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Sep 28, 04
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did i do that right thing?
okay, well this is going to be an interesting story
on friday i met my ex's new g/f... and she was a sweety and we got a long great, and i am really happy for them, and my ex is happy so thats all that matters... anyways on friday we were at my friends house popping e, w/e... then my ex, his g/f, and i went to this other party.. and of coarse there was lots of drinking.... the next morning the g/f went to go have a shower, so i went into the room they were in to cuddle with my ex (and the g/f doesnt really care about that kinda thing, we were doing it all night) anyways, in the morning my ex was still drunk, and we put his hands down my pants a couple times and told me he missed having sex with me.... so i was in shock.... and a couple hours later i told both of them what happened this morning, and my ex didnt even remember doing it.... now both of them are pissed off at me... and everyone told me i did the right thing by telling them and being honest.... but i just feel like shit, and it just feels like i did the wrong... they both would have never known if i just kept my mouth shut about the whole thing... has this happened to anyone else???? i'm just really confused cuz i dont know whats going to happen, my ex wants nothing to do with me, and i dont even know if they're still together or anything...... i really hope they are tho, they were so cute with eachother... i really didnt want to ruin anything 
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did he get you off at least?
haha how funny you shouldnt have been cuddling with him in the first place.
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Sep 28, 04
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Yeha, you totally did the right thing.
If you believe your ex 'didnt remember anything' you're gullible- he was covering his ass. His GF might hate you for bringing it up, but maybe later she'll recognize it for what it was- a warning sign that her boyfriend is no good and likes to stick his hands down other girls pants trying to get sex when she's not around. Sounds like he's a two timer to me. You done right, kid.
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i cuddle with all my guy friends, and that's all my ex is, he's a guy friend... and i was cuddleing him when his gf was there anyway... the cuddling wasnt the big deal.... it was that he put his hands down my pants.... and NO he didnt get me off, he put his hands down my pants and i told him to fuck off!!!
but for sum reason i do believe that he didnt remember.. cuz he talks in his sleep a lot, and i just think thats exactly what he was doing.... cuz as soon as he "woke up" he kept asking where his girlfiend was and shit..... but i guesss i just have to wait it out... he'll realise that i was just trying to be honest
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I don't want to hear any bullshit excuses about "I cuddle with all my guy friends". FUCK THAT. That's something you just DO NOT do. If his new gf acted like she was comfortable with it, that's all she was doing - ACTING. If my bf's ex was cuddling with him, first I'd kick her ass, then I'd say SEE YA LATER to him! Ugh!
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Hmmm...I would still cuddle with my ex. She is now married (and happily too I might add) Her boy is cool with me and I am cool with him...But then again we all realize that we made better friends than lovers and we are all mature enough to handle that without anyone getting jealous...
As far as the not remembering thing...It is possible...I experience large memory gaps when e and alcohol are combined...but I am pretty sure I would remember putting my hands down someone's pants...
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The only guy friend I cuddle w/ likes dick just as much as I do. I say gay guy friends don't count.
My bf would flip if he came back from a shower and I was cuddling w/ my ex and I'd kick him in the face if I ever walked in on that. But that's just us. No other boy is good enough to cuddle w/ besides my bf. And you are a perfect example of why one should not cuddle w/ an ex. Especially when they are drunk AND on E. No good can come of it. Last edited by Rhianna; Sep 28, 04 at 09:47 PM.
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^ yeah but if you kicked him in the face first, she might have time to get away, and the odds of him trying to come up w/an excuse vs. running away are like 20:1, which is why I'd go after her first!
And yes, this is a perfect reason as to why I <3 you so much Rhianna!
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Sep 28, 04
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Alcohol the cause of and answer to all of lifes problems
Personaly I'm iffy on the whole cuddling with with an ex thing as for the aftermath I think you did the right thing the truth shall set you free or inprison for life either way you did the right thing more power to you
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Sep 28, 04
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umm...
k ... this is going to be another one of those times where i'm going to be very blunt. Don't cuddle with ex's that have someone else. Common sense. You're just asking for it by doing that. may not happen once may not happen the second time but eventually ... someone will do something bad.
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okay... well all the advice i'm getting is to not cuddle with my ex.... but i dont think you guys understand how close my ex and i are...(well not so much anymore) but his g/f trusts me and him together (again not so much anymore) but i hope you get the point, this has nothing to do with me and my ex cuddling, cuz we were doing that throughout the night, while his gf was there, and she would come and join and we'd have a cuddle puddle... i just dont know if i should have just kept my mouth shut about him putting his hands down my pants, or if i did the right thing by telling them......
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What you are saying is understood...that you don't want to hear anyone telling you what you did (cuddling with the ex) is what caused the problem in the first place. And if you were SOOOOO close with him then why is it that he doesn't believe what you say? and he's not talking to you, wants nothing to do with you?
Obviously you telling them was the right thing to do, but that doesn't mean you should have been "cuddling" with him to begin with.... which is what got you into the whole mess. If you didn't have this need to cuddle with your ex's you wouldn't be having this problem?? I think what happened was she was fine with it while she was all high on e and drinking alcohol...but as soon as reality hit she wasn't too happy with the situation anymore.
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*holds back laughter* ^_^
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I am not saying what your ex did was right, drunk/high or not it was wrong BUT, it wouldn't have happened if you wouldn't have gone in there in the first place. My suggestion would be that you wish him and her well, and leave well enough alone. Cheers.
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