How do you know?

[MangoJuice]

Originally Posted by gusto

maybe tell him what you wrote here. even if you're wrong and its not love, it doesn't mean its not worth checking out.

what do you think i am going to do, tell him I asked 4 advice on a raver msg board!!

[MangoJuice]

Originally Posted by miss.myra

It's something that strikes you when you least expect it. It's the kind of thing that makes you sit straight up in bed at night, or stop dead in your tracks walking down the street.

If it's love, you know it, you don't need to ask yourself or doubt anything.

I 4 sure sit up in bed - i just want to write every thing down on paper of all my thoughts about him, then I try to focus on something like mountains or lakes or something to get him off my mind so I can finally get some sleep!!

[MangoJuice]

Originally Posted by dabbler

i believe the saying goes something like


it is better to have loved and lost, than to have never loved at all...

that is not very comforting!!

[Gusto]

Originally Posted by MangoJuice

what do you think i am going to do, tell him I asked 4 advice on a raver msg board!!

hahahaha, no! i mean tell him WHAT you told us, not THAT you told us.

[mapleleaf4ever]

Originally Posted by MangoJuice

what really *is* love anyways?

It's a series of electrical impulses and bio-chemical reactions in your brain.

[TrixX]

Originally Posted by MangoJuice

that is not very comforting!!

he's trying to let you know that even if it doesn't work out it was worth it!!!!
which it is.

[miss.myra]

Originally Posted by MangoJuice

I 4 sure sit up in bed - i just want to write every thing down on paper of all my thoughts about him, then I try to focus on something like mountains or lakes or something to get him off my mind so I can finally get some sleep!!

I think it's healthier to say something. Storing something inside is no good and it's going to come out, possibly in a very wrong way.

I remembered I realized I was actually in love with my ex, and I was so freaked out because it was all new to me and I thought I couldn't say anything to make things weirder...and then for so long it was all I could think about and it made me act weird, which lead to lots of fights. It finally ended up coming out in the midst of a heated argument where I think I screamed 'FUCK YOU KNOW WHAT MY PROBLEM IS? I LOVE YOU' and it wasn't as pretty as it could have very well been (me all red and angry/teary faced and all..), had I said something.

[MangoJuice]

Originally Posted by gusto

hahahaha, no! i mean tell him WHAT you told us, not THAT you told us.

oh ok then :)

[MangoJuice]

Originally Posted by miss.myra

I think it's healthier to say something. Storing something inside is no good and it's going to come out, possibly in a very wrong way.

I remembered I realized I was actually in love with my ex, and I was so freaked out because it was all new to me and I thought I couldn't say anything to make things weirder...and then for so long it was all I could think about and it made me act weird, which lead to lots of fights. It finally ended up coming out in the midst of a heated argument where I think I screamed 'FUCK YOU KNOW WHAT MY PROBLEM IS? I LOVE YOU' and it wasn't as pretty as it could have very well been (me all red and angry/teary faced and all..), had I said something.

This is very very true.. but I dont want to just flat out say it in some corny way while we're gazing at each other, if he raises his eyebrow and goes "huh?" I would run away and cry and feel so ashamed

what did he say after you yelled that at him anyways??

[ebbomega]

I dunno if you're in love. That's for you to decide.

But I will say that I would not be who I am today if not for both the people I love and the people I have been in love with.

[dabbler]

Originally Posted by TrixX

he's trying to let you know that even if it doesn't work out it was worth it!!!!
which it is.

presicely.

[TrixX]

Originally Posted by dabbler

presicely.

ha, at least we're on the same page!

[miss.myra]

Originally Posted by MangoJuice

what did he say after you yelled that at him anyways??

He was shocked, he couldn't say anything. haha, it was toootally the wrong way to say that kind of thing though, I can tell you that much!

[decypher]

Originally Posted by dabbler

i believe the saying goes something like


it is better to have loved and lost, than to have never loved at all...

sooo true...





Mango, just start with telling him that you like him. don't tell him you love him until u have developed a relationship for awhile.

[justa~gurl]

just make sure you love him for the person he is and not who you think and daydream him to be...

i've done that by mistake a few times in the past..


Love can be a very very scary thing that you don't have much control over.. but at the same time it's the best thing in the world =o)

i love the begginings of relationships! they are so fun and exciting.. full of nervousness and energy.... walking around like a goon with a huge smile on your face cause your thinking of that someone and people look at you like ..ok what did she take today??

learn from it and enjoy it thoroughly

[ebbomega]

Oh yeah... Here's a recent figuring of what love has meant to me....

It's not so much of a things-you-like-about-this person that build the love. It's easy to love the things you like about someone.

Where the true love part comes in is where you love them for (not despite) the things you dislike about them.

Just remember: Love and hate are two ends of the same emotion.

