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Jul 23, 04
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if he beats you?
"My boyfriend beats me...and is soo abusive
But i love him so much.. i can't leave him." I hate this Its been pushed in my face lately. I don't care if you have kids with the guy, i don't care if you've been with him for 4 years or 4 months.. even 4 days If he hits you.. kick him in the balls and leave Don't sit there and take it.. don't do what he says... do listen to him "say i'm sorry baby i wont do it again" Just get out. call the cops.. or walk out when hes at work..i don't care if you :"love him so much" or if he "loves me like no other man" Leave... and if you don't leave, don't cray to everyone about how you stay with your abusive boyfriend.... just for a sympathy trip. because id you don't do something about it, chances are its not as bad as you say... or its only gonna get wrose. so my tip of the day.. if he hits you. leave. 
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Jul 23, 04
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unfortunately some women just don't have the guts too
they come up with all kinds of reasons: -he doesnt hit me all the time -he apologizes after he hits me -it was my fault -i cant leave him..i have no where to go. -we have to stay together for the kids etc etc unfortunately i've witnessed this....my aunt was abused for many years...we moved her three times...he kept finding her...for some fucked up reason she would go back to him... he slammed my grandma against the door once he hit my aunt he stole from his children, to buy drug money he threatened to hang himself in the bathroom he threatened to burn the house down and he somehow managed to convince the cops that he was the victim in all of this she finally learned...... thank god, the kids i dont even want to see their dad anymore, and unfortunate as this is..its for the best sadly, i dont think she has enough self esteem, even after this many years to even bother dating anymore...to give herself to someone, to trust someone in that way again. how dare anyone put someone in that kind of a situation. i dont...and never ever will ever again consider that man my uncle...or part of my family i wouldnt be surprised to find him dead on the streets on vancouver
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I Agree I'd set up a cam in my house.. and catch him doing it. The sue the cops for not helping Its so dumb Women kind have come so far.... but there are some poor girls who just can't get out. and if anyone EVER... i mean EVER thougth of hitting my babies or even hitting me infront of my babies Oh.. man, i can't even THINK of what i'd do to him.
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there you go, off with the depressing threads again.
men who hit women are not men, period. and staying together for the kids is an absolute joke - it hurts the kids more having abusive parents then no father, because chances are the woman will find a decent caring man who does not take her or her children/child for granted. If a man hits you even ONCE get the fuck out, that's not love. it's never your fault. an apology may put them at rest, but the scars never heal. It's just not right, unless she hits you first.. in the balls, or with a bat.. or large blunt object, then you can at least kick her in the ass. BUT THAT'S IT.
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^^^ i'd go fucking balistic
not so much if he hit me ...but fuck if anyone were to ever touch one of my children...and hurt them...ya i'd go fucking balistic its unforunate that the cops dont wanna do something about this (im not saying all cops...im mostly referring to the ones that were part of my aunts situation)... they just kinda laughed at my aunt and told her that hes a nice guy and she should give him another chance
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if hes beating you then it means you're doing something wrong... SMARTEN UP!
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oh not one of these threads again...
IF U GO OUT WITH AN ASS, YOU ARE A DUMBASS!!! there ya go!!!!!!!!!!
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^^^ you're a fucking ass (to iluvtechno in case someone else replies before me)
some women cant help it they date these men that seem absolutely wonderful...and then the abuse starts...it never ever starts right away...usually when they are "in love" and she trusts him sometimes after they're married... you're a fucking ass
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...thank you
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well i don't know her that well. Its all friends of friends... and it ends up getting dumped on me. tons of girls get beat tons of girls are stupid and stay.
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Deep down, everyone knows it is wrong. They really do. Its just blasphemy to say that they don't, so they cover it up with stupid excuses as posted above. Really, it makes me sick when I see people in relationships like this. I voice my opinion to the friend and when I'm told I don't know anything and to go to hell, I do. I don't bother with it again. Of course, I'm there for a shoulder to cry on when its all over, but seriously, wise up people. First time someone touches you, get out.
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The only reason I think women stay in abusive relationships is because their self confidence is so low, they honestly believe that no one else would consider having a relationship with them. So, they hold on to what they have, no matter what.
Unfortunately, I speak from experience.
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Yes... it's relationships like that that make me shake my head. I don't know how some women can stay with such shitty Partners. I know a few of my friends in that situation. (Not necessarily beaten, but unhappy nontheless) lol *sings* Nice Guys finish last....
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