people that come and go..

[bebu*funfun]

i have a lot of homework tonite, so of course i procrastinate by thinking about....LIFE. aaz...wut a great topic.

doing some self reflecting and i realized that i have never been friends with anyone for more than 4 years. i dont have that "childhood friend" that i grew up with nor that stable friend who i can garentee that will still be by my side in 5 years. (actually.. i think im slowly developing some closer relationships with ppl i meet now. (there is definately a few exceptions) hmm

enough blabing.. i just realized that in the past 2 years ive had people that i hung out with everyday or talked everyday with... just suddenly drop off the edge of the world. i dont know what to say to that.. is that a diss to my face that im a bad person to be freinds with, or is it their own personal problems? just a lil confusing to suddenly not hear from someone that really gave me hope that a solid friendship was going to be built. and YES i do try to get a hold of ppl..but caller id has made this world pretty messed up. hmm.

good example would be a friend that ive been talking/hangin out with lots..and suddenly disappeared.. decided to fall into a hermit mode. blah.. i try to help, but most of the time my help is usually rejected.

what sucks even more is when friends move away...blah. hey but they all will eventually come back right? is $2.50 a min on LD worth it? hehe.

what i learned from the past friendships is that..when u find a cool friend... dont be a self absorbing bitch and grasp on to them like there is not tmrw. lol... i have no clue.

sorry just a random thought. im still young and weird.

[Kelster]

i've always found it weird how those temporary friends would come and go one after the other...like i've never been without a friend, one would come after the previous one would go

but yea, good long term friends are great
i think the longest friends i have right now is about 4-5 years...not too long, but our friendship is tight

for the last couple of years the only thing that has made my friendships weaken has been when someone found a boyfriend/girlfriend
they just disapear and it sucks! the only time you hear from them is when the other is at work or they got into a fight...but i guess i'm guilty of that too :soak:

[mugsy]

im finding that i'm not neccessarily loosing close friends that i have had since childhood, but i am finding out how close they actually are\how much respect they give me. and sometimes it has ended in me just not asociating with them anymore.

[SEAN!]

maybe your just really really insecure and should stop being a wierdo who thinks too deeply into things.


some people arent worth being friends with, move on, the ones that matter will still be there.

i feel the same way as mugsy(megan) but its the opposite, ive come to realize that alot of my childhood friends are the ones that i can count on the most.

[mugsy]

oh and another thing kinda adding onto sean's comment, theres too many fish out there to be really concerned with "loosing" a friend.
id much rather have no friends then friends that arent good for me.

[bebu*funfun]

edit: old info that no one needs to know

[crackdragon]

Friends will always come and go as people change and grow as individuals. Everyones tastes/ likes/ dislikes change thoughout there lives and so do the friends that go along with that particular period. The good ones always stick through it all though.

[junglEst_gurl]

honestly i always think bout the same thing....Im always hanging round with new ppl and moving on from the old ones

I really have no friends from chilldhood eitheir...makes me sad but we all have just changed and gone our seperate ways..but whos to know if its for the good or the bad.....maybe im just young and weird to...meh

[SEAN!]

Originally posted by bebu*funfun


thanks sean..really appreciate.
uve been the most special one of them all.. never had anyone physically push me away before.

yeah and ive never had anyone wrongfully accuse me of ignoring them and then prentend to be someone else on msn in order to elicit information/opinions from me.

[bebu*funfun]

edit: old info that no one needs to know.

[charly]

i don't have that childhood friend or anything either. the longest friendship i've had at the moment is about 3 years. i blame myself for that. i have a hard time opening up and trusting people, and most people tend to think i'm a snob. great fun.

[bob]

maybe you're being too attentive to the wrong friends and neglecting the ones you should be savoring.

[Sammy Skillz]

a lot of people come and go in my life...including friends. I've kind of come to accept that fact though. I'm still really young and i'm still trying to find myself. I'm ever-changing and so are the people around me...and sometimes relationships change.

i have my strong foundation of friends...aki, rhianna and caitlin. they're like my backbone or spine. as long as i have them, i know things will be okay.

it really upsets me, however, that certain friends who i really held close to my heart seem to have drifted out of my life over the past few months. it sucks...for them.

-s.

[sweet~kandy]

I know what u mean,

I remember way back when I was little I would tell this one girl that we would be best friends forever and we sorta stopped talking and stuff. Highschool came around and now im a nobody to her. She turned into the popular group. How wonderful.

Ive had friends that come and go, some that stay for months but others that say their gunna say but forget.

I still to today, no have had a frienship more that a year. Some of them are just talking friends, others are there all the time, To go to the mall etc...

[yoko*]

yeah i hear that.. but considering how young you are (as am I) I think that's it's pretty normal and nothing to worry about.

I often consciously make a decision not to associate with certain people after a while just because I can't see how they fit into my lifestyle.. or.. their values just entirely conflict with mine and find it harder to respect them. I can't be friends with someone I have no respect for it just isn't an honest thing to do or something I'm comfortable with.Sometimes, people just naturally drift from each other due to conflicting schedules as well

Whether the reason be that your friends just don't want to associate with you anymore, or that they've just become real busy, I think it helps to know who your true friends are so you know which friendships are worth making the effort to save and which you can afford to wash down the drain..