[dabbler]

i have to say, i'm very impressed with some of the responses in this thread.
very good advice from lots of people

[Kelster]

personaly, i wouldn't go for it.

i've got a boyfriend that i loooooove sooo much, but it really kinda sucks being in such a serious relationship at this age. things would have been perfect if we were too meet in 5 years.

right now i enjoy going out to clubs and doing crazy things with my friends, which doesn't always go over too well with him. i did a lil travelling by myself last month, and plan too do a lot more in the next couple of years, it wasn't pretty leaving my bf and he didn't like it much either. you seem young, school may be an issue for you, would you want to get into a relationship too find out one of you may be going across the country for university?

friendship is under rated. everyones all 'love love love cuddle cuddle cuddle'. love comes and go so fast at this age, it's scary. but too each there own!
there's a lot of nice things bout having a boyfriend, but once you're in that relationship it's almost impossible too turn around, but i've learned my lesson now if this one ends and the next one comes along i'm not even going to bother (unless i'm nearing my 30's).

either way, love or not, if i were you i'd just keep him as a good friend till you're ready to settle down. friends are very nice.

[neoh]

Originally Posted by Kelster

personaly, i wouldn't go for it.

i've got a boyfriend that i loooooove sooo much, but it really kinda sucks being in such a serious relationship at this age. things would have been perfect if we were too meet in 5 years.

right now i enjoy going out to clubs and doing crazy things with my friends, which doesn't always go over too well with him. i did a lil travelling by myself last month, and plan too do a lot more in the next couple of years, it wasn't pretty leaving my bf and he didn't like it much either. you seem young, school may be an issue for you, would you want to get into a relationship too find out one of you may be going across the country for university?

friendship is under rated. everyones all 'love love love cuddle cuddle cuddle'. love comes and go so fast at this age, it's scary. but too each there own!
there's a lot of nice things bout having a boyfriend, but once you're in that relationship it's almost impossible too turn around, but i've learned my lesson now if this one ends and the next one comes along i'm not even going to bother (unless i'm nearing my 30's).

either way, love or not, if i were you i'd just keep him as a good friend till you're ready to settle down. friends are very nice.

That's kind of harsh, and extremely selfish. "I wish I would of never met the man I loved, at least not until later.. "

he needs to accept the fact that you go out and party, or bring him along.

You can travel alone, or even better yet - travel with him, i'm sure he would like to spend that time in far away lands with you too.

If you go across the country for university, work around it or work together to make it work, fuck distance.

Love does not always come fast at this age, it depends on the person, it's not like we're all inclined to fall in love with every person of the opposite sex we meet.

If you are so wrapped up in yourself and what YOU want, then maybe you shouldent be in the relashionship in the first place.

[justa~gurl]

i don't think thats selfish.. i think thats level headed and honest

at this age you shouldn't be concentrating 100% on anyone but yourself..
if you happen to be in love or are in a relationship. then so be it.. as long as you let each other breath and do your own thing there is nothing selfish about it.. if you want it to work out.. then you gotta loosen up a little and go where you need to go to succeed in all areas of your life, otherwise you will end up regretting a lot of things and possibly regretting your partner


make sense?

[neoh]

Originally Posted by justa~gurl

i don't think thats selfish.. i think thats level headed and honest

at this age you shouldn't be concentrating 100% on anyone but yourself..
if you happen to be in love or are in a relationship. then so be it.. as long as you let each other breath and do your own thing there is nothing selfish about it.. if you want it to work out.. then you gotta loosen up a little and go where you need to go to succeed in all areas of your life, otherwise you will end up regretting a lot of things and possibly regretting your partner


make sense?

of course.
i had things to do, so I broke it off with my fiance. It's just the way it was put makes it sound like she is miserable in a relashionship because he's the piano tied to her ass.

[tahiti__treat]

LOVE, n. A temporary insanity
yes.. that is definately what it is!

[mystique]

damn, looks like i should have called you back before i ate those percs neoh. sound like it would have been a most interesting conversation.

[Kelster]

Originally Posted by neoh

of course.
i had things to do, so I broke it off with my fiance. It's just the way it was put makes it sound like she is miserable in a relashionship because he's the piano tied to her ass.

if i were miserable i would break things off. but things are great, we rarely fight and he allows me to do whatever i want. i'm just saying that if i were to be single again in the near future, i would avoid a relationship until i'm ready to settle down.
like in most relationships there's a conflict of interest from time to time, (may it be one wanting to have a chill evening with the other while the other wants to go clubbing with friends, or one wanting to travel while the other has no interest in it at all) resolving it isn't a problem in my relationship but nobody likes to deal with shit like that.
as for the long distance relationship stuff, that's not my thing. i'm sure its worked before, but ask most the people who've gone through it, all i've heard was 'i will never go through this again!' i think it's a lil silly for people our age going a year+ being seperated from the person they're supposed to be in a relationship with. why would you want to put yourself through that? (fear of being cheated on, for the other person to fall out of love, watching everyone else being with their bf, being tied down yet with nobody too sleep with, fuck you, or hold you) for love? that's love that will most likely end. and too much stress for me.

[dabbler]

true dat.