breaking up?

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Love sucks.

I feel like I want to break up with my girlfriend, but I dont know if I trust my own feelings. I dont know if I want to break up because I'm the kind of person who always wants what I cant have (in this case, being single), and I worry that if I do I'll be making a really stupid mistake. But I dont know if I want to stay together because I'm afraid of being single, and because I'm afraid of hurting her.

I just don't trust myself either way.
She's home in 3 days.
fuck.

[Partizan]

become a buddhist monk

remember

life is grief

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if ur not sure what to do just let things settle for a few days and see how things turn out

alot of times things arent the way u percieve them to be

[MissBehavior]

I'd say wait until she's home, and see if you still feel the same way. Seeing her should jog your feelings either way, so (if I were you) I wouldn't try to make any definative decisions beforehand.

Good luck, man.

[zeal_oner]

i know exactly what this feels like....just play it out...dont do it until your totally sure thats what you want to do...
i dunno dont take my advice..just a opinion

[miss.myra]

Staying in a relationship out of fear (in this case, of being single and of hurting someone else) is not the right reason to do so.

I don't know, I hung out in a relationship where it was clear it needed to end for much too long, and I regret not ending it and moving on sooner.

anyways, you'll gain a lot of clarity seeing her soon, and I think then you'll just know.

I'm here if you need to talk Simon :)

[Ree Fresh]

^Myra's words exactly

Totaly know those feelings where you think you know whats best for you, yet your feelings tell you somthing diffrent :/

When she comes home youll probly want her back for sure though?

[mojo]

like they^ said, wait until she returns to see how you truly feel.

i wish you the best man. it sounds like your in a tough situation.

[Ree Fresh]

^but then maybe that can be a bad thing...

Its like when your away from them you see the big picture and understand how YOU feel and wat YOU want, but when your there in person with them your feeligns become over powering and easly manipulated.

Am I right?

[mojo]

^ yeah , you are.

you realize a lot when your on your own. a lot.

[dabbler]

sometimes everything changes when you see them.

[miss.myra]

Originally Posted by mojo

^ yeah , you are.

you realize a lot when your on your own. a lot.

unrelated (or perhaps related) note

I kind of feel like people who every time jump from relationship to relationship without room to breathe are maybe a bit apprehensive about doing that for themselves.

It's so nice to always be distracted, but at the end of the day, it's good to have 'you' time, I think.

[sidekick]

i definitly agree that being alone allows you a lot of clarity in your own life and how you feel about things. but i also agree with whoever said to wait until she's home before you commit yourself to a decision. if your feelings are still the same after she's back, then you should be more certain of what you want to do.

best of luck, simon :)

[mojo]

Originally Posted by miss.myra

unrelated (or perhaps related) note

I kind of feel like people who every time jump from relationship to relationship without room to breathe are maybe a bit apprehensive about doing that for themselves.

It's so nice to always be distracted, but at the end of the day, it's good to have 'you' time, I think.

i know what you mean.

i have a friend like that. i dont think he has been single for more then maybe a week, in the past hmm.......6 years?

i think that you need some personal time, when you can finally listen to what yourself is saying, and not simply focus on what is coming in from others.

and you are right, it is a distraction. a great one though, when you dont neglect numero uno.

ps:sorry for the addition to these tangents man. but i think it is related.

[Partizan]

^^ about that

doesnt have to be black and white

it can be gray

and that gray area is good old casual sex, fuck friends, friends with benifits

whatever u wanna call it

[ebbomega]

Trial breakup, whut?

Just remember she can always change her mind too.

[-ff-]

^

In our long and storied past, she and I have had a couple of trial breakups actually. I dont think we could manage another 'trial'.

[miss.myra]

Simon, I think you'll only know for sure when you see her.

Right now you've got a lot on your mind with papers, exams and all that.

Trust me, when you see her, when you're able to spend some time with her, you'll know.

Until then, littering your brain with indecision isn't going to do a lot of good.


take care friend!

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^
Damn youse and your wisdom!!

[electron]

I wouldnt break up with her just for the reason of wanting to be single.

[galaxie]

Originally Posted by miss.myra

Simon, I think you'll only know for sure when you see her.

Right now you've got a lot on your mind with papers, exams and all that.

Trust me, when you see her, when you're able to spend some time with her, you'll know.

Until then, littering your brain with indecision isn't going to do a lot of good.


take care friend!

Myra's right, as usual.

For me, it's OK when my man goes away for a week or so because it gives me some time to catch up on Natalie time - but then he comes home and I feel so much more complete. It's like, even though it's cool to have time to myself, I wouldn't ALWAYS want to be without him. If you haven't had time away from her in awhile, it may just be that you're welcoming the temporary change, but that if it were permanent you wouldn't be happy.

I agree with those who are saying to wait and see how you feel when she gets home. Give it a week or two, and if you're still feeling the same way, talk to her about it.

Good luck!

[zeal_oner]

i have noticed myra has lots of good advice!!!

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Well.

It is done.

I'm kind of relieved, but its also really sad.

Talk about a crazy fucking month.