How do you know?

[veN]

I have been where you are a couple times. Falling for friends happens and sometimes makes for amazing relationships. Sometimes when those relationships end, you lose the great friend you once had. But once feelings are in the picture to begin with, I find it's really hard to be "just friends" again anyways.

About 8 months ago I figured out my relationship with my ex (who started out being a friend) wasn't something I wanted to continue with, and I was able to realize that over time I'd developed feelings for the guy who is now my current boyfriend (we were also friends before). One night, I layed out all the cards on the table (I happened to have been really drunk, but hey), saying all the things I'd always wanted to say. Turns out he felt the same way about me. Now I'm in the best relationship of my life, and I wouldn't have done anything differently.

But hey, that's only my experience, and these other posts are only the experiences of others. You need to do what you heart is telling you to do. You'll figure it out soon enough hun. Good luck to you, no matter what you decide :)

[mugsy]

you shouldnt have to ask, you should know.
thats the super cheese of all cheese, but its true.
and in all honesty, kinda seems like you do know.

[Sniper]

Sounds like your in love.....good luck

[Sarah...]

Originally Posted by MangoJuice

but my problem is - I can't eat, I can't sleep, I can't talk to people or even do work, because whenever I go to do one of these things he is in my mind, and it is to the point where it's driving me nuts, I can not get work done (I work at a call center) because I may be talking to someone and he gets in my mind, and people talk to me like "hello?" "hello?" and I have to profusely apologise or make up some excuse.

now it is 2 the point where it has become mentally, physically and emotionaly exhausting to me, and now I am at a point where I just do not know what to do

am I in love with him?

I need some good advice!!! :(

THANK YOU!!

- Tamara

this is exactly why i dont let myself like anyone. i hate the feeling of being kinda obsessed and vulnerable. i hate liking people jus for this very reason.. that restless feeling...and when i act like i like the person it never goes the way it shoulda..
when i fall in love i fall HARD.
relationships are over rated.. Iv only had one good one in my life...

try not to let yourself feel so strong until u know how hes feelin about the situation

[ebbomega]

Originally Posted by ssarahh

this is exactly why i dont let myself like anyone.

Lemme know how that works out for ya.

[StiDzOfReNiA]

i think all u need 2 do is let him know how u feel. Like tell him str8 up, write him a letter, w/e. Maybe he's hesitating b-cuz he doesnt think u want him in that way... n he's afraid if he makes or move he'll offend u.
jus let him know... i bet he's all 4 it ---> thaz how i got my b/f
:379:

[ebbomega]

Originally Posted by StiDzOfReNiA

i think all u need 2 do is let him know how u feel. Like tell him str8 up, write him a letter, w/e. Maybe he's hesitating b-cuz he doesnt think u want him in that way... n he's afraid if he makes or move he'll offend u.
jus let him know... i bet he's all 4 it ---> thaz how i got my b/f
:379:

I refuse to take relationship advice from anybody who replaces words with numbers.

[wum]

Love is only a feeling
(Drifting away)
When I'm in your arms I start believing
(It's here to stay)
But love is only a feeling
Anyway

The state of elation that this unison of hearts achieved
I had seen, I had touched, I had tasted and I truly believed

That the light of my life
Would tear a hole right through each cloud that scudded by
Just to beam on you and I

[Alex_Johnson]

take a chance i think cause the best thing in ur life could be right in front of you! If you don't give up and quit, you'll never have anything to regret for the rest of your life."

[dabbler]

Originally Posted by ebbomega

I refuse to take relationship advice from anybody who replaces words with numbers.

HAHAHAHA

[wum]

We try, we struggle, all the time to find words to express our love. The quality, the quantity, certain that no two people have experienced it before in the history of creation. Perhaps Catherine and Heathcliff, perhaps Romeo and Juliet, maybe Tristan and Isolde, maybe Hero and Leander, but these are just characters, make-believe. We have known each other forever, since before conception even. We remember playing together in a playpen, crossing paths at F.A.O. Schwarz. We remember meeting in front of the Holy Temple in the days before Christ, we remember greeting each other at the Forum, at the Parthenon, on passing ships as Christopher Columbus sailed to America. We have survived a pogrom together, we have died in Dachau together, we have been lynched by the Ku Klux Klan together. There has been cancer, polio, the bubonic plague, consumption, morphine addiction. We have had children together, we have been children together, we were in the womb together. Our history is so deep and wide and long, we have known each other a million years. And we don't know how to express this kind of love, this kind of feeling.

I get paralyzed sometimes. One day, we are in the shower together and I want to say to him, I could be submerged in sixty feet water right now, never drowning, never even fearing drowning, knowing I would always be safe with you here, knowing that it would be okay to die as long as you are here. I want to say this but I don't.

~ Prozac Nation by Elizabeth Wurtzel

[MangoJuice]

so much good advice here, and i'm taking it all in.

I think what I'm going to do is wait it out, then when the moment is right I'll just kiss him and tell him I love him, in the middle of a sentence completely random, and if he takes it, then we will see where that goes

If he doesent, then I have loved lost and learned.

[dabbler]

i'd be surprised if that didn't work. :)

[MangoJuice]

if it doesent work I'm going to be mad!!! :)

[neoh]

Originally Posted by MangoJuice

so much good advice here, and i'm taking it all in.

I think what I'm going to do is wait it out, then when the moment is right I'll just kiss him and tell him I love him, in the middle of a sentence completely random, and if he takes it, then we will see where that goes

If he doesent, then I have loved lost and learned.

that's a wicked way of doing it

do it in the middle of a sentence like, at a grocery store picking out the cheapest salsa or something totally fucking random.

it'll blow them away.

[MangoJuice]

yeah, that is the plan!!

[Kelster]

Originally Posted by MangoJuice

If he doesent, then I have loved lost and learned.

watch out, you may also lose a friend!

but it'd be pretty weak of him if he ran because of this. good luck! that's something i don't have the balls too do.