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Aug 17, 04
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i wish i did. my dad never talks about anything personal. we get along really well but its hard to keep a conversation with him :(
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Aug 17, 04
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me and my dad, (my adoptive dad) and i are really close.. but its totaly diffrent
its like mark (my real dad) are friends... we totaly have the same twisted sence of humor, and taste in movie.... music... we look ALOT alike.. its totaly fun.
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Aug 17, 04
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I only really got to know my father when I was becoming an 'adult' because I didn't have much communication with him or see him much at all as a teenager...
he passed away shortly afterwards, but I feel pretty lucky I really got to know him as an adult before he did.
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Aug 17, 04
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i use to be afraid of him.. when i was little i knew he was.. but i avoided him at alll costs.... i was uncomfortable... soooo uncomfortable i'd do anything ANYTHING to get away from him
now i want to be with him.. only in the last year... i guess tyler started it all
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Aug 17, 04
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I love my dad. Everyone thinks hes kind of a dink. But it's in a Red from that 70's show kinda way. So I think it's funny.
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Aug 17, 04
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my real dad took off when i was 4 i havent heard from him once, or gotten a single birthday card or christmas card from him, absolutly nothing.
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Aug 17, 04
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that must be amazing to be able to find and get to know your dad.. my manager at work right now just got reunited with his real father, but the father wont admit that he has a son. tough situation..
i wish i knew my dad better.. i know on a daily basis what he likes/personality etc.. but i dont think we've ever had an in depth conversation before. my parents dont try to get to know me, when i talk they zone me out and i swear they'r eboth a lil deaf.. its frustrating. but it just makes me a lot more independent. not every family is like the full house family.
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Aug 17, 04
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if u mean...does anyone have a good bond with their dad...then yes i defintiely do...especially over the last year or so
if you mean with being reunited with birth family members then again yes i wasnt adopted but my mom was and my dad never ever met his birth father but: we have now found one of my moms sisters, and her brother, and we've met my dads brother and sister so i've been forming bonds over the past 4 years with all of these new members to my family.
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Aug 17, 04
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The older I get, the farther away me and my dad get. Him and I used to be extremely close..I was his first daughter (by blood) and a total daddies girl. Now I am probably his least favourite. I havent talked to him in over a month.
THANKS FOR MAKING ME ALL DEPRESSED! jk ;p
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Aug 17, 04
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Aug 17, 04
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i'm not as close as i am with my dad as i am with my moms. we still have long talks about intense things but never really emotional bonding things. don't think my dad was ever the affectionate type. i remmeber when i was a lil kid i was with my dad in korea n i told him i loved him but then his response was to not say that but i should say that i "liked" him instead. i still think that moment was pretty strange....
but yeah... my dads always been pretty hard to figure out.
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Aug 17, 04
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You're lucky to have two dads.
My dad and I were super close, he was fucking awesome - he always did everything he could for me, and always made an effort to take an interest in every aspect of my life - he even tried to set me up with boys, as weird as that sounds. He passed away when I was 15.......I miss him like you wouldn't believe, he was definitely the only person that has ever, and will ever, fully understand me because we were sooooo much alike.
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Aug 17, 04
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i'll never be half the man my dad is
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Aug 17, 04
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my dad.. well wut can i say i havent seen him in like 5 yrs.. dun intend to.. im never speaking to that asshole again.
my step dad is cool most of the times... weird.. but cool actually my whole family is weird.. all they do is talk bout sex at the dinner table.. and weird shit.. lol
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Aug 18, 04
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somewhere in my hear there is always a soft spot for my real father
we talk every few months, but he is stranger to me though i know he is sorry about some of the things he did to my mothr and i when i was young (and i forgive him for that) It doesn't change the fact that for most of my life he has just been a voice on the phone a man who doesn't really know me I see him, and I smile and I hug, and i llove him - but conversation is laboured we have to work on that if it is ever going to change and i often think it might never I talk to him and I can hear pieces of myself I hear his stories and i understand but all my dating life i have struggled with making poor boyfriend choices, much like my mother did - and i look at the men i do choose -- and who do they remind me of........ Nature and nurture are very interesting factors, most of my life has been spent with my wonderful step father and yet when they say a girl looks for a bit of her father in her mate...it seems it is my 'real' father that my instinct leads to, just goes to show maybe some of this shit is hardwired nto us after all i think its nice that you can be apart of your natural parents life, in some capactiy. they may not be ideal or even nice...but they did help make you
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Aug 18, 04
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my dad moved out when i was around 10 years old; after that i only saw him about once a month (if that). i figured it was no big deal because i had the rest of my life to get to know this guy.
a few years went by and he was diagnosed with cancer of the esophagus and died from it less than a year later. i spent more time with pops during his last year alive then i had spent with him in years prior. so to answer your question - yeah, i also bonded with my dad and got to know him better than i ever had. unfortuntaley it wasn't under the best circumstances and there is still tons that i don't know about him, but i'm very glad to have had the opportunity that i did.
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Aug 18, 04
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tough topic!
my dad and i had a rough relationship thru my up-bringing. he was a very stern man. for lack of a better term, my father was an asshole. for the longest time my father was ALWAYS right.
dad was very controlling of me. he wanted to make sure i grew up to be a military man, cuz his father, my grandpa thought it was ludacris. my dad threw me into army cadets as a kid even thought i wasn't all for it. showing my dad my abilities of: rappeling off a 200 foot rock face, firing a riffle, wearing a sharp uniform impressed him, thus we became closer somewhat. he even let me pick up smoking at 14 years old 'cause he thought if i had the balls to throw my self off a 200 foot cliff, then i can have the balls to smoke. (yeah my dad is a bit ol' fashioned). After moving out on my own, and my sisters giving birth to 2 beautiful young boys. he has somewhat immatured, which is a way is great! he's found a new sense of self, he's a happy guy for most of the time, and he's actualy is now a really great guy. who thougt you could teach an old dog new tricks?
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Aug 22, 04
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im in air cadets
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