N E 1 in love? fer real? what's it like 4 u?

[iluvtechno]

I LOVE when foods make me fat. I love it, just like how fat people love the fact that they are fat.

[dapimpstress]

**giggles** ur funny!

[Canar]

Originally Posted by cubed

In the quarter century that is my life, I've only said those three words to one person. Those are words that I've felt have been tossed around far too loosely. I always told myself that when I say those words it will be forever and only to the one person that truly deserves them. True love is all consuming, it turns it's blind eye to all the faults in that person, and that is why you love them. True love means you love the person for all that is wrong with them, and all that is right with them, no matter what the circumstances. Love isn't something that comes along when you're getting to know someone, that's infatuation. It takes time for love to develop, to say that you're in love after a short period is just a misconception of what love really is.

Hm. I personally disagree; maybe I'm just weird, but there are many people whose faults I forgive and ignore. Faults don't disappear, and everyone has them. No matter how thoroughly in love you are with someone, you will find fault eventually. Look at marriage if you need further examples. In those cases, it's not that you've fallen out of love, just that you realize that the other party is human.

I think that the word "love" is thrown around too casually in many cases and too infrequently in others. When you know someone well enough to know their deepest flaws yet care for them enough to ignore their flaws, they deserve to know that. In that sense, I love my immediate family, and much of the rest of my family. I have several friends (of both genders) that I also love, although it'd be difficult for me to tell them that to their face without awkwardness. I acknowledge it in my heart. I suppose that's the first step. Three months is probably around how long it'd take to get to this phase. Maybe more, maybe less, depending.

Then there's limerence, which is what the original poster is talking about. And yeah, that's something else altogether, and very breathtaking. I have no problem believing limerence can develop in 3 months.

The "L" in PLUR is also something different, at least in my heart. It's a general receptiveness to others, a desire to empathize, a complete tolerance... It's an utterly intuitional concept, so I don't have a hard-and-fast definition.

[vesperstina]

Who are you to say that love isn't possible in three monthes? But maybe, it takes 3 years, or 30 years that's not up to you, but them and their personal idea of what love is, and she loves him! The idea of putting restrictions or instructions on love is completly and utterly trite. Why should I go by what Jim says, or Galaxie, or 'society', I'll go by my own idea, but I guess exclaiming to a message board your feelings out there, the onus is on you to be expected to listen to what their ideas of love are.

If she loves him, they she loves him.
And that's really fantastic.

kudos.

[dapimpstress]

Originally Posted by vesperstina

I'll go by my own idea, but I guess exclaiming to a message board your feelings out there, the onus is on you to be expected to listen to what their ideas of love are.

If she loves him, they she loves him.
And that's really fantastic.

kudos.

MAD werd chica!! i heart u

[hardstylin]

love it whats you feel for someone right before you start to hate them :) no what im saying

[dapimpstress]

Originally Posted by hardstylin

love it whats you feel for someone right before you start to hate them :) no what im saying

ur just silly, tryina stir things up with that!

[hardstylin]

no way yankee girl!! :) its one of the things ive learned in my travels
:)

[dapimpstress]

where exactly have u traveled? have you seen love in your travels?

[hardstylin]

^^ i just might have :)

[dapimpstress]

and what did u find?

[hardstylin]

^^ that love makes people dumb, u get so stoked on the good you brush away the bad until it builds up and up and up and finally it blows up in ur face :) hahaha thats when the hating starts woot woot!!

[dapimpstress]

aint no hatin up in this bitch

[hardstylin]

not yet!!!

[decypher]

Love is when you can look into each others eyes and know what each other is thinking and feeling. Being connected mentally, not just puppy love.

[dapimpstress]

:) .....yay fer lovers

[decypher]

more like *puke*

[galaxie]

Originally Posted by cubed

I never said to sit and wonder whether it's love or not.

I merely reserved for the only person I could ever see myself growing old with.

That was the only person ever deserving of those words from my lips.

I fully understand that =)
Consider yourself lucky that you're one of the few people who truly believes that he will be with his partner for life. That's something incredibly special, Jim!

On the other hand, I believe that it's possible to love more than one person throughout your life, however, I believe that there is only one person you can spend your life with and be truly happy with. IMO, you will love some people along the way, to different extents and strengths, but the one you are meant to be with will feel different than ever before, will feel more special than ever before, and somehow, you will just know.

But, like I said before, everyone has their own view of love, and that's what makes it great. To be in love with someone who understands and reciprocates your love, and is on the same level as you, is most definitely a rare and special find. <3

[Akeel]

i wonder if cheese cake loves me....

[PwInCeSs]

do you love cheesecake?

[dapimpstress]

yes and i thnk he ALREADY said so.. hehe... he LOVES cheescake...

[miss.myra]

I am.

But it's like the saddest, most impossible love story ever. So uh yeah.

[dapimpstress]

Originally Posted by miss.myra

I am.

But it's like the saddest, most impossible l...ove story ever. So uh yeah.

why is it so impossible? is it tragically sad?

[dapimpstress]

travelin somewhere.. could be n e where.. theres a coldness in the air, but i dont care....

<<da bass yah wut>>

[penguinabc123]

Originally Posted by Liqwid

Yeah...and i am leaving to ontario with him

yay

~Dalyn

you must spread karma around before giving it to liqwid again...