little sisters...

[veN]

you wanna keep them from making mistakes,
from getting hurt,
from getting their heart broken.

you watch them struggle to do things themselves,
to prove themselves independent,
to show that they can do it "their way".

you want the to know that you love them,
and appreciate them,
and would do anything for them.

(but a lot of the time...)

you find them too much to handle,
too much to worry about,
too different from you.

you think the only way you can help is to fix things
to change things,
to do things "your way".

(but that doesn't really work...)

you feel more like a third parent than a friend sometimes,
like you don't know what hat to wear,
like you haven't got it figured out yourself.

and if I feel like this, I can't imagine what it feels like to be the little sister...

[mugsy]

im a little sister and most of the time i feel like a big sister.

[Liqwid]

i seriously thought you were talking about the book store on davie...

but nice!

~dalyn

[veN]

Originally Posted by mugsy

im a little sister and most of the time i feel like a big sister.

maybe it's just a "sister" thing then...

[decypher]

parents and siblings always have this dilemma. The best thing to do is just let them run their own lives, give them advice, make sure they don't become crackheads. Thats being a good sis. Be a friend and supportive.

[veN]

^ Thanks Kam *hugs*

[Miss T]

I'm a big sister and my sis is 6 years younger than me so I can totally relate!

[baby-phat]

I only have a brother (and a half brother).. always wanted a sister though.
And being the oldest I've always been kinda over-protective of him. I'm just glad he's not into the same things as me. I'd prob wanna kick his ass if I ever saw him at a rave or doing drugs. He's a smart kid, and I think he's got great direction so I don't wanna see _anything_ change that. :)

[decypher]

It's all about change of perspective. As people grow older, they are far more distant from the days of when they were young and crazy. They think that because they went through some weird and scary times that they need to tell the younger person to not do certain things to avoid such situations. Thing is, you can't tell someone that. Give the younger person some credit and just watch out to make sure they don't go overboard with whatever they are doing. When someone is in a rough situation they push away the people who just come down on them hard. What they need is a friend who will listen and give advice. Someone who they can think about before making hard decisions.

[veN]

^ See I was never a teenager. I never had that mentality. I never thought the world hated me, or that I was invincible, or that I had something to prove. I never had conflict with my parents. I was always an old soul... And I think that's why I have so much trouble relating to her... I think we are so different anyways that even if I had gone thru rough teen/young adult years, I wouldn't understand her still...

[decypher]

Well all those angst filled years helps shape who you are today. Just know she will be alright and just be there for her.

[veN]

^thanks Kam. It's hard, but I'll try.

[charly]

^ i'm with you on the old soul thing. i was the little sister, but quite often felt like the big one.

you can't change them, or make them do anything..
all you can do it be there for her when shit comes falling down.
be that non-judgemental shoulder for her to cry on..

you may not understand her, she may not understand you.. but you're sisters. you have that bond with her that you'll never have with anyone else. you won't always get along, but that's okay. things tend to get better as you get older. you both grow to a point where you aren't so different. she won't be an angsty teen forever.

just offer up good advice, but don't be pushy.
she'll fall, and she'll need you at some point, even if she won't be able to say it, or ask you. but you'll probably know.

and don't forget to hug her and tell her that you love her.

[Disco_Whore]

Let her know you care, and that your'e there for her. But other than that do stand back and let her make mistakes and learn from them. The last thing a little sister wants is yet another parent.

[cubed]

I have a younger brother who is 15 years younger than me.

Now just imagine what I go through.

[veN]

^ Haha, no kidding. You win!

[IntakE]

I have a younger sister, she's 3 years yonger then I am and I know exactly how you feel. Im so protective it isnt even funny. At the same time we fight because she thinks Im to protective and I try and back off but I dont want her hurt or anything. Hopefully one day she'll understand I was only trying to help.

[Moon]

i'm the youngest in the family... it woulda been cool to have a younger bro or sister. i can't imagine what that would be like

[mindgurl]

little sisters are SO frustrating

i want to be the cool older sister but then when i seeing her doing things that are bad I wnt to make her stop

[galaxie]

Originally Posted by Nev

^ See I was never a teenager. I never had that mentality. I never thought the world hated me, or that I was invincible, or that I had something to prove. I never had conflict with my parents. I was always an old soul... And I think that's why I have so much trouble relating to her... I think we are so different anyways that even if I had gone thru rough teen/young adult years, I wouldn't understand her still...

Totally on the same page.

My bro is so immature, I just want him to grow up already and realize his potential!

Unfortunately, I can't force him so I just try to support him and put my two-cents in where it's needed.

<3

[charly]

i think everyone should go hug their brothers/sisters and tell them you love them.
even if you don't get along all the time, appreciate the fact that they are there..

[galaxie]

^ Mine would yell at me.
That, or get really weirded out.
LOL

[veN]

Originally Posted by charly

i think everyone should go hug their brothers/sisters and tell them you love them.
even if you don't get along all the time, appreciate the fact that they are there..

Told her last night, complete with a hug.

We're getting there...

[robyn]

Originally Posted by charly

i think everyone should go hug their brothers/sisters and tell them you love them.
even if you don't get along all the time, appreciate the fact that they are there..

Way to rub my only child status all in my face :(

[charly]

Originally Posted by robyn

Way to rub my only child status all in my face :(

it's ok robyn. we still love you.

nev - hurrah! :)

nat - do it anyways! sometimes it's fun to weird them out. heh