I've had a solid group of gf's that I've been friends with for about 6-7 years and we don't see each other very often, or talk to each other everyday.. but I think that that's ok and that it's perfectly normal. Some people haven't different preferences in friendships.. like me, I can go without seeing someone for over a month and still consider them a good friend... I don't need to be talking to someone every day in order to feel like my life is fulfilling in the social circle.. whereas some people need to have that constant social stimulation.. so it could be that your expectations are just a little different from that of others...

people's priorities change, and that's constant throughout life. Maybe someone who you were once friends with before isn't friends with you now, but somewhere down the road you might even find that you're more compatible with them than ever...

[Rhianna]

I hate drifting away from people.

I used to have this best friend in highschool that rocked my shazba. But thanks to raves, drugs and me being a tool we just grew apart. At the time I was too involved w/ myself to care but now I really miss her. We still talk every once and a while but it'll never be the same.

I think after highschool I've made some of the best friends I've ever had though. Like Sammy, Filo Face Christopher, and Conor. As long as I have them, Karl, Aki & Caitlin I'm happy.

Caitlin my heart.............I miss you.

Did we have a falling out? My mum wants to know because she's worried.

[bebu*funfun]

Originally posted by bob
maybe you're being too attentive to the wrong friends and neglecting the ones you should be savoring.

i totally think that is the reason.

i promised myself this year that im going to try to build better relationship ppl..and not be the one who drifts away. im such an unstable person, i hate it.. im not good with commiting to things..even though DEEP inside i want things to stable down.. but from my observation of myself... nopes.. im jumpy as hell.

TAME DOWN.

[Bitchin]

BEV!!!
I LOVE YOU!!!!

dont worry.. I got yer back, till pigs can fly!

[PinkBunnyCandy]

they say that grade 10 is the year u learn who your real friends are, but i wasnt there for that haha....i have different groups i hang out with, not just one main group of friends. ive lost a couple groups just because of sooooo much drama, and control in the groups. its sad when people become what u cant stand to be around, where u have to cut them off all together. ive had my fair shair of friends leave me, and it sucks. but we all must grow and learn from these things. my closest friends are now people i can only stand to be around for a couple weeks then take a break from for another week. i find most girl friends are just to much drama to hang out with all the time...well maybe thats just abbotsford. but its hard growing up now days, thank god for those plurry kids out there hahahahahaha riiiight!!! anyways, friends come and go, im always willing to give a shot at a friend ship....remember, dont judge a book by its cover also!! haha friends blah.

[matéo]

Originally posted by PinkBunnyCandy
they say that grade 10 is the year u learn who your real friends are

Who says? The grade 12s?

[Sariel]

I have had a lot of friends come and go in my life, and have basically decided that there are 2 types of friends one can make.

The replaceble kind - The ones that are like a lot of your other friends, or there is no real connection.... they leave, and while you might think of them once in a while, you don't really lose any sleep over losing touch with them

The irreplaceble kind - Those people that touch you in such a way that they leave their mark on your heart forever.

Unfortunantly, you don't know what friend is going to fall into which catagory until they are no longer there.

[mapleleaf4ever]

I'm a bit different, I've moved a lot in my 21 years and finally I've been in one place with a population of greater than a Transit Bus for more than two years. So I've had friends come and go as well, usually because I moved. But I still have some friends from the Island (V.I. FOREVER!!!) And I've started to develop a close ring of friends here in Vancouver. There are a couple friends I do miss though... Oh well, people grow and change. I used to have quite the crew that I would party with in High School, now I haven't seen any of them since I graduated. As far as I'm concerned if they don't want to call me it's their loss... I've tried to contact them to no avail. heh heh So now it's my current friends and I ravin' it up! :D

[yoko*]

Originally posted by matéo


Who says? The grade 12s?

hahaha...

[Erica]

The good true friends are those that will be there for you through thick and thin. Those are few and very far apart! Most of the time, everyone's just so busy in their own lives (especially at the age where we're out of high school and at school or working to support ourselves) and it's not something to take personally. I have a few select friends that respect friendship down to the bone. If something is wrong, or if I need someone to talk to, they'll be there for me...period. And I'm the same with them. I'll be there for them as soon as I possibly can if they need me. I can talk to them and tell them anything without worrying at all that they'll judge me or my actions, and I'm the same way to them. You can't call someone a true friend if they judge you cause then you feel like you have to hold things back from them. We all have our own flaws in different senses, I think that's something that a lot of people have yet to really understand. Ultimately though, we're all human, and none of us are perfect. At the end of the day, you are your own crutch that you must lean on. That's not to say to block out people in your life cause you feel like you can't depend on ANYONE at all to be there for you, but your own inner core strength is vital to your well being.

[Angelic_Beauty]

that is life,people come and go, ur the best of friends and then it changes... changes with personality, with relationships, how YOu grow and vis-versa. And then you got people that you have been friends with since you were little youngin's..... those ones you have a real past with , and will probably keep in touch with because you have always been there for each other,those friendships should be cherished, because its hard to find people that you care for that much and that would do the same for you!!!
Personally speaking, I have friends that I chill with and we go out and have a great time, and then i got those COUPLE of friends that i can just spill my heart and soul too, and i know i would never get hurt.