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Aug 30, 04
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"It's over."
Never the words you want to hear out of your significant other's mouth.
I feel so stupid. I didn't even see it coming. Yeah we've had some problems, but I thought we worked through them. I don't know what think, how to feel, what to do. I feel physically ill. I can't eat. I live with him, and I'm going to have to continue living with him over the next month while we sort shit out. It hurts so much. I've never felt for anyone what I feel for him. I just want the pain to stop. 
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Aug 31, 04
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*cuddles teh Lisa*
I dunno what to say babe but if you wanna talk more you know I'm just down the hall. We'll get the apartment thing figured out so don't stress too much about that. Don't feel stupid though hun... these things happen and more often then not one half of the party is blind to it. You can't just STOP eating though... try and eat a lil bit and be sure to keep drinking water. You don't wanna fuck up your health too. Even if it's just some soda crackers it'll help. While I'm housesitting in White Rock you're more then welcome to stay out there with me or you can sleep in my room if you want.
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Aug 31, 04
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I'm just thankful that I have such great friends.
Thanks guys. Trust me that I'm really going to need you over the next little while.
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Aug 31, 04
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check karma :)
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Aug 31, 04
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Aww, sorry to hear that Lisa!!! *hug*
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Aug 31, 04
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It really fucking hurts when you didn't see it coming because you feel like your feelings and everything you've put on the line was just all for someone who didn't want to be with you- I've been there, as I'm sure a lot of us have.
I can tell you one thing, it is 100% better to be single, to have time and energy to focus on making yourself happy and learning to love yourself than it is to be in a trouble filled relationship when you're always trying to patch things up and work things out. It's never easy to just fall out of love quickly, and just go to being fine with being around the person but not actually being with them, it's supposed to hurt if you did actually feel something for them...you know you have a really strong support network, and you know you always have a place to stay if you don't feel right about being at home. And what Cerah said, try to eat something..I'd highly reccomend Bret's cooking!!
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Aug 31, 04
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sorry to hear that, i dont know u but n e 1 can identify with feelings like that. You will make it throu, sounds like there's alot of people on here that care about you, and im sure that means there are even more in your life.
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Aug 31, 04
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Lisa,
i'm speechless :( *hug* it's not fair you have to go through this. no matter what we're all here for you. this is a sign.... a sign that something better is coming your way. something spectacular is on the horizon, and this is one of the bad things that has to happen in order for the best to follow. you're a beautiful and amazing girl. no matter how hard it is, don't ever forget that. *hugs hugs hugs hugs hugs*
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Aug 31, 04
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God I know that feeling. It's so sickening like a punch in the stomach or when you get on a freeky ride. But you don't yell "let's do it again!" afterwards.
Eating should be the first priority. Try ice cream, or chocolate :p I also recomend spending very little time at home if it hurts. Get away and spend it with friends. It can be really hard to let go and start the healing process, if they are right there all the time. Whatever you do don't kick yourself about this. If you have done nothing wrong then it isn't your fault. And if it's just because you didn't see it comming then don't worry about that. Sometimes people are just randomm, and they drop a bomb on you. Take care, feel better, and take advantage of your friends helping hands. :)
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Aug 31, 04
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lovelovelove. hun I know it hurts and it's the worst feeling ever. just don't hurt yourself more by beating yourself up about it and not eating and making yourself sick. it's not your fault, you did nothing wrong. you can't do anything but be yourself and there is nothing wrong with that person. :) if you want some company or anything at all call me kitten. plus I have an idea for the apt thing.
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Aug 31, 04
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Hahaha...You rock, rawb. Thank you for that. It made me laugh when Ilaughing was the last thing I expected to be doing.
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Aug 31, 04
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but look on the brightside, someday you'll find the right boy and you know those feelings you had for your ex...they'll be even deeper. (i hope that made sense) btw. you're not stupid, obviously you didn't see it coming. it would have been sillier if you knew things were over but continued playing along. if i were you, i'd take some time away from him/home..or kick him out for a couple days (to let things sink in and think it over) ;)
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Aug 31, 04
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Thanks everyone...It really means alot to know that there are so many people who care. :)
Him and I had a big talk last night, and while we're not getting back together, a bunch of shit got sorted out. It still hurts, but it hurts differently, and it hurts just a little less. The thought of food no longer repulses me. Yay!
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Sep 01, 04
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*hugs*
I've been in your bf's situation before...I don't think that my ex saw it coming but then again, we didn't just have small problems, we had HUGE problems. About eating...stay away from the junk food, at least on a large scale. It will just end up making you gain weight and feel worse about yourself. Eat healthy, and exercise - take out your emotions in a way that will benefit you positively. Good luck, I hope you feel better soon =)
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Sep 01, 04
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*hugs, facials masks and boy bashing*
i am just on the finishing end of this myself... so i can complelty relate. Especially when it is Real Love... the hardest part are the next couple weeks to come...its easier to help yourself through it by going out a lot with close friends. You need time with people who are going to make you feel loved, because if your feeling at all like i think you are, you shouldn't/ dont want to be alone right now. You just need to keep reminding yourself that everything happens for a reason, even if this is not at all what you could ever want to happen, everything will work out. Karma is on your side now. Just think, in the next couple weeks to come, Amazingly positive things are going to swing in your favor. Dont let this get you down. You deserve better then someone who is going to spontaniously hurt you like that. No one should feel like you do right now, so dont. Live it up at the time of your most painful aches. Call up your friends, and get them to take you to the P.N.E. or someting that will keep you pre-occupied for the next little while. The struggle is going to be ard, but it is always darkest before it is dawn hun. You have my support and love. *miss Crystal
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Sep 01, 04
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Listen to some music real loud (I liek teh weezer) and sing along with great fury! Keep you head up, learn something from the experience. Let it evolve your persona. It shouldn't be too hard for you to find another guy, and yes I know, you don't want another guy...but one day you will wake up and realize how much you kick ass...one day at a time.
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Sep 01, 04
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Hey lisa,
I'm really sorry to hear bout that. I was in shock when i heard. Don't think this changes my opionion or anything, cause you know i'll be around. :P Anyways, i hope you feel better and all that stuff. I'll see you soon i'm sure. Its going to be rough, but it gets better ok. :339:
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Sep 01, 04
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You better still be around...I enjoy harrassing you faaaaaar too much. :)
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Sep 01, 04
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look at all this girl, you've got MAD support from hella ppl, so dont worry bout nothin.. now you can PARTY DOWN crazy stylz!
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