if it is love - you know you can wait to make that commitment anyway :)

i like this post :5stars:

[NinjaBoy]

Originally posted by sexynat429
we are going to live in my basement

BWHA HA HA HA!

We're going to finsish school and get married and live in my parents basement.

First off, finish high school. Work or go to school for a year, then and only then consider anything like marrige.

[sexynat429]

i know that is what we are going to do. i am going to go to hair dressing school somewhere. and the reason why we are going to live in my basement is cause he doesn't get alone wit his parents and i don't get along wit mine and we just want to get away and be alone for a bit ya know. and we just want to be together and i am going to make sure that my life is in order before anything happens like that and i don't want to get married for a long time and i don't want to have children ever so you don't have to worry about that. and hopefully he will get his life in order before then to so i think it is all going to work out. we have it planed.

[mugsy]

your 16, you shouldnt get along with your parents.... your building your own identity. your gonna rebel, be horomonal, and say things youll regret in 5 years.... i'm glad you have a plan, however don't rely on the future... anything can happen. you have not even lived through a quarter of your life.

im not saying dont love, dont hate and blah blah blah.... just dont assume everything will be rainbows and puppies and big red balloons. i changed my mind a hundred times on what i wanted to be through highschool, and sometimes my feelings towards my plans were super strong and i thought\knew nobody and nothing was going to rain on my parade.. but sometimes it did, and sometimes i just realized after i experienced it, i didnt like it.

but hell, do it your way. it will always be the best for you.

[sexynat429]

ya i know i'm just 16 and i shouldn't be thinking about this stuff but it is hard not to for me cause i am really happy and i don't want to lose this happyness. since i got depression i haven't laughed for months.

and when i am wit Sky i laugh all the time cause i am so happy. and when you have depression its hard to find things that make you happy. the things that use to make you happy don't. so sky is all i have to make me happy now and i don't want to lose him.

but w/e no one cares i don't ever know why i started this post. i should have known that ppl were just going to bitch at me for it.

sorry everyone (for trying to find help) :014:

[mugsy]

i dont believe alot of people are bitching at you... mostly just giving out the advice you asked for.

if you have depression, you should seek help. relying on a person to make you happy will only lead to deeper depression\sadness in the future. you have to face what makes you sad\depressed. if its something chemical inside you thats off balance, go to a doctor they can fix it. you cant ask a 16 or 17 year old guy to fix your depression... think of it that way. dont put your well being on his shoulders. its wicked cool that he makes you that happy, but now try and find ways to sustain that happiness with yourself.

[sexynat429]

i did go to the docs and am taking meds for depression and they are working pretty well. i just ment that when i am around him i'm always happy with him and then when we are apart i just go to my room and be depressed it's really weird and kind of hard to explain. but i am trying the best i can.

when i am not with him all i can think about is him and how much i wish he could be with me. but i know that he needs his space so i give him some. and he isn't fixing my depression he is just making it easier for me. and when ever i'm depressed and need someone to talk to i call him up and he understands and listens (not a lot of my friends do that) and he would do anything to help me.

but this is a pointless post but w/